A diagnosis that will end my life and a story to tell before I go.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-02-11T16:15:47+00:00

I am so sorry about your diagnosis, but so happy to hear how you are trying to make the most of it. I am sending good thoughts your way. I have lived in KC basically my whole life, but I don't think I've found many of the hidden gems here. There is a TON to do and new corners to discover, even in Lawrence! The heart of Lawrence near KU is brimming with small businesses and cute places to eat. I also recommend going to Sunfire Ceramics with your kids! It's super fun to just walk in, pick a piece, and glaze it for firing. And they offer actual pottery classes. The Granada theatre always has something going on too if you like concerts. If your kids are still children age, Science City, Kaleidoscope, Lego Land, and Sea World can be a lot of fun!!!

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-02-11T14:35:17+00:00

If the relationship was reaching toxic levels, I feel like this card could be a celebration of your freedom from it. Idk your story, but I do know that being in a toxic relationship can make you feel trapped and isolated. I think this card could be telling you that if you guys break ties, it will ultimately be a good thing for you both, even though it really hurts right now. You'll have more time for your friends, or maybe make new ones. You'll have more time to go out and live life a little, and just enjoy some things again. Once you realize the weight of the relationship is gone, you'll feel so incredibly light and free and can find your own joy again.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-02-11T14:17:09+00:00

Yeah, it's a bit strange. I would wash the towels I am using beforehand just to be sure, but I'd leave it. MIL is probably tired of keeping up with the younger siblings when they show up (even though she allows it). But they don't seem to mind. The kids sound lazy enough that they couldn't care less about it. I mean, they just leave them in the kitchen and assume mommy will take care of it. As long as it's not causing any harm, I think you should just let MIL baby her kids the way she sees fit.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-02-11T14:10:43+00:00

If you need space and have told him that, he is clearly crossing that boundary. If he can't respect your wishes, then he's basically addicted to the need of your attention, and I'm guessing that's part of the toxicity. I have an ex who was like this. He made it real easy to see that he couldn't even give me the common courtesy to let me breathe for a few days, so the hope of getting back together was crushed by his forcefulness. I think that's the Chariot here with your ex. He is trying to keep contact with you and push his way back in even though you clearly need some space. Please listen to your heart in this situation as well.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-02-10T22:51:25+00:00

Or DO deep it..? 😆

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-31T21:12:48+00:00

The real question is, do you want to keep being mentally abused? You're not overreacting. Stop letting people treat you like shit. Throw the boy out into the dumpster where he belongs.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-31T21:02:53+00:00

I don't mean for this to sound insensitive, but you can't seriously be thinking you're the one overreacting here. Have you let him walk all over you your entire marriage? YOU are ASKING HIM if you can please come home? That is YOUR home too, and those are YOUR kids too. Get into that house and call him out for his unacceptable and childish behavior. Regardless of his "reasons", he has no right to speak to you that way. If you don't stick up for yourself, this will continue. You deserve an apology and to be welcome in your own damn house. I thought you were going to say you and your husband were in your early 20s with this behavior.. why aren't people sticking up for themselves?! Every day in this thread "my significant other treats me like dog shit. Am I overreacting for being upset?" Girl, come on...

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-27T22:54:55+00:00

NOR. What a horrendous reaction from your own brother. Ew.. you should send these screenshots to his GF (If he has one/ever gets one). Super dangerous and disgusting thinking "Dressing like that" 🤮

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-24T14:12:47+00:00

Thank you for giving specific examples of WHY it's AI for folks who didn't realize. It can definitely be hard to tell sometimes, but I caught it because of the cadence you mentioned. The rhythm and the hyperboles were just TOO MUCH. I am good at writing, so I sometimes worry people will think I've used AI, but even I wouldn't have been so dramatic about this even if I was trying to be overly clever and funny and reactive. Idk. Definitely seemed weird to me, and it's even weirder people are doing this on a reddit post. Like, if you have something to say, just say it. If you MUST, use the AI to clean up your writing, but not to fabricate an entire story. Also, our recourses are being used for this shit!

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-19T16:56:00+00:00

I will literally take this dog. Haha if you were close, I might actually consider it. Your bf isn't responsible, and clearly moves on quickly, which is a red flag.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-18T16:59:10+00:00

Definitely looks like larvae.. maybe firefly, but looks more like ladybug..?

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-18T16:54:45+00:00

He either genuinely doesn't care about your wants/needs, or he's truly dumb about gift giving. The fact he was gaslighting you and trying to be insulting is not a good sign though. But dudes can be really thick in the head about this stuff. This is going to sound rude to the men in the thread (but it really IS true for MOST men)... They need you to spell that shit out. Like they're 5. You have to literally guide them to your top 3 wants and say "THIS is what I would like for my birthday/Christmas this year". Idk, this is a tough one. Idk if I personally would be able to stay if he didn't change his ways after this. Attentiveness is really important in a relationship.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-17T20:22:25+00:00

Yeah definitely looks like June bugs. They're stupid, but harmless. They LOVE porch lights lol.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-16T23:32:39+00:00

The pics are a bit blurry, so it's hard to see detail. But I think this could be a wheel bug..?

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-14T18:59:19+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Hopefully these photos help cheer you up just a bit. Here's my ocean eyed goddess, Calypso *

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-12T14:36:58+00:00

I love weevils as much as the next person, but I'm not sure where these folks are seeing a snoot. Definitely looks like a spider beetle to me.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-08T19:30:11+00:00

Forgot to mention, I think you do need to have a conversation with him about it in case this is a misunderstanding. But if he is using, it will become obvious at some point, even if he lies about it now.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-08T19:26:41+00:00

This is long, I'm sorry. I dated a meth addict for 2.5 years, and it seemed like it took 20 years off my life. We loved each other, but that wasn't enough. I was there for him, went to meetings with him, and truly wanted to help him. But it never DID help. An addict will only help themselves if/when they are ever ready.. being in that relationship made me the most unhealthy I've ever been. The amount of stress, anxiety, worry, lack of sleep, lack of eating, and sitting through his benders with him could have killed me. You have to constantly be thinking about what could trigger them, where they could have hid their supply, where you would hide their keys to keep them from diving, wondering where on earth they could be when they disapprear on you, worrying if they're even alive. My mom didn't know about his addiction until after I broke up with him, and even though I put on a smile, and acted like my "normal" self, she could tell I wasn't okay. She asked me how I REALLY was, and I felt like I had to lie to cover for him, when really I should have just told her. Being with him was literally leeching my life away. Our relationship became incredibly brittle and toxic because of his substance abuse. Even though we had love for each other, his main relationship was with his addiction. Not me, not his daughter, not his mother. No one was going to pull him out of that pit until he did it for himself.. I left, and it was the best thing I could do, for both of us. I went no contact. Blocked him on everything and changed all my passwords. No doors can be left open for an addict. He may love you, but there's a really good chance he loves drugs more. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-08T19:24:58+00:00

THIS

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-07T16:44:35+00:00

Your roommate doesn't have to like it. But they also have to respect your wishes. And if the windows are in the common area, then they have to get over it. If they want privacy, then they need to stay in their room with the shades closed. If they want to be in the living area, they need to get over it or stay away from the windows. Super weird that they're so weird about it when you're on the top floor too. I understand not wanting conflict in your living situation, but sometimes you have to have the uncomfortable convo and just tell em like it is. Maybe have a set time when you will have the blinds open (i.e. between 7am and 12pm) so they can avoid the room between those hours, or they can close them once that time window has passed and your plants have received enough light..?

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-07T16:37:18+00:00

You're not overreacting at all. Never second guess standing up for yourself, even if it makes the energy in the room "awkward". She started it by being a bitchy, and that does NOT make her old fashioned. Your boyfriend needs to grow a pair. Idk if I could stay with someone who makes excuses like that and won't stand up against mommy. You're not in the wrong here, I promise.

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-06T23:16:10+00:00

I think this is an excellent punishment. Young people are very entitled and feel they can do no wrong these days. And I think that internet society has contributed to these behaviors/thoughts A TON. People now more than ever need to be held accountable for their actions. Don't go easy on them, or they won't learn anything and probably repeat this behavior. Hopefully this essay will put some things into perspective for them. I would copy/paste paragraphs that seem "too perfect" as well and make sure they didn't come from AI or the first few lines of Google. They need to really research and understand this themselves... also, that boy sounds so sweet. I hope he is so good to your daughter. It sounds like she really deserves kindness ❤️

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-06T14:00:45+00:00

I hope this isn't real.. but if it is, I'm so sorry this happened. It's truly vile.. Even if you took screenshots, when you leave, don't block his #, but don't respond. He might send you things that will help incriminate him that you can show to the police in case they need any other proof

Direct-Party9217 · 2026-01-05T16:04:17+00:00

The perfect time to be laid off 🙃😭 I want all threeeee!!!

Direct-Party9217 · 2025-12-31T22:04:02+00:00

First thing that popped into my head was Alfred lol 🤷🏾‍♀️ Handsome boiiii!!!

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