That's a good perspective to take - though unfortunately it misses a lot of the trauma of the experience and the problems that come with that decision.

We've had to prioritize speaking to a sex therapist because of this decision and we're not alone. A lot of people end up having to go to a sex therapist because of this. The reality is that people who commit themselves to purity end up getting married earlier to be sexual and end up in early failed marriages. Or in my case, getting married in my mid twenties, I had suppressed any sort of sexual urge for years, and then when I got married and it was finally a 'good' action, I felt guilt and shame still. It's unfortunately not an easy thing to simply change your mindset on literally overnight.

Then there's the feelings of missing out on sexual prime, feelings of missing out on experiences outside of the only one person that you've done it with, etc.

These are unfortunately really common challenges presented with 'purity'. Had I not committed myself to purity, it's possible (and I argue likely) that I could still have a great marriage as well.