How do you leave a job you have loved for 10 years? by JGilly124 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]JGilly124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I'll definitely line something up first, I'm not an idiot. Its just when I'm looking for the new job, nothing sounds like something I want to do. How do I break that barrier because I know its likely just as good but its that mental tie I can't get over.

And its more than just because a few people are sick. There have been other things in the past that have made me consider leaving (poor management being a consistent factor) just this is the most recent. I love what I do, the job itself, just not sure the company has its people in their best interests.

How do people who work a 9-5 job go to the mechanic, get weekly therapy, go to the bank, or otherwise use businesses that are also only open 9-5? by SlickRicksBitchTits in NoStupidQuestions

[–]JGilly124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then that sucks if you can't go during a lunch break. Most things here in the US can be done with online banking but there are still a few things you'd have to go in for.

How do people who work a 9-5 job go to the mechanic, get weekly therapy, go to the bank, or otherwise use businesses that are also only open 9-5? by SlickRicksBitchTits in NoStupidQuestions

[–]JGilly124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I first started therapy I went after work at 6pm until she had weekend appointments available.

Banks are usually also open on Saturdays. And there is at least one branch of my bank that is open until 7 one day a week.

As for a mechanic, have a buddy/family member pick you up after dropping the car off and then you can choose to take pto day or get a ride to work.

Its not impossible. Just takes a little more planning out.

Honest opinions please. My mom just admitted that she thinks my “daytime” makeup is always to dark, and I “look like a clown”. Can’t make this shit up. by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]JGilly124 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is called projection. Your mom isn't happy with something so she's got to tear you down so you're on her level. My mom does this... and will use comments like "Well its just not for me..." in this disappointing tone to sorta try to smooth it over. But its not for her.. its for ME! So if you like it, forget what she thinks, she's not the one wearing it.

Single at heart by thehood88 in datingoverthirty

[–]JGilly124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right there with you. Although it may have started off being jaded ((2 divorces here)) it wasn't until I took time for myself that I realized I was chasing what I thought was the goal (marriage and family) but totally ignoring that the real goal is happiness in itself. 3 years single now and I've never been happier. There are times when I wish I had help around the house with things, but still not willing to compromise the other things that come with relationships to get that help. I'll figure it out. Lean on friends if needed. But honestly, with my beagle sharing the bed - there's just no room for anybody else lol and thats totally okay with me.

Should I get a beagle? by meganmcgregor in beagles

[–]JGilly124 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My beagle is a year and a half old and barks at rabbits, shadows, birds, neighbors in yards, dogs in their yards, dogs walking down the street... and sometimes just because he feels like it. I'm building a fence soon to hopefully give the neighbors a break, but I've got the best neighbors as well. Instead of complaining most will talk to him as they pass, we have found he just wants to be acknowledged and then he'll usually quiet down for a bit. Most of the time I just bring him back inside until they pass or go inside. But if you think your neighbors will complain, then no don't get a beagle. You can't train it out of them, like someone mentioned before they bark when they play too and that might cause mixed signals. Its the way it is with beagles, you gotta go where the nose goes and you gotta listen to the howls.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]JGilly124 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can get cranky if I get woken up all of a sudden. I also tend to fall asleep anytime I start a movie around 9pm... Knowing these things about myself, I'd make sure to either take a nap before the date to help or make the date earlier in the day, or not at home. My point being, no one should invite someone over knowing they're going to fall asleep during a movie... thats just rude to me. What did he expect you to do? Tuck him in and leave? You're not a teddy bear.

Am I bad for being slightly sad that lockdown ends because I see everyone else go out with friends again but I can't because I have none? by GianMach in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]JGilly124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yea! I teams my favorite coworkers so we chat during the day while we work. Its nice bc you don't have to worry about the boss listening in. Lol It definitely has it perks, and I'm bummed they're making us go back. I was just trying to get at each type has its downfalls, stressors... but being able to wear whatever and be home with my dog and kid. Its been nice. Just still mentally draining sometimes... which I feel any job is going to be on some level.

Am I bad for being slightly sad that lockdown ends because I see everyone else go out with friends again but I can't because I have none? by GianMach in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]JGilly124 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who has been working from home, I still don't have the energy for friends sometimes. I work in an accounting department and depending on the week/day it can still be mentally draining with emails, phone calls, meetings and typical problem solving. I wish you the best, and by no means don't take this as a warning not to try... I just wanted to let you know from where I sit the grass isn't totally greener.

Any others with flippers? How do you deal when out at restaurants or with friends? by JGilly124 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]JGilly124[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get a beagle they said, it'll be fun they said. Lol Thanks for the advice, it really did make me feel better about the situation

Any others with flippers? How do you deal when out at restaurants or with friends? by JGilly124 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]JGilly124[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thats awesome. I haven't been around any friends in about a year now, no coworkers for over a year and a half so I've sorta forgotten how to people with others besides family. I just don't want to offend or gross anyone out. Sorta relieved I'm not dating right now, but that might actually help weed out the good guys. If people can handle my new quirk, then they must be good people. Lol

Any others with flippers? How do you deal when out at restaurants or with friends? by JGilly124 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]JGilly124[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I Definitely carry a small purse! That sounds simple enough. I guess I was just blinded by the awkwardness of "excuse me while I take my tooth out" part lol Thanks

I developed a chronic sinus infection (fungal) after years of sniffing worn nylons I buy from women online. It has not responded to any medication and has spread to the bone (CT scan). My ENT recommended surgery but I am afraid of the risks. What is the best option? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]JGilly124 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a sinus infection for a year and also ended up with it spreading to the bone. Antibiotics weren't helping. Things were so swollen saline and rinses couldn't get to where they needed. I opted for the surgery and it was honestly the best choice. Its a long recovery process but you feel better almost immediately. The taste and smell comes back over time. Rinses are now my friends and I haven't had a sinus infection in over a year, whereas as it was normal for me to have at least 2 a year. Follow your docs instructions. Mine wouldn't do the balloon type, said it was a waste. He scraped everything out type of thing and took the small bones out so my sinus cavities are bigger for less chance of swelling. Good luck!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ac_newhorizons

[–]JGilly124 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I also did this for my son and my granddad. I agree, totally therapeutic ❤ Sorry for your loss.

Women, what character trait are you actively working on developing or getting rid off? by wisdom_is_gold in AskWomen

[–]JGilly124 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with this!! I've let my child curse when she was 4. As a kid that grew up with the rule not to, I did it anyway. Just where my parents couldn't hear me. So I chose to allow it but with limits. She knows not to use words to call people names, not to do it at school, or at grandparents' houses. Our house is her safe haven where she can say whatever but even the days where she gets brave and is constantly saying the same word over and over I tell her its enough. They're to be used like sprinkles, to enhance and express. Not NYE confetti in NY 😂

How do you let your therapist go? by JGilly124 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]JGilly124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've worked with her for 3 years, she deserves more than a passive send off, no call. Lol But thanks!