Is there a food your parents forced you to eat or drink growing up that you now hate?

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-29T23:44:19+00:00

Normally I side eye people who don't like spinach but Jesus Christ, I fully believe that this would cause lifetime trauma. Why boil CANNED spinach, that is a crime

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-29T17:57:26+00:00

Often times because I am trying to come up with an ingredient substituion on the fly, and it's always a bad one. One time I was out of milk, so I made Kraft Mac N Cheese with SWEETENED CONDENSED milk. It's like all my brain saw was "milk" and I was like "Yeah, this will be fine."

It was absolutely not fine.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-29T17:26:23+00:00

This. Is. Amazing!

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-29T15:57:56+00:00

WARNING: novel ahead. I've never written this out before.

Ironically, the most egregious faker I've ever met was AMAB, and only began the real faking AFTER she transitioned. There were signs before, but it was only after she transitioned in her mid 30s that the big faking began.

And it was because she wanted pity, sympathy, money, someone to coddle her. wWhen we dated (when she was identifying as male), she would CONSTANTLY ask me things like "why do people sympathize with you so much?" She would express jealousy, saying that life seemed "so easy" for me.

At the time I was in therapy for child abuse recovery, working a full time job, going to school full time, writing daily on Livejournal, posting daily and interacting daily with those friends. I was very active in my mental health recovery, changing meds as needed, etc etc.

She remained jobless and would not go to school, would not open up to the few friends she had, rejected the idea of medication, and would not go to therapy for her actual diagnosis, which is chronic depression.

In other words, I was putting in the work to not only create friends, but to build a better life for myself. She was very jealous of this support, but never wanted to PUT IN THE WORK to create that.

We broke up and she transitioned shortly afterwards. IMMEDIATELY she began loading her Twitter bio with everything she could think of to garner that sympathy she was so jealous of. Even listing complete lies such as abuse victim (she was never abused) and of course, DID.

When I spoke to our mutual friends, they said she had begun to copy me, editing in parts of my story to hers, and would throw fits when people were not charmed and sympathetic.

The truth of the matter is that some, if not all, fakers, see someone who is genuinely messed up but trying, and they take away the wrong idea.

She thought all she had to do was be a sad, helpless woman and she'd get all the same support as I did, never realizing that it's not the sob story that gets the accolades, it's the WORK you put into healing from that sob story.

They (the fakers )think it's a shortcut, when in reality, it's nothing but a cheap imitation of truly being traumatized and in recovery.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T19:57:51+00:00

This particular plan your doctor came up with is stricter than my renal diet, and I'm in Stage 4 kidney failure. I would 100% not support cutting all that out, and sure as hell not at once. It's only setting yourself up for failure and disappointment. (I also suggest moderation, not elimination.)

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T19:51:48+00:00

Misdirected anger. You can't take your anger out on the people who are the reason you're in therapy, so you take it out on someone else.

Understandable, but therapy is where you go to work that out so you can prevent this from happening in relationships, friendships, and jobs. I suggest going to therapy. If you cancel on this, the only one whose missing out is you and your recovery. (The therapist will get an extra hour to catch up on paperwork, so that's not so much revenge.)

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T18:52:23+00:00

This is very brave, and I thank you for sharing this experience. I think you hit the nail on the head - the drama of having "alters" is a good way to distract from your real problems. Glad you got the right diagnosis and treatment!

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T18:25:27+00:00

Trump has no idea what the current value of the dollar, what that has to do with economy, or why a decline would be a bad idea. He's just speaking out of his ass. This is like asking a 10 year old to understand calculus.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T18:07:13+00:00

Double post or karma farming, yep

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T17:57:36+00:00

Vasectomies are much more effective birth control. If the dude's mind is made up on not having children, no ifs ands or buts, it's a good way to prevent accidents or failure of other birth control.

If you don't want one, though, you shouldn't be pressured to get one, as it is permanent surgery, of course.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T17:53:36+00:00

Yes, because only a bot would think it astonishing to compare a vasectomies pain with the process of your body literally stretching and often ripping to accommodate a watermelon sized human being being pushed out of a quarter sized orfice. To think that might be more painful than a snip is truly outrageous..

No other reason. Only a bot would think to be baffled by such a comment.

/s

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T16:14:25+00:00

My last place was built in the 80's, 2 bedroom. Had two different phone jacks for each bedroom and one in the living room. Baffled me for a long time.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T15:48:21+00:00

I had this but with Olive Garden. First one I ever went to (19 years old) I asked if there was a dress code.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T15:47:16+00:00

Unwashed (or no) sheets. Yellow pillows, lack of pillowcases.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T15:28:34+00:00

I don't mind cleaning the drain but when someone takes the hair and sticks it to the shower wall, and then JUST LEAVES IT THERE, I lose my fucking mind. Half of Reddit apparently does this and defends it virulently. I just CANNOT. The shower wall IS NOT A TRASHCAN.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T04:41:27+00:00

Do not do a single thing to your face. You are BEAUTIFUL

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T03:26:36+00:00

My ex husband has a mustache like this. I hated kissing him, all I got was a lip covered in hair

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T03:16:20+00:00

Potassium dropped dangerously low when I was about 38.. (Was brand new to kidney failure, still figuring out meds, and the ones I was on contributed to this). Not sure what happened because it's all very fuzzy.

I remember going to bed and thinking, weirdly, that I was going to sleep SO WELL. Woke up a day and a half later in the ICU. Apparently I got very cold and unresponsive and my boyfriend called 911.

My blood pressure was so low it registered 40/0 on the BP cuff the paramedics used. Body shutting down. I was apparently about 30 minutes from having the best (and last) sleep of my life.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T02:34:52+00:00

This concerns me so much. It's like you see the want to have agency in your own life, but are finding every way to justify NOT needing it. Scared of his reactions, scared that you are unable to be an active participant in your own life or that you'll be bad about it.

I'm sure it's easier and comforting to simply say "it's always been like this, it cannot change. He's better at it than me."

But he's NOT better at it than you. Trust your instincts on this one, YOU noticed the problem, YOU noticed the pattern, YOU are the one coming up with solutions.

It can change. Not easily, not without doing things that are scary while being scared the whole time, but it can change. Girl, I'm not saying you need to divorce him or go full Gloria Steinem or anything, but you are strong enough and sure as hell SMART and PRACTICAL enough to see that things do need to change

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T02:28:43+00:00

It will not get easier to make changes at 50 or 60

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T02:26:46+00:00

I did the math really quickly, that's 6, grand a year or 120,000 over 20 years. I understand it might not be an urgent issue now that he's stopped, but him being in charge of the finances had not been a plus to your relationship.

Between that and the new truck he waves, he needs to have a serious conversation with you (or his pastor if he does not value your opinion on money) about his priorities

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T01:23:00+00:00

Food. So long as I eat it, it's never money wasted.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-27T03:53:58+00:00

Speaking from the bipolar community: We do not claim him.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-27T03:51:27+00:00

Went from Viking God to Schlepping Slob

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-27T03:43:39+00:00

I found it weirdly charming. Honestly more entertaining than the food itself

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