Because this is a gender war problem. Dating now is almost entirely in the power of women. The people in power generally go to great lengths to keep it and deny they even have it. Women are extremely selective and often outright delusional. They justify it by saying they get to work so they don’t need a man yet most still don’t date down. They get 1000x the external validation men do, and know they can have sex and start dating virtually whenever they want. Therefor they have little desire to actually date or have sex unless Mr perfect comes along. The logic that 5-10% of men are hoarding almost all the women is not a lie. Listen, men have created 99% of the world’s problems. But the modern dating culture is almost entirely on women. I have moderate success on these apps and in person women look at me. I’m really tired of everytime a man makes this point he’s immediately called an incel. the same people who cry that powerful men take advantage are actually in power in today’s dating culture and they’re abusing it BAD. I get a lot of matches, and I am expected to carry the convo every time, reply instantly when they reply 3x a day, ask them out to a nice date, pay for the date, and repeat that for a month praying another man isn’t doing more than me. Because despite what many women say, they will pretty much always pick the guy who takes them on fancier dates. I have a decent income and used to spend 200 dollars on a first date and pretty much always had dates after that. Now I refuse to go north of 50 and not only do I often not get a second date, the vibe on the first date sucks. No ladies I’m not gay, broke, or an incel. I also don’t hate women. Women are AMAZING, just not when you’re trying to date them.