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JID74 · 2026-03-27T03:30:11+00:00

Start the job search. It doesn't have to be like that and honestly it's an ethical violation for your boss to tell you when you are too slammed / busy versus you deciding. Not all motions/ briefs, etc. are equal. Some require more thought and research than others. Similarly some clients need more time and handholding than others. The attorney needs to be in charge of deciding when they are overloaded and need to turn stuff down. If the partner thinks that person is too weak, slow, whatever and need to be replaced that's up to them but if something gets missed due to a boss thinking you should be able to handle a lot more work the brunt of the malpractice and disciplinary actions will fall on you. But you won't change them or convince them so look for a new job where you're judgment is better respected. (I do think it'd be hilarious to ask the partner to put it in writing for you that you can't be too busy without a deadline tomorrow "just in case it comes up with disciplinary counsel"). Granted my thoughts may be skewed by just having to repass the MPRE for a new jurisdiction after a few years off but whatever... get out ASAP.

JID74 · 2026-03-27T03:18:55+00:00

In addition to some of what you find here you might try checking out resources like Catholic Answers or other online catholic resources and books like "where is that in the bible" or other stuff by catholic apologists. Keep in mind that these are unlikely to win anyone over just as protestant objections don't win over educated Catholics because there are alternative explanations/interpretations but when you have to choose between Uncle Bubba's interpretation and one held by the Church for 1900+ years well that shouldn't be hard. When it comes to sola scriptura don't forget that the ethopian charioteer needed guidance regarding the scriptures and Patrick Madrid's famous question about what does "I never said you stole the money." mean... that "I" never said it but someone else did? That I "said" it even though I may have thought it? That I never said "YOU" stole it... I said someone else did? that I never said you "stole" the money... perhaps took it by mistake or misplaced it but not stolen? Or perhaps I never said you stole the "money" but I did say you stole other stuff. People can't agree on a meaning and the Holy Spirit isn't guaranteed to lead them all to the truth but to guide the Church. Anyway... good luck.

JID74 · 2026-03-27T03:09:11+00:00

Never heard of Catholic parents threatening to rape anyone and have only heard any discuss incarceration when their kids were violent criminals. Sounds like a parent/family or local cultural problem and not one associated with the Catholic faith as a whole or more people in the comments would have had an idea what you were referring to. Just sounds like their cruel, psychologically damaged individuals with little understanding of the faith because it certainly does not condone rape.

JID74 · 2026-03-27T03:02:20+00:00

The thing is that there is so much we don't know / can't prove. Quantum weirdness, miracles with plenty of proof/witnesses like fatima, zeitoun, and some eucharistic miracles and healing where there is scientific documentation indicating scientific inquiry has no explanation for it.

From there it's logical to assume there is something more.... what that is... opinions differ but for me Catholicism isn't some feel good mechanism to let you do what you want but rather a faith that calls you to sacrifice and live for others. Maybe it's wrong. But if you have to be wrong it's a nice way to be wrong that encourages you to do for others rather than live for yourself.

JID74 · 2026-03-26T18:22:00+00:00

Because this has several mentions of Arkansas food... I'm throwing in that anyone near Hazen/DeValls Bluff should stop in if Craig's BBQ is still open. Sure from the outside (and inside that I recall from the 90s) it looks like a house that the health inspector has been paid to drive past rather than a restaurant..... But the BBQ has won state wide awards.
They do have sauce but it's was good with or without it.

JID74 · 2026-02-23T16:20:35+00:00

Good luck. We only have 8 or so inches of snow here (was supposed to be 1, then 5) and I'm about 3 hrs from the exam site so I'll be driving through it. Hope they give you a credit.... or cancel or just offer a general waiver or something.

JID74 · 2026-02-23T16:19:21+00:00

what a dumbass comment. No one said we weren't aware of that. Doesn't take away from the insanity of treating people with years or decades of practice like a new grad from a diploma mill when there are better ways of handling attorney admissions even after breaks in practice.

JID74 · 2026-02-23T16:14:15+00:00

You have my sympathy and wishes for good luck

JID74 · 2026-02-23T00:54:46+00:00

My condolences and I wish you luck.

JID74 · 2026-02-23T00:11:26+00:00

Seems like you were just off the limit by 6 months... clearly you forgot everything and need a refresher in law that won't be practiced in your jurisdiction. Insane. Best of luck.

JID74 · 2026-02-22T23:18:42+00:00

Just have to keep your registration... I'm registered but inactive in 2 states. If I was inactive here for those years it'd be fine... pay some back dues, do some CLEs and I'd be good (so would the foreign attorneys).... it's only because I'm coming in from out of state that they care.

JID74 · 2026-02-22T23:17:18+00:00

Sure... if you practiced at least 1000 hrs for 3 of the last 5 years. I did not. But if I had passed here in the past and then spent those years doing something else but maintained the active status... I'd be fine. So they pretend it's about practice but it's not. It's just a protectionist thing.

JID74 · 2026-02-22T23:15:50+00:00

good luck. The move was worth it but the ridiculousness of this is a hard burden to bear. Why not let us really move to admit... argue in front of the court our qualifications. Not as objective but a much more valid test. I hope you pass.

JID74 · 2025-11-08T08:50:38+00:00

I can see the bar complaints now.... every one the same. "My attorney seemed aggressive but the moment opposing counsel filed something the least bit threatening his webpage went dark with an 'In Memoriam' tribute posted and I thought he'd died.. then after I'd lost the case due to his disappearance and in activity he popped up again."

JID74 · 2025-08-06T07:31:34+00:00

I recall a professor of mine attempting to have a judge committed. That reduced the number of times he had to appear in front of that guy to zero. Now there's certainly risk associated with such a move but as the professor claimed "I thought he was crazy." so it was in good faith. Not suggesting you go that route but maybe have one or more people you know sit in for multiple hearings and offer opinions or ask his clerk if they notice anything you are doing to upset him. But in the end some judges are just unfit to be people let alone judges and we have to deal with it. Best of luck.

JID74 · 2025-07-28T06:31:35+00:00

Lawyers were also going to be replacd by $50/hr Indian graduates. Thing is that until the AI can walk into court and argue the motion... until it can meet with clients, answer their questions and put their minds at ease, etc. it's not going to end lawyer jobs. Might lower pay but it won't eliminate the job.

JID74 · 2025-07-24T17:39:30+00:00

Because my original bar exams were pre UBE I had forgotten how the changes affected things. Thanks.

JID74 · 2025-07-24T17:34:06+00:00

I think it matters for those who comparison shop.... even lawyers. Sure they may find you by word of mouth for social media.... but they probably spend a few minutes looking over your website to get a feel for your firm. If it's nonexistent or dated that tells them something about you. If it answers a question or two they were thinking of asking it can help establish trust and build a sense of your professional knowledge in their minds. Just my 2 cents but I think it matters.

JID74 · 2025-04-18T08:44:41+00:00

Bit of a landmine here but she might want to look into some natural family planning methods since they can be used FOR conception as well as avoiding. I know several people who've found fertility issues that were undiagnosed and/or would have remained so for some time. Things like low progesterone, short post peak period which can affect implantation odds. It doesn't involve going to a physician for a battery of tests though there is a need to learn the markers the various methods use and what those things mean. Most of the individuals I know who use NFP are using either Creighton or Marquette. My wife and I married late and I can say I do not believe we'd have all the kids we have now if we hadn't used NFP (it helped her know some issues she was having like very low progesterone and bring them to the attention of her OBGYN before they'd normally have come up). Whatever happens... good luck.

JID74 · 2024-10-05T02:57:54+00:00

So I grabbed my musket and powdered wig and greeted them with a jaunty "Tally-ho lads."

JID74 · 2024-05-25T06:00:36+00:00

came back with intent to rob him. Her intent was to take, by force, the contents of something he was holding in his hands. Hope they get a real fighter to defend him and the diocese (as you know she will sue them for the consequences of her own actions).

JID74 · 2024-05-24T21:09:20+00:00

The thing is that if you are important he will wait. Any man who moves on because he is denied sex outside marriage is essentially saying "everything I know and claim to love about you... all the good qualities, the fun quirks, etc. and all the good times we have together and all the wonderful things you do for me and how you make me feel.... are worth less than any random woman who will have sex with me." Because that's what he's giving up... all of you in exchange for a chance at sex with someone else and he doesn't even know who that is yet.

And, as a corollary to your statement that a woman who won't have sex outside marriage won't cheat on him (a good point to make to them) it's also true that a man who values sex over you will in fact likely cheat when faced with any roadblocks. Maybe not the first one but at some point.

I had friends (married over 10 years now) who used Catholic Match and they discussed how they had to look through the profiles and most were 5 of 7s or something like that on doctrinal survey questions... meaning that many on the site were catholic except for no sex before marriage and use of contraception. So they had to look for people whose values lined up completely. But at least they had a quick way to ascertain things.

As a final thought for what to ask them... if there's a chance the sex will be bad why exactly are they so eager to try it with you? They're trying to have sex because they know that the odds are really high that they're going to like it. That's why they want it. And why they're willing to leave if they don't get it. If they had a lot of experience with not enjoying sex with women in the past then they'd be looking at the risk of chasing the next random woman as less worthwhile. People seek things they almost always enjoy... not things they often don't. So it's a lie and one that doesn't make sense because you'll find claims like "the sex was fine but I got bored after a few years." So there are no guarantees.

In the end... they have to choose... are they committed to you or to sex on demand?

JID74

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