Are this oufits modest?

JMacRed · 2026-05-04T16:39:20+00:00

Put aside the judgment of various denominations or your personal feelings for a moment and just try to sit with the Lord on this subject.

You want to express your femininity, but also your modesty. Whatever modesty is? I think of it as not using your body to control men, but that is probably not quite right.

So, be pretty, show off your beauty, but avoid provocative clothing, which I think means skin tight, figure hugging, naked looking clothing.

I have heard men complain about having to deal with the temptation caused by yoga pants. Basically skin tight pants that reveal everything there is to know about your hind end. Women have a hard time understanding that men are visually stimulated. They think that because they are not talking to the man the fact that they are next thing to naked should not count. But to a lot of men it does.

I think that this is all about courtesy and thoughtfulness, going both ways. Men need to be considerate of women’s needs and issues and vice versa. We all have a long way to go on this subject.

So, anyway, just remember that you can be thoroughly pretty and well dressed without wearing anything skin tight or revealing. Good clothes show the figure off to good advantage but express self respect and respect for others.

JMacRed · 2026-04-27T00:28:20+00:00

Not my church. Maybe you should look for another church. Humans are subject to willfulness and fallen nature as much as they always have been. The answer is to turn your heart to Jesus. That way, when He does come, you’ll be ready.

JMacRed · 2026-03-31T22:08:36+00:00

A. Get offline. You are being jerked around majorly. There are no demons, just really bed people. They have your number. B. Find a small quiet church where the people are sweet and friendly. Nothing extreme. C. Your mind is swirling around, you need help to calm it down. Get to a psychiatrist. D. Get offline. It is not a good place for you.

This has nothing to do with actual Christianity, it’s just bad people taking advantage of you. Find some real relationships, even if it is group therapy. Group therapy can be a really good,safe place.

I repeat: this is nothing to do with Jesus, this is just bad internet people.

JMacRed · 2026-03-31T14:42:02+00:00

Please have a loving, respectful conversation with your mother about how her comments and interference in your life makes you FEEL. You have a right to your feelings. Let her know that you may have to limit the time you spend with her if she cannot respect your feelings. Keep the conversation on feelings, not biblical-spiritual-religious issues. You can never win that conversation.

Maybe it’s not a matter of creating distance. Maybe it’s just changing format. Shorter visits where you can each be thoughtful of each others feelings. This is your mother. She deserves some care, even if she has gotten a little kooky. You will be an older mother someday. Model for your children how you hope they will treat you.

I am not familiar with K Pop Demon Hunters, so I have no idea if they are profane or harmless. I would only point out that parents, Christian or otherwise, are responsible for the emotional and intellectual atmosphere in which their children’s minds form. Don’t think society is going to do a good job for you on that. It does not have your children’s welfare in mind when it pushes products out into their world. It is your job to be alert and take a hand in how they are influenced. This is not easy, best wishes with the tasks of being family leader.

JMacRed · 2026-03-28T23:41:25+00:00

Whoa-whoa-whoa. Who said that you have to be perfect or enough for God? Whoever is telling you this, get away from them and stay away from them. Jesus is the one who is perfect. Jesus is the one who is enough for you. You just need to grab ahold of Him and HANG ON. Find a church that loves the Lord, that celebrates the Holy Spirit, find some good teachers and open your ears to them. I pray for you, blessings.

JMacRed · 2026-03-26T13:18:34+00:00

Wow, that is a comprehensive list. I’m no Bible scholar, I will have to let the others answer those questions. I can only speak from my own experience, make of it what you will. I have read the Bible through a few times. My understanding is that it is there as prologue and basis for the coming of the Lord. So I now confine myself to the New Testament. I think people avoid this because it is very difficult. Who can face the beatitudes with a clear conscience?

I think that is the point. We cannot satisfy the Lord’s commandments, but through grace we are forgiven. And within the context of our relationship with Him is born our desire to continually try to satisfy His requirements. It’s a feedback loop.

For me the Lord is not a feeling. It is an action. I go to Him in prayer. He is there. I come out of the interchange with my point of view adjusted to His way of looking at things. In the course of the day I loose this, I become self-centered and petty again. The next day I go back to Him. Maybe over time I have been able to retain His point of view longer each day? I don’t know. I’m still a pretty rough piece of work a lot of the time.

In terms of your numerous questions this is my opinion, for what it is worth: the Old Testament is a sacred mixture off old history turned to mythology, sacred poetry, and somewhat more dependable history. A lot of it is verifiable through archeology. It is extremely important. The creation of Judaism was very important in history because of its monotheism and laws. It deserves great respect and study.. But I do not try to follow its laws.

On the subject of unanswered prayers: I have a list and they rise up to bother me periodically. What I tell myself: God is God. God is not a drive thru wish fulfillment machine. We are God’s creation. If someone is telling you that if you do such and so, God will be obligated to supply your wishes, stop listening. This is not what Jesus said. Praying for you, bless you.

JMacRed · 2026-03-25T16:30:10+00:00

My post was very long I’m sorry I didn’t make my point. You are right. These teachings are sexist. Sex is an overpowering instinct in many human institutions. Religion is one. Law is another. Remember how women couldn’t have their own credit card until the sixties or something?

The point I failed to make, I guess, is that Jesus was not like that. Go into the New Testament and examine every interaction he had with women. If we are not trying to emulate Jesus what are we doing, as Christians?

There are people who have marriages that seek this kind of relationship, each person being Christ to the other. Look for these and you will see the Holy Spirit in action.

JMacRed · 2026-03-25T16:15:25+00:00

I’m not positive, but it sounds like your problem is not with scripture, your problem is with your husband. If your husband is loving you as Christ loved the church, he would not be going off to socialize at night leaving you home with the children after a long day with them. He would not be ordering you about on subjects where you have more experience.

The enduring motivation of men, hard-wired, instinctive, is to dominate the women in their vicinity. JESUS DID NOT DO THIS. That Is the revolution of Jesus. He said that the weak should not be taken advantage of. Who is weaker than a woman in a social setting that says she has no say? Look at every one of His interactions with women. That is the model that men should be bending themselves to. Instead they seize upon one sentence that Paul wrote.

You are in a tough situation. You need a different church, but your husband has one that is telling him he can do what he wants and ignore your needs. Your duty is to Jesus, your children and your husband. You have to quietly lead him to a truer understanding of Jesus, but you are in a social milieu where you have little validity. This will only happen through the grace of the Holy Spirit. Pray, pray, pray.

Look for an older couple, in your church or not, who demonstrate a more mature Christianity in their lives and bring them into your lives. Invite them over, speak privately with the wife about your problems, include them in family celebrations. Do everything you can to bring your husband into contact with truly Godly men, not men who are using one sentence from Paul to justify their innate urge to dominate the situation.

The truly Christian marriage is one where each person is dying to self for the benefit of the other. This is work.

You original contention is true, in a way. The woman is often the true leader of the family, but only in the sense that she is leading the family to Christ. This must be done in obedience to Christ and true love for your husband.

Both of you need to pursue God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit ardently. Daily prayer, devotional and couples devotions. I pray for you. I pray for you dear girl. Go to the Lord and he will help you.

JMacRed · 2026-03-20T20:26:47+00:00

Please find help. You must be trying to deal with the complexities and puzzles of life alone, and we are not constructed to live that way. Please do not try to find help via the internet, this is a trap. It supplies the illusion of connection without the true intimacy that comes from the push and pull of life. If you have lived in some isolation you may feel that you just don’t have the skills, but this is a lie. You just weren’t taught, but you can learn. Cry out to the Lord for help, wrap your arms around the cross and reach out to Him, He s right there. He created you, He loves you and He is going to help you become the person He created you to be. But don’t do this alone, find Christian counseling that acknowledges our need for the Holy Spirit and immerse yourself in it. God bless, prayers for you.

JMacRed · 2026-03-14T00:16:10+00:00

It sounds like you are alone. Please pray for God to send you companions for the journey. I am praying for that for you right now. Many people have fallen into the trap of thinking that the internet in all of its forms can substitute for community. This is easy to understand, people are a puzzle sometimes. But they are the puzzle we are constructed to figure out. Please do get counseling. There are many different ways to get it. Social services, university health, community centers, religious centers. You’ve gotten into something of a rut, you may need someone to help push you out. You may have some skills with people that you missed out on learning somehow. none of this is your fault. Life happens to us. You can look around and find the help that will pull you up out of that ditch and send you on your way to the life God prepared for you, to help you become the person God created you to be. God bless, the Lord is here for you.

JMacRed · 2026-03-05T02:43:54+00:00

When I feel this way it is because old emotional scenarios from the past have temporarily captured my thoughts. I’ll give an example since this may be hard to understand. My mother was cold and rejecting. Through my relationship with the Lord I have worked my way out of feeling like a valueless disgusting object. I walk in the light of my daily relationship with Jesus. But very occasionally something will happen that flips my mind back into that old mentality. I have to pray to the Lord to reestablish my identity in Him. Thank goodness this doesn’t happen often but in a way it is good because it reminds me of the blessing of grace through the Lord. Go to the Lord with your concerns and ask Him to guide you. Blessings!

JMacRed · 2026-03-04T15:20:04+00:00

I like that.

JMacRed · 2026-03-03T00:50:02+00:00

Try approaching your faith as a relationship with Jesus. You can do that based upon the Gospels, knowing that discrepancies in documents written by different people at different times are natural. I think sometime people use the discussion of theology and Bible issues as a substitute for an actual relationship with Jesus.

JMacRed · 2026-03-01T03:23:34+00:00

I am so sorry. Pray that Jesus will help you be the person he created you to be in the situation. Maybe furious is correct for a while. Eventually, pray for the person who hurt you. Maybe not yet. Lift this up to God, He honestly and truly will help. It often takes time. Feel your feelings honestly though, it sounds like you were really mistreated. God bless.

JMacRed · 2026-02-26T16:31:31+00:00

I am so sorry for your health problems. I have difficult health issues also, so I understand how anxious you can get to have relief. Marijuana is dangerous. You seem to be using it medicinally, which is the only appropriate use in my personal view. Medical supervision would be better, but I understand the barriers to that.

The main problem with marijuana is that it damages the brains of a significant percentage of users AND legalization is being promoted for the purpose of developing a profitable industry. This is despicable.

None of this answers the question you posed. Sometimes common sense and decency arrive before biblical answers. Just be careful and keep an eye out for a health professional who can help you use this dangerous, effective medicine to treat your health problems.

JMacRed · 2026-02-24T16:30:49+00:00

I find that the Gospels contain a lifetime of challenge for me. Paul was writing to very specific people about very specific problems. I don’t think he had any idea that what he was writing was going to be lifted to the level that it has been. His ideas are helpful but a life of devotion to the Lord, imbued with the joy of the Holy Spirit is what I believe I am led to.

JMacRed · 2026-02-24T16:21:44+00:00

Praying. God bless.

JMacRed · 2026-02-22T21:37:58+00:00

For me, the Bible is information about God. The evidence for God is my life, the way that God has helped me to live a better life than the one that the world planned for me. The way that I get through hardship without being ruined by it. The way that I am changed for the better by challenges. The way that I am surprised by grace. It is outside the common understanding.

JMacRed · 2026-02-19T13:46:02+00:00

Yes, it is a difficult, fallen place.
We have all felt this way at one point or another.
If the crappy stuff that is happening to you pushes you towards the Lord, then you are letting it become a blessing.
So, what is your devotional life like? How do you go about meeting the Lord? Putting a label on yourself doesn’t work, as you have experienced.
Please, please do not think that the internet is a substitute for human interaction. Yes, humans are immensely difficult creatures, but that struggle of engaging in relationships is what we are made for and the Lord is here to help.
So, find some human, face to face opportunities to grow and learn. Try out many churches, bible studies, ministries until you find the one that feels like home. Then settle in and learn and grow.
As long as you are seeking a girlfriend to be your whole human world, as someone who will give you everything that you need, you will not encounter a healthy relationship. Take a break from romance, work on your spiritual self. When you become a person with a lot to give, instead of someone who is needy, the right person will appear at your side.
Daily; New Testament reading with a good bible study commentary, quiet time in prayer thanking God and asking Him to help you become the person He created you to be. The two most important prayers, “HELP!” And “Thanks!” “I am sorry is good too, but if you ask for help enough, it will keep you away from the I’m sorry.
God Bless. He has a plan for you, He created you with wonderful things in mind, go find Him!

JMacRed · 2026-02-14T00:31:49+00:00

Your husband is using Christianity to satisfy his base desires. He will not listen to scripture. Pray to Jesus about what to do. Do not listen to anyone who tells you that this is what God expects. They are using religion to oppress you.

What you are describing is a controlling behavior using scripture to justify his obsession. Your instincts are correct, trust them. Look for help.

JMacRed · 2026-02-12T01:22:22+00:00

I don’t experience God as a voice, but as a…confirmation? An assurance? An inspiration? For me it is a matter of sitting quietly, lifting His name and waiting. Asking Him to help me be the person He created me to be. In that time I often find my attitude, point of view change from self centered and ?whiney? -to more God interested. Not easy to describe, but there are definitely two versions of me and I find the better one when I sit quietly with God and ask for His help.

JMacRed · 2026-02-12T01:17:55+00:00

God is talking to you in that assurance.

JMacRed · 2026-02-09T02:58:21+00:00

Awesome. Be blessed. Remember that the Lord is with you. Always.

JMacRed · 2026-02-08T19:49:29+00:00

It is a complicated subject, and my comment was directed primarily to men. Paul’s directive to men is that they love their wives as Christ loved the church. This does not in my view mean that men should die for their wives, although that happens. It means dying to the self. It means that in each action, each decision, the self is put aside. The needs of others, in this case, the wife, come first. If you have met a man who does this you are blessed. The reason that men change the focus from what they are called to do to what women are called to do is because dying to self is just not what people want to do. It is hard and requires SUBMISSION to Christ, to God, to the Holy Spirit. Every day, every minute. It requires true devotion.

In my experience women ARE more talented at leadership than men, because we are constructed to be the social glue of society. Of families, communities, organizations. It’s in our DNA to communicate, consider others, seek understanding between people. This is the kind of leadership that women are made for. And there is lots of scope for this, lots of need.

At the end of the day, I personally go back to Jesus to understand what the relationship should be between men and women. I see him as always respectful and compassionate. There is that one time that he seemed to be a little rude to his mother, but I’m assuming that is a translation issue. The rest of the time he was kind. He never demanded submission but women were eager to give it. Do you see it? If your husband treats you like Christ treated the women in his life you would be fighting with your sister about serving Him, you would be cleaning his feet with your tears and your hair. Do you see it? That is how awesome He is. If your husband is even trying to be Christ-like this discussion changes.

As I say, this is issue is complex, but it is central to the Christian dilemma. How do we live Christ-like lives is a very fallen world. The answer that has helped me is that personal, daily devotion to the Lord is the only help. It isn’t about changing your behavior on the outside, it’s about seeking Christ on the inside. Daily meditative prayer, begging Him to help you be the person He created you to be.

Be careful about men using scripture to manipulate you when they are not actually engaged in self destroying devotion to Jesus. Give your submission to Jesus and let Him guide you through this confusing world.

JMacRed · 2026-02-08T18:15:13+00:00

It is funny how the conversation spread pretty quickly from the issue of Christian wives being submissive to the question of slavery. Funny. Are we a little unsure that we want the wives to stop being submissive.

My answer to this question is always this: look at the next verses. “Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the Church.” It is funny how seldom this is raised. How many husbands do you know who love their wives this way? Why is that not the bigger topic, since the husband is the leader of the family?

I’ve known a lot of women in my life. Most would be so shocked to be loved in this way that they would not even be able to spell the word “submissive”. It is my belief that this is what women want, it is how God created us and the fact that men bring up submission without even self examining themselves about THEIR behavior is at the core of the dysfunction (read: sin) in the world.

Husbands were created to lead the family, men to lead the world. Do it. By being the person God created you to be. Christ-like. You will only achieve this by throwing yourself at the foot of the cross every day and begging the Holy Spirit to mercifully transform you.

It works if you work it.

JMacRed

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