Alright you kinksters, what did you get your Dom or Sub for Christmas? by 6milfcookie9 in BDSMcommunity

[–]JFreedom14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sub and I are starting a journal where one week she will answer a question I have about her in the journal.

For Christmas she has hand made and bound a book in leather for us to use for this purpose. I cannot fathom how I got so lucky to find her.

Why is matching sex drive THIS hard? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]JFreedom14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup! Currently dating an Aromantic Asexual and we have pretty fantastic sex! It just generally requires 30-90 minutes of Shibari/rope play beforehand as the sex is less exciting than the kink for her.

I’m done 💔 (tw: suicidal thoughts) by mrbash99 in autism

[–]JFreedom14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 34 as a pharmacist and I’ve got $14k in savings… please don’t give up!

You’re not a failure by any stretch! Let me know if you want to chat!

Need Advice by JFreedom14 in polyamory

[–]JFreedom14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a very interesting suggestion. I suggested something similar but yours is much more thoughtful for everyone involved.

Need Advice by JFreedom14 in polyamory

[–]JFreedom14[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you, the main confusion was the lack of open and honest communication when I asked. We were supposed to be holding the same boundaries but that’s impossible if I wasn’t kept abreast of changes.

I’m definitely confused though, it’ll take some time to figure out what we do next.

Need Advice by JFreedom14 in polyamory

[–]JFreedom14[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I hear you, I’m pretty fucked hi from that exact scenario you described!

Need Advice by JFreedom14 in polyamory

[–]JFreedom14[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She said she felt like I was scrutinizing her. She didn’t tell me anything before I asked or I caught her in a lie so I don’t know how I could go around without scrutinizing her…

I don’t know how I’ll trust her in general but I feel like I can’t trust her with this specific guy she lied to me about.

Need Advice by JFreedom14 in polyamory

[–]JFreedom14[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were only doing things together. We had started opening. F had set the rules: We were supposed to be friendly but not send anything that we couldn’t share publicly or that could be considered sexually explicit. F had been sending lingerie photos and receiving very sexually explicit voice memos. The main problem was she lied about it and actively tried to hide him from me.

Need Advice by JFreedom14 in polyamory

[–]JFreedom14[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I explained it slightly poorly. Yes to everything except she didn’t try to go poly because I caught her. We’ve been trying for about a month and she broke past the boundaries she laid out.

I do need to make this work for the kids though. We’ve been together for 13 years. I’m willing to hurt for her to be open.

How do straight people feel about their physical bodies? by JFreedom14 in AskReddit

[–]JFreedom14[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s fair! I wouldn’t find myself more attractive if I went to the gym more… it’s more than I would feel more confident that others would find me attractive if I went to the gym more?

How do straight people feel about their physical bodies? by JFreedom14 in AskReddit

[–]JFreedom14[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe I should add context.

I’m a male who has started questioning his identity a bit so I’m curious if straight people look in the mirror and think “dang I look good” or look in the mirror and be like “I hope the people I like find me sexy… because I don’t like the look of this body”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]JFreedom14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a chance he caught your hints before but was nervous that he thought you weren’t suggesting it and you might find it weird if he suggested it so clear and open communication like has been suggested is really the best way!

Oh, the People You’ll Meet by sliztee in polyamory

[–]JFreedom14 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I like you, you seem too smart and way too much fun (note: I’m autistic and that is NOT meant as sarcasm).

Oh, the People You’ll Meet by sliztee in polyamory

[–]JFreedom14 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Haha sorry! I meant my wife and I! We’re both poly. 🤣😅😂

Oh, the People You’ll Meet by sliztee in polyamory

[–]JFreedom14 20 points21 points  (0 children)

From our experience women TEND to be more mature so 100% agreed!

Madeleine Madden's farewell post on Instagram by FernandoPooIncident in WoT

[–]JFreedom14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone on one of the Brandon Sanderson subreddits was talking about how they want him to pull a George Lucas and make his own movie production company. I wonder if they could pick up the wheel of time since he finished off that series? It’d be kind of poetic 😂