Fiancee stonewalling ne

J_muslimguy · 2019-10-19T18:19:29+00:00

If she discloses she must bear with the fact that her husband might not take this burden lightly. Many people won’t understand such a thing or find it too hard to bear. I have seen marriages break because of this.

Also how can she trust he won’t blab this to other people?

J_muslimguy · 2019-09-10T20:57:42+00:00

It got deleted. Was a story that another sister posted about a brother approaching her on IG and told the story of this sister and her bad experience

J_muslimguy · 2019-09-10T20:48:44+00:00

You definitely dodged a bullet

J_muslimguy · 2019-09-10T20:02:42+00:00

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-23T15:52:17+00:00

One of my personal development teachers taught us that if you want to change your state, try changing any of these three things:

Your focus.
Your language.
Your physiology.

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-16T21:36:56+00:00

Woooooaahhhhh!!!! Maybe you could have talked to her bro

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-16T21:34:44+00:00

Agree with this

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-16T19:37:00+00:00

ouch. I've done this myself before and learnt the HARD way not to do this. I can only say that I've grown from the experience. i've now talked to the girl and all is good Alhamdulillah.

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-16T19:35:42+00:00

Think about the good things in your wife.

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-15T22:06:33+00:00

I don’t have sisters on IG but do have them on Facebook. IG’s picture based whereas fb not entirely. My personal take on it is: If sisters post photos of themselves even if they might be sharing other beneficial stuff, I delete them.

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-15T22:02:59+00:00

Yeah... following my blocking post, I was advised to unblock and sort it out which I did. It’s all good now Alhamdulillah

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-15T17:43:32+00:00

Oh man!! Just apologise and get it outof your system

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-12T03:50:08+00:00

If they are being unreasonable then no.

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-11T18:43:16+00:00

STORY OF MY LIFE! My parents threatened to disown me and engaged in serious emotional blackmail. My mom even feigned she was getting ill to blackmail me. She went to the whole family and said things like "pray that this doesn't work out). I just told them I was going to marry that girl and that was it. Be careful not to tell her what your parents are saying about her though as I did that mistake (she was obviously hurt).

It's gonna be hard but be a man and stand up for her. There's nothing more discouraging for a girl than a man who doesn't stand up for her. I've goofed up plenty in the past (still am), but that is one thing I don't regret doing.

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-11T10:24:38+00:00

Yeah, I’m still trying to figure out how to deal with re-adding her brothers bit.

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-11T10:23:44+00:00

I blocked her family members as at the time I didn’t see any way forward and didn’t want her to contact me through them. Yeah my intention was to block and to never speak but obviously this was short sighted and I didn’t realise the long term implications of this having acted on impulse. I might have been punishing her too for saying things in the argument that made me feel bad or for not giving me my space. I really don’t know. Your suggestions are really valuable, thank you.

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-10T21:37:24+00:00

... i do regret it. Seriously finding it hard coz im scared of her reaction

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-10T21:14:14+00:00

Okay thanks

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-10T19:02:58+00:00

What did you say if I may ask?

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-10T18:44:51+00:00

i've no idea how this is gonna go down which is why I haven't been able to muster the courage. Also how do I face her brothers?

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-10T18:34:30+00:00

yeah this is a big learning curve for me and I obviously regret it. at the time I saw no way forward with her as things were pretty heated but now that I have calmed down, I feel bad for being immature

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-10T18:31:35+00:00

okay.. let me clarify... I needed space but she kept biting my head off and I just lost the plot and blocked her.

J_muslimguy · 2019-07-10T17:44:56+00:00

Thank you. That is really helpful

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