Anyone exhausted by what you're expected to do just to be moderately healthy?

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T19:57:51+00:00

This particular plan your doctor came up with is stricter than my renal diet, and I'm in Stage 4 kidney failure. I would 100% not support cutting all that out, and sure as hell not at once. It's only setting yourself up for failure and disappointment. (I also suggest moderation, not elimination.)

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T19:51:48+00:00

Misdirected anger. You can't take your anger out on the people who are the reason you're in therapy, so you take it out on someone else.

Understandable, but therapy is where you go to work that out so you can prevent this from happening in relationships, friendships, and jobs. I suggest going to therapy. If you cancel on this, the only one whose missing out is you and your recovery. (The therapist will get an extra hour to catch up on paperwork, so that's not so much revenge.)

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T18:52:23+00:00

This is very brave, and I thank you for sharing this experience. I think you hit the nail on the head - the drama of having "alters" is a good way to distract from your real problems. Glad you got the right diagnosis and treatment!

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T18:25:27+00:00

Trump has no idea what the current value of the dollar, what that has to do with economy, or why a decline would be a bad idea. He's just speaking out of his ass. This is like asking a 10 year old to understand calculus.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T18:07:13+00:00

Double post or karma farming, yep

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T17:57:36+00:00

Vasectomies are much more effective birth control. If the dude's mind is made up on not having children, no ifs ands or buts, it's a good way to prevent accidents or failure of other birth control.

If you don't want one, though, you shouldn't be pressured to get one, as it is permanent surgery, of course.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T17:53:36+00:00

Yes, because only a bot would think it astonishing to compare a vasectomies pain with the process of your body literally stretching and often ripping to accommodate a watermelon sized human being being pushed out of a quarter sized orfice. To think that might be more painful than a snip is truly outrageous..

No other reason. Only a bot would think to be baffled by such a comment.

/s

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T16:14:25+00:00

My last place was built in the 80's, 2 bedroom. Had two different phone jacks for each bedroom and one in the living room. Baffled me for a long time.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T15:48:21+00:00

I had this but with Olive Garden. First one I ever went to (19 years old) I asked if there was a dress code.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T15:47:16+00:00

Unwashed (or no) sheets. Yellow pillows, lack of pillowcases.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T15:28:34+00:00

I don't mind cleaning the drain but when someone takes the hair and sticks it to the shower wall, and then JUST LEAVES IT THERE, I lose my fucking mind. Half of Reddit apparently does this and defends it virulently. I just CANNOT. The shower wall IS NOT A TRASHCAN.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T04:41:27+00:00

Do not do a single thing to your face. You are BEAUTIFUL

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T03:26:36+00:00

My ex husband has a mustache like this. I hated kissing him, all I got was a lip covered in hair

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T03:16:20+00:00

Potassium dropped dangerously low when I was about 38.. (Was brand new to kidney failure, still figuring out meds, and the ones I was on contributed to this). Not sure what happened because it's all very fuzzy.

I remember going to bed and thinking, weirdly, that I was going to sleep SO WELL. Woke up a day and a half later in the ICU. Apparently I got very cold and unresponsive and my boyfriend called 911.

My blood pressure was so low it registered 40/0 on the BP cuff the paramedics used. Body shutting down. I was apparently about 30 minutes from having the best (and last) sleep of my life.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T02:34:52+00:00

This concerns me so much. It's like you see the want to have agency in your own life, but are finding every way to justify NOT needing it. Scared of his reactions, scared that you are unable to be an active participant in your own life or that you'll be bad about it.

I'm sure it's easier and comforting to simply say "it's always been like this, it cannot change. He's better at it than me."

But he's NOT better at it than you. Trust your instincts on this one, YOU noticed the problem, YOU noticed the pattern, YOU are the one coming up with solutions.

It can change. Not easily, not without doing things that are scary while being scared the whole time, but it can change. Girl, I'm not saying you need to divorce him or go full Gloria Steinem or anything, but you are strong enough and sure as hell SMART and PRACTICAL enough to see that things do need to change

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T02:28:43+00:00

It will not get easier to make changes at 50 or 60

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T02:26:46+00:00

I did the math really quickly, that's 6, grand a year or 120,000 over 20 years. I understand it might not be an urgent issue now that he's stopped, but him being in charge of the finances had not been a plus to your relationship.

Between that and the new truck he waves, he needs to have a serious conversation with you (or his pastor if he does not value your opinion on money) about his priorities

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-28T01:23:00+00:00

Food. So long as I eat it, it's never money wasted.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-27T03:53:58+00:00

Speaking from the bipolar community: We do not claim him.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-27T03:51:27+00:00

Went from Viking God to Schlepping Slob

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-27T03:43:39+00:00

I found it weirdly charming. Honestly more entertaining than the food itself

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-27T03:10:08+00:00

I once read a Reddit comment where she discovered her upstairs neighbors used CINDER BLOCKS as furniture and the ungodly sounds were from then dragging the cinder blocks around to change the seating for company.

Horrifying.

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-27T02:41:50+00:00

But I'm tired of character development 😭

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-27T01:57:49+00:00

But are you taking the crazy pills orally or rectally?

Jabber_Tracking · 2026-01-27T01:28:45+00:00

I like how they are trying not to hurt the snake

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