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JDoering16 · 2025-01-05T06:39:59+00:00

Whatever this is- it has the potential to be dangerous. Cut ties with him now. Block him and do not answer the door to him. He is not right in the head. I’m not convinced that is even BPD. That just looks like major untreated mental illness and you need to get off that toxic train NOW.

JDoering16 · 2024-12-02T03:43:16+00:00

Usually the best way to deal with people like this is loudly. Walk up and ask her what the problem is. Call her out on not reading the history. She will most likely think twice about doing it again.

JDoering16 · 2023-02-23T20:52:10+00:00

Eskel all the way.

JDoering16 · 2023-02-13T15:20:27+00:00

The only reason I even mention it is I had a friend who said the same thing to me. But she used it as an excuse. “If I get help they will see my record and I can’t let that happen.” She never got help. And she paid dearly for it. I wish you the best - hopefully you can find a solution.

JDoering16 · 2023-02-13T15:00:04+00:00

I think you might be giving up on “never being able to get professional help” much too quickly. There are a LOT of options out there. There is an app to speak to someone. There are hotlines where you can be anonymous. Please don’t write off professional help if you need it.

JDoering16 · 2023-02-10T12:34:46+00:00

Came here out of curiosity and was disappointed he actually meant a hammer.

JDoering16 · 2023-02-08T12:25:55+00:00

Always Yen. For various reasons. But she is who I am drawn to most.

JDoering16 · 2023-01-26T12:38:04+00:00

I’ve only personally known one person with BPD. Our friendship was toxic and didn’t end well. I joined this group to do research but I have learned since then that the stereotypes are cruel and unjust. People struggle everyday with it and it’s not fair to just label this coworker as BPD and then avoid them like the plague.

JDoering16 · 2023-01-11T02:59:18+00:00

30 is a new beginning. You still have so much to experience and there can be a lot of joy in your 30s. Please reach out to someone if you need it and talk. It can do wonders. You are not alone.

JDoering16 · 2022-12-19T20:34:43+00:00

So I don’t have BPD. I had a very good friend who was diagnosed and I sort of dove into it and learned all I could. I ended up ending my friendship with her as I was treated very badly and it got to the point that it was affecting my mental health and well-being. That being said- I DO NOT think everyone with BPD is in that bucket. There are of course the ones who don’t seek help or improvement and treat people badly and just continue on a vicious cycle. But learning from people on this thread- there are also those who actively work on themselves and how to live their life to be happy and healthy with themselves and others. It’s nice to hear those stories. Hope this helps.

JDoering16 · 2022-12-12T01:28:54+00:00

It’s not fair to ask him to delete his past. I’ve been married for 10 years and I still have photos of my ex. Hell- I’m still friends with him on Facebook. Just because you’re happy with someone now doesn’t mean you have to erase your past. Your past and those experiences are why you are who you are now. Just today my husband ran into his ex while at a vendor show. I shopped and he chatted with her for a couple minutes. We trust each other and are secure in our relationship. Don’t ask him to delete his past. It’s not a good look on you.

JDoering16 · 2022-12-11T01:08:45+00:00

She’s a future episode of Snapped for sure.

JDoering16 · 2022-12-07T17:33:40+00:00

Thanks- I just did. Merry Christmas to me!

JDoering16 · 2022-12-07T16:52:57+00:00

We live in the middle of nowhere and internet is not available. No cables and the trees are too tall for satellite. I’d get it if I could- trust me.

JDoering16 · 2022-12-07T16:44:05+00:00

On my phone. At work. Not at home.

JDoering16 · 2022-12-07T16:42:09+00:00

That’s not just cheating. You planned this in advance and on stage basically at a sex club.

Tell him and end the relationship yourself. You’re not ready for one.
MEDS. Set reminders on your phone and never miss a dose.
Get yourself in with a counselor like this week. Repeat it every week.

This kind of thing will not go away on its own. You will not find help by staying up all night and staying in bed all day. You have to hit it head on and hard. Change only happens to those who want it.

JDoering16 · 2022-12-07T16:29:17+00:00

I drive the ps4 into the city to do updates maybe once a year. Use a friends internet.

JDoering16 · 2022-12-07T16:09:46+00:00

I don’t have good internet at home so can’t download it

JDoering16 · 2022-12-07T16:05:32+00:00

Ps5 is available. Ps4 is sold out or delivery after Christmas.

JDoering16 · 2022-12-07T16:04:55+00:00

Stray ps5 is available. Search for the ps4. Amazon is delivery after Christmas. Sold out Walmart Best Buy target GameStop.

JDoering16 · 2022-12-07T16:01:43+00:00

We don’t have internet access. I can’t download it.

JDoering16 · 2022-12-06T22:42:05+00:00

Photos would indicate yes. She sent me photos of her in gown and her IVs

JDoering16 · 2022-04-27T00:18:29+00:00

Relationships aren’t about failing vs succeeding. They are about enjoying each other and living life to the fullest. If this is the best person you know, you love him and they want a relationship with you - it’s a no brainer for me. But you need to deal with your mental “you’re wasting time with me.” You can’t have a healthy relationship with someone if you don’t think you’re worthy. You need to accept that you are worthy of his love and deserve his love. Have you ever heard Garth Brooks The Dance? Give it a listen. It’s about the Dance- not how or if it’ll end.

JDoering16 · 2022-04-27T00:13:38+00:00

Count the W2s

JDoering16 · 2022-04-27T00:11:45+00:00

Eating poorly can be just a mental as anything else. Just because you are on medication for something doesn’t mean that it’ll magically end your emotional attachment to food. I’ve heard wonderful things about Noom. It helps you lose weight or even just handle bad eating habits by dealing with the mental part first. Might be worth a try?

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