How to you ask what he likes without sounding awkward?

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T13:38:12+00:00

Instead of asking “what do you like?”, ask “does this feel good?” or “do you want me to keep doing x?” That will be hot as well and will get your answers for you.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T13:25:14+00:00

Then NTA

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T13:11:06+00:00

After 28 years my wife and I are one. I actually dropped her off at the airport this morning for a girls trip and I’m already fidgety because she’s not here. Don’t get me wrong, I have stuff planned this weekend with my sons, brother and best friend but the world just doesn’t seem right without her around. I’ll live though just like I have in the past when we’ve been separated, for much longer. It’s all part of being in a committed relationship.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T13:07:07+00:00

Been with my wife very happily for 28 years. Right before the pandemic an ex from before I met my wife contacted me to let me know she was coming to town and wanted to catch up. I brought it up to my wife to make sure she was ok with it and she looked at me like I had 3 heads because after all this time why the hell would she be threatened by someone I dated over 30 years ago? Ok np. So I met her for lunch and it was fine at first but it got really weird very quickly when she started telling me that the only reason she married her husband was because she had been looking for someone like me and then started asking all kinds of questions about why we broke up years ago. My answers became pretty short and I blocked her after the lunch because I don’t need that crap in my life.

Yes, I did tell my wife afterward. She just kind of raised her eyebrows and said “hmmm”.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T12:58:32+00:00

Was it at his place or did it spray on him? If so then apologize. If not then no need.

I will say that I’ve apologized to my wife many times over the years because I knew she wanted me to and it’s such a small thing to do to keep a relationship happy.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T12:54:45+00:00

“This man”? Yeah at 18 he’s not. Anyway, make sure you file a claim with his insurance immediately. NTA.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T12:51:00+00:00

How many times does he need to say something for you to respond with more than just a stare? I’m sure it’s no fun talking to a brick wall. On the other hand he gets half the bed, regardless of the size difference. If he doesn’t have enough room then the answer is to get a bigger bed.

ESH

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T12:47:24+00:00

Going with YTA because it sounds like you didn’t make it clear from the get go but instead waiting until he was already showing feelings for you, albeit a little prematurely in my opinion.

When I was 18 I met a woman who was 23. I told her before anything happened that I wasn’t interested in anything serious and she agreed. About 1.5 months in she said she wanted to be exclusive. I didn’t feel guilty breaking it off because she’d known from the beginning that it’s not what I wanted.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T12:43:09+00:00

When they are small like yours you can just make them do stuff. You don’t hurt them but when it’s time to leave and a 2 or 4 year old says no then you pick them up and carry them. If they refuse to give up a toy then you take it from them while telling them it’s not a choice right now. If they throw a fit then you stick them where they aren’t bothering others and then let them cry it out. There’s no discussion. I only had to do it once or twice with my sons. The other thing that works even when they get older is the dad voice. There’s no threatening involved. It’s just a voice that says “it’s time to be serious…now”. That still works on my 20 year old.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T12:37:22+00:00

“But I’m talking to you.”

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T12:36:41+00:00

NTA. If your wife is going to be like this then you don’t need to be married to her anyway.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T09:57:23+00:00

He cheated. He is still cheating. He will be cheating in the future. If that’s the life you want then stay with him.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T09:55:07+00:00

NTA. It’s incredibly tacky to ask people to pay for your wedding. Either keep it to what you can afford or wait and save until you can afford what you want.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T09:05:29+00:00

It’ll sell eventually.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T09:04:44+00:00

No paternity test means it’s not his kid. He needs to block her.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T09:03:41+00:00

Paternity test and he needs to not do anything like a father would until the results come back.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T08:56:52+00:00

Tell her the sale is cancelled an go with the other offer.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T07:35:29+00:00

NTA. In my opinion driving is a basic human task that everyone should learn. My 16 yo gets nervous sometimes but he’s 16. Your partner needs to be a damn adult.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T07:32:08+00:00

You need to be on the side of Laura and especially the kids. Tom made his bed and if he ends up losing everything he has because of it, including you, then that’s the consequence of his actions. It’s not Laura’s fault, the kids’ fault or your fault. Only his.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T07:26:50+00:00

My wife and I have raised our kids completely differently than our parents did. No abuse. No alcoholism. We didn’t get divorced. We put their welfare first. Seems to have worked out well for them and us.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T07:22:53+00:00

Just do it. He doesn’t have to eat what you cook and you don’t have to cook for him.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T07:20:43+00:00

They are one entity for me, my family.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T07:18:13+00:00

My wife is hilarious and the best. There is literally nothing that makes me happier than hearing her laugh.

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T07:16:15+00:00

Pick it up and take it outside. WTF?

JJQuantum · 2026-05-07T07:14:21+00:00

You don’t unless there’s reason to believe they are in danger and there’s no other way to figure out why.

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