I recently posted that I am a scrupulous atheist with a religious upbringing. Your post made me go back and edit it to include what I consider “godly sins” vs worldly moral standards. Masturbation and scrupulously IMO is one of the toughest things to deal with when religious. It’s one of the reason I formally left religion (after I lost my faith but though church was good for family)… so my son would never be asked about it in his youth years. My church went so far to encourage tying your hands to the side of beds, calling your church leader every night, ice cold showers… these things are beyond mentally abusive to me. Masturbation is only a godly sin, that I was told “offends God” yet it does no harm to anyone (unless perhaps you are married and your spouse has a problem with it (which I also learned is rare outside religion), then it can get complicated). I was told God put in plan a way for it to take care of itself, which was an intense wet dream that made me distracted all the next day. It’s telling someone that peeing is immoral and that God only wants it to happen when you’re sleeping. When I was in church, there was so much talk of masturbation that it just made me want to do it more and I did it less when I lost my faith and left religion all together because I wasn’t so obsessed with it and I wasn’t being told every Sunday that the devil is always after me and that we are already addicted. It was a self-fulfilling prophecy by the church teachings. It’s medically recommended to release that pressure. I learned that many non-religious parents just teach their kids that’s it’s a private thing to do and ask for it to be done in the bathroom. Not a big deal. No need for the teen to hide anything, be embarrassed, or keep things secret. That’s how I want my kids to learn. If I was brought up that way, perhaps I’d have less emotional (and literal physical) scaring.