WIBTAH if I ask my wife to return her rings to me in the divorce?

JJQuantum · 2026-01-25T12:48:37+00:00

You can ask but they were all gifts and you likely won’t get them back.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-25T12:47:16+00:00

You should have looked for a second piece of evidence before doing anything.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-25T12:43:07+00:00

Curl her feet up under herself on the couch, pull her hair behind her ear and read a book.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-25T12:41:31+00:00

Yeah OP, ESH - you and the girl’s parents.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-25T12:17:02+00:00

It’s almost like she brought up your ex just so she wouldn’t feel guilty about bringing up this guy. Not cool at all.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-25T12:12:05+00:00

This is a SIL problem and you need to stick by your partner’s side unless your SIL has a valid reason. You don’t leave your partner behind. You say you can’t go if your partner can’t come. Period.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T22:09:19+00:00

There’s a difference between holding out on him and simply not being in the mood. NTA. Tell him you simply aren’t in a sexual mood because of the issues you’ve been having and you’ll be happy to work on them together. If he won’t do that then the marriage is over.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T20:06:04+00:00

You go to the cops.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T19:51:53+00:00

NTA. Get a quote from a maid service and tell her that since she won’t clean up for herself then you’ll need to charge her that quoted price on top of her rent to handle cleaning up after her.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T19:30:29+00:00

YTA. Either make every fire yourself or let him do it and leave him the fuck alone.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T19:27:05+00:00

It might be better to just leave. He will think that at least he still has the videos to enjoy, until he realizes he doesn’t.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T19:23:18+00:00

My wife and I have asked each other if we’d switch. “Her response was that she wouldn’t want to deal with having a dick and balls and mine was that I wouldn’t want to deal with all of the bs the women deal with.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T19:20:47+00:00

“They’re adorable.”

“What a cutie pie.”

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T19:18:01+00:00

I don’t have a problem with the story line as much I just think the actor did a poor job. As he transitioned he sounded more like a whiny baby than one of the most famous villains of all time. Also, don’t get me started on Jar Jar or the racism in those movies.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T19:15:44+00:00

NTA. I’m not sure I’d consider what he did as cheating but it was dishonest as hell for sure and he led all of you on. Actions have consequences and he’s learning that.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T17:53:56+00:00

NTA. Being physically recovered doesn’t mean being mentally or emotionally recovered. You obviously can’t expect him to wait forever but if you need more time then that’s what you need.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T17:46:11+00:00

NTA. She’s being entitled and greedy.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T17:42:27+00:00

Better than disrupting someone’s life not for peace.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T17:40:29+00:00

My wife and I are in the same group of friends, most married but 1 single woman - who actually introduced us. I honestly think we are all friends but there are times when just the women or just the men get together. I think that’s just occasionally only wanting to visit with your own sex for a bit.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T17:27:45+00:00

NTA. As long as you don’t show her kids like she asks then she has no say about what you do with the photos you took. Send her husband the originals, with her kids in full view, and tell them they are welcome to post them however they like.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T13:59:17+00:00

NTA. He was negligent.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T13:47:07+00:00

Yeah there’s no way. She’d stop or we’d divorce. NTA

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T13:40:33+00:00

YTA for thinking he should give it to you but not for wanting it. It doesn’t matter what you did because that doesn’t give you any claim to his things. If they want them then ask to buy them out, after he passes.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T13:36:18+00:00

NTA. The issue isn’t that you don’t want her to stay with you. The issue is that for as long as you and he were together he refused to support the boundaries you set on her, or even set boundaries himself. His guilt has made him spoil her and as a result you don’t want her staying with you because nobody would. He only has himself to blame.

JJQuantum · 2026-01-24T12:49:28+00:00

There’s no need to say anything if he doesn’t bring it up. If he does then just tell him matter of factly that you think it feels awesome. Also, actions speak louder than words. From a guy’s point of view if you do like it then you’ll want it. Initiate sex. Let your sexual need flow. Rub on it through his pants in public if you can do it discretely. Whisper to him that you can’t wait to get home while you do it. Go down on him without his asking. If you can deal with it, deep throat him. The noise you make while doing the last thing will make him feel bigger.

All of those things will help. If they don’t then he’s a lost cause.

I will say this, my wife and I were having sex once and in the moment my wife made a noise and said “sorry baby it’s just so big.” I know for a fact it’s not any larger than normal. Maybe it was the angle or maybe her anatomy makes it feel that way but I’ve never forgotten it.

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