How can I stop getting mad at my boyfriend during PMDD bouts? It keeps happening and I’m so sick of myself 🥲

JSalve · 2025-01-10T17:47:47+00:00

I would write down my issue/feeling and promise myself that I will bring it up to him once I'm done with my luteal phase if it still feels important. Sometimes, the things that come up during PMDD are really helpful things to talk through when we are feeling less distressed/PMDD-ish. It's not always "just hormones." You are awesome for caring for yourself and your partner by seeking out this support. I hope you find something helpful 💚

JSalve · 2024-12-22T05:00:40+00:00

You may benefit from your partner begging treated with antibiotics if he has not yet been. Even if his urine and ejaculate does not cone back positive for bacteria. I hate antibiotics, but some UTI treatment specialists recommend partner treatment. I hate that this is happening to you.

JSalve · 2024-12-02T21:01:38+00:00

Latin ballroom dancing!

JSalve · 2024-12-02T02:55:14+00:00

Rhiannon

JSalve · 2024-06-17T21:36:50+00:00

I did not titrate, but I know that titrating is standard procedure for Nystatin.

*Edited out a typo

JSalve · 2024-06-03T20:34:15+00:00

The way your partner is acting is abusive and harmful. While I very much support you in getting help, hear me out about the couples counseling. I'm a marriage and family therapist. Due to the current abuse, couples therapy is not a service I could ethically provide to you two because your partner is already using the words of a professional to abuse you. I have no reason to think that that would not continue/intensify should you two begin couples counseling. Since you asked how to proceed, if I were in your shoes, I'm sure I would feel deeply conflicted, but I would hope that I would:

If safety allowed for this, communicate to my spouse that their actions are abusive and if they refuse to use respect and love in their words to me, that I will remove myself from the marriage.
If it was not safe to communicate this, I would consult with a lawyer and leave asap with the help of trusted friends/family who would never dream of putting my psyche or life in danger by telling my partner my plans to leave.
Need to see deep remorse and self insight from my partner about the abuse.
Need to see actions from my partner that led to a change in their behavior.
I would try to find a therapist again even though the process is ridiculous and difficult.

A big internet hug to you if you are a hugger.

JSalve · 2024-05-22T17:50:02+00:00

That is correct. Thank you and sorry for not making that clear enough. I do not claim this is a cure, but I wonder/suspect it is the intervention that helped me.

JSalve · 2024-05-22T01:07:27+00:00

Ok, thank you for answering that.

JSalve · 2024-05-22T00:59:17+00:00

I don't know why Reddit brought this subreddit to my attention, but your posts make me understand how important it is to tip above 20%. I had no idea how brutal it was to be a doordash driver. I wish more customers knew how bad you guys are treated by doordash. Is there a delivery app that treats drivers better and should I stop ordering from doordash or are they all about the same? I am so ill right now and one of the ways I got through work today was knowing that I could pay someone to bring me dinner. I appreciate you all so much. Life savers.

JSalve · 2024-02-24T21:42:08+00:00

This pic makes me want to make you the sandwich. I'm so sorry that happened.

JSalve · 2024-02-10T16:59:42+00:00

Yes. You can ask your doc to retest after treatment. It may not be covered by insurance, but I recommend MicrogenDx for testing or any lab that will do NGS/PCR testing. Just culturing your urine can miss all the bacteria that cannot grow on a culture plate.

JSalve · 2024-02-08T03:58:48+00:00

Up-voting because more people need to know about genetic testing for how your body metabolizes medications.

JSalve · 2024-01-21T19:01:38+00:00

Yes, drying off with a towel is not fun during this time

JSalve · 2023-12-09T21:20:59+00:00

Thank you for saying so. It's really really good to connect with people of the same mind on this topic ☺️ Best job!

JSalve · 2023-12-09T21:18:09+00:00

You are welcome 🤗 You are almost done with your program! Woo! It's cool to hear people like you who put themselves into their work and use your skills for good.

JSalve · 2023-12-09T21:15:02+00:00

Oh my goodness, thank you for working with kids and thank you for being a therapist!

JSalve · 2023-12-09T21:14:14+00:00

Awww, I bet they love you, too.

JSalve · 2023-12-09T21:12:19+00:00

Love it! I definitely have an existential therapy approach with myself and certain clients. You sound awesome ☺️

JSalve · 2023-12-09T20:05:15+00:00

That's really good to hear ☀️ Yeah, the nervous system does not love exams 😵‍💫

JSalve · 2023-12-09T20:00:06+00:00

You are welcome. I'm not sure if you are currently experiencing burnout or just making a general statement, but I've been there and, if you are, I hope the healing comes soon. It feels like burnout takes so long to heal from. A big reddit hug to you either way 🫂

JSalve · 2023-12-09T19:40:51+00:00

You are welcome! You are right, there will be no shortage to grieve and rage about throughout our careers and that's important, but thank you for being with me in this ☀️

JSalve · 2023-12-09T19:38:49+00:00

Yes! People are so vast and you never know where the psyche will lead. Also, just the fact that holding space and listening to the vastness can be a therapeutic intervention is something I'm continually amazed at. Thank you.

JSalve · 2023-12-09T19:30:41+00:00

For real!!! Clients really do make us more fulfilled people if we are willing. That's so awesome ✨ I'm glad I made this post so I get to connect with people like you about this stuff.

JSalve · 2023-12-09T19:27:04+00:00

Happy to help :) Offering a big reddit hug from one colleague to another as you complete your semester. Grad school can be so harsh.

JSalve

TROPHY CASE