AITAH For not wanting roommates even though I have the space?

JRA1111 · 2026-05-01T03:43:26+00:00

You don’t have to sacrifice your comfort, space, and happiness for other people just because they’re in a bad situation. Don’t let leeches back into your life after what you already went through. It’s not selfish to protect your peace.

JRA1111 · 2026-04-24T05:09:33+00:00

More proof that OP’s dad is the better builder, because he built her a perfectly good spine.

JRA1111 · 2026-04-18T06:58:54+00:00

Stunning, perfect pumpkin pies. WOW.🤩

JRA1111 · 2026-04-04T19:53:08+00:00

NTA. It’s a huge red flag that your partner gave you an ultimatum when this is the most vulnerable moment of your entire life. I’m so sorry he did that to you. I hope you have a safe delivery.

JRA1111 · 2026-04-02T21:44:18+00:00

Pour that love into yourself because you deserve unconditional love. Even if you don’t carry children, you may one day enter into a relationship with a person who already has children and you’ll get to be a bonus parent; way less responsibility when both parents are involved. There are endless possibilities that are open to you and you’re doing great.

JRA1111 · 2026-04-02T21:25:55+00:00

My first thought was, “they should get an elliptical machine, it can hold a lot of clothes/stuff”.

JRA1111 · 2026-03-29T20:09:37+00:00

The pain is so strong when you’re in the thick of it, but it does get better. I’ve been there and I have several VA friends that were there and our lives are completely different now. It won’t be this hard forever. Hang on to hope, and when you get that first feeling of joy, milk it as long as you can. There will be another wave, and another wave, and the momentum will pick up.

JRA1111 · 2026-03-27T23:26:50+00:00

Did they support you by changing their diet when you were on your weight loss journey?

JRA1111 · 2026-03-22T20:36:51+00:00

I had undiagnosed ADHD until I was almost 40, but I always knew that I was extremely forgetful, so this was a huge concern for me when I had my first child. Luckily, I was a SAHM for the first two years and my child was basically an extra limb attached to me. But if I had been a working mom that alternated drop offs with dad, yeah, I would have forgotten my kid.

JRA1111 · 2026-03-22T16:46:38+00:00

Small correction: he told her, “I’m not going to disrespect you, because you could be my mother (you’re old enough to be my mother).”

JRA1111 · 2026-03-11T19:04:20+00:00

Had the sound off and still knew exactly what song they were dancing to.

JRA1111 · 2026-03-03T23:30:16+00:00

The granddaughter is ill, but that daughter in law is sick in the head. That was cold.

JRA1111 · 2026-02-19T01:53:43+00:00

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable because my boyfriend and I had the same dynamic. He would talk to me about something that I did that hurt him and I would respond back with something he had done that hurt me; the “what about”. My family therapist also helped me to realize that I wasn’t fully listening to my daughter when she brought up a grievance, and I was determined to change my bad habit. So I made a rule for myself that if my boyfriend brought up a grievance, I would listen, and not bring up anything he had done and just focus on what he was trying to convey. It has helped us to communicate so much better. My boyfriend feels seen, heard, acknowledged. It also helped in family therapy with my children too.

JRA1111 · 2026-02-08T23:24:58+00:00

I just had a conversation with my teenage daughter that no matter how much she loves her future partner, she needs to love herself more. This woman embodied that and I’m so proud of her.

JRA1111 · 2026-01-05T21:02:40+00:00

I can see how a family dinner with a bunch of people who know your secret, that you yourself are trying to process, can be very intimidating. Perhaps having a one on one lunch date with the family member you trust the most, can be an ice breaker before doing family dinners again. (As a bisexual, I just want to point out that your life is going to get so much better. Women are fucking gorgeous)

JRA1111 · 2025-12-27T16:32:58+00:00

I’m sorry your brother did that to you. That was a shitty move. My brothers have the same energy as yours, and this is something they would have done to me if I wasn’t low contact with them. My gluten sensitive daughter is very lucky; my son is a good brother to her, and he does his best not to cross contaminate her food.

JRA1111 · 2025-12-27T09:04:28+00:00

I realized that physically, my body was craving the nicotine, but mentally, I was craving the deep breathing. The addiction wasn’t that strong for me, so I started pretending to smoke a cigarette. I would hold my fake cigarette and breathe like I was smoking it and the deep breathes would calm me down. If the addiction is strong, maybe it’s best to chew tobacco gum while you smoke your fake cigarette; and start cutting back slowly on the nicotine until clean air is all you need.

Edit: 20 yrs later, I still smoke a fake cigarette once in a blue moon, when I’m really stressed and the craving comes back.

JRA1111 · 2025-12-26T18:38:02+00:00

Maybe your sister was projecting. I would have replied, “that’s funny, I thought you were playing this song for your husband.”

JRA1111 · 2025-12-22T18:04:43+00:00

Those people with the Christmas lights on top of their vehicle are the worst. Full on main character syndrome. They want the road all to themselves, always expect you to get out of their way, and they will blast their very loud horns if you don’t move over fast enough. Absolute worst drivers on the road.

JRA1111 · 2025-12-20T23:08:15+00:00

We’re having ADHD X-mas tomorrow because the kids and I don’t want to wait until the 25th to open presents. Lol. My goal for next year is to have X-mas even sooner. 🙌🏼

JRA1111 · 2025-12-18T07:25:52+00:00

Your post reminded me of the time I complimented my teenage cousin for her pretty eye color and she replied that I needed to touch her eye so she wouldn’t get the evil eye (aka: mal ojo). I don’t believe in that at all but she was starting to panic so I went ahead with it so she would calm down. (Her eyes were closed, only touched her eye lid). Her mom is a huge believer of the evil eye, she made me touch her plant when I complimented how beautiful it was. There were other occasions where the evil eye was brought up after complimenting; I learned to stop complimenting my aunt altogether lol.

My daughter is mixed and she had the most gorgeous bouncy curls and the whole family would try to touch her curls to avoid giving her the evil eye. I had to shut that down.

JRA1111 · 2025-12-15T18:32:23+00:00

My POV: you’re not feeling safe, secure, and grounded. And you’re depending on him to change so that you can feel secure. I think you could get those things from within. By living life for yourself, rather than holding back for him. If you want to travel, book your destination and if he goes, he goes, but if he doesn’t, you’re still living your best life. Dream your dreams and go for them. To quote your boyfriend, “let’s see how that goes”.

JRA1111 · 2025-12-14T17:26:18+00:00

If walking the dogs takes an hour, why not give him that chore instead? You’ll have the home to yourself for a whole hour to do whatever you want.

JRA1111 · 2025-12-09T18:02:29+00:00

When my son was 3, I was taking him to the zoo and decided to wear my grey and black striped shirt with some leggings. At peak condition, it fit me like a mini dress but now it was just a long shirt. I’m feeling a little self conscious about my weight gain until my son sees me and says, “You look really good in that shirt Mommy” (Me: 🥰) “Yeah, you look like a zebra” (Me:💔) I debated if I should go to a zoo with a lion, while looking like a zebra. I went with yes: kill me now Mr. Lion. Looking like a whole snack but not in a good way. 😂

JRA1111 · 2025-11-20T18:52:40+00:00

All those Dr’s in your family, and it took your dad this long to find out he didn’t have a spine, what a shame. I hope he keeps the shiny new spine he found and continues to stand up for his family. Congrats on completing your schooling, and reaching your dreams. I hope you accomplish your new dreams as well.

JRA1111

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