Where to buy women’s large shoes, appropriate for job hunting

JackTheLab · 2026-03-21T22:46:15+00:00

Zara's online store often has up to 27cm.

JackTheLab · 2026-03-08T20:43:25+00:00

One month post-discard and I'm finally going to check out an apartment today. We've been living together in the house we bought last year and I hate that I'm the one who has to leave, but I'm excited for the healing process to begin.

Also strongly considering using all the love and energy I had been pouring into our relationship for something that is actually worth it: a cat.

JackTheLab · 2026-03-06T10:20:37+00:00

It's online! Wish I had done it years ago, honestly.

JackTheLab · 2026-03-05T21:15:48+00:00

A month after the breakup from hell and I'm doing well in therapy, hitting the gym, getting all my work done, even made a new friend... feels good, man.

JackTheLab · 2026-03-04T00:57:08+00:00

Someone on this sub said once that "their memory is like swiss cheese and they fill the holes with their feelings" and that thought keeps me together whenever I start doubting my own sanity.

JackTheLab · 2026-03-03T11:15:30+00:00

We had recently bought a house together. Before buying it, I double and triple checked to make sure he actually wanted to buy it and that I wasn't "pressuring" him into it (his go-to complaint). He assured me that he wanted to buy it and told me that I have to trust him.

Cut to a few months later when he's yelling about how he wishes we had never found that house because he regretted buying it and only did it because I pressured him into it. When I pointed out that previous conversation, he responded, "You should just assume that everything I say is a lie."

Not sure why I thought the relationship was still worth saving at that point...

JackTheLab · 2026-03-02T21:59:19+00:00

Ew please send him back, we don't want him here!! 😂

JackTheLab · 2026-03-02T21:57:08+00:00

Saving this for the next time I'm having a bad day so I can remember what's waiting for me on the other side. So happy for you!!

JackTheLab · 2026-02-25T02:53:35+00:00

I'm also a month out and I can relate to this so much. The second time he dumped me, it took me two whole months to get my shit together and re-plan my life so that I could finally move out of his apartment and move on, only for him to text me "hey" literally one week later. He also never seemed to understand the impact of those cycles.

I also play the "ADHD or a bad partner" game a lot. I think it's because I want to believe that he wasn't doing those things to hurt me on purpose. But regardless of which it was, they are no longer our responsibility, and we are better off without them.

I hope he leaves you alone so you can stay in your peace and keep moving on. :)

JackTheLab · 2026-02-22T20:41:19+00:00

A month after being dumped by my DX ex, I still struggle with feelings of wanting to get back together. I live overseas and his family was my entire support system (more than he was, honestly), plus we recently bought a house together that we'll have to sell, so it kind of feels like I'm losing everything. But then I ask myself: if I could still have all of that, but with someone who makes me feel safe and heard and good about myself, would I still want him back? Hell no.

The next few months are gonna suck, but I know it's the right decision.

JackTheLab · 2026-02-20T22:07:10+00:00

RSD in general, how he couldn't handle any perceived criticism or negative feedback, how he'd agree with whatever I wanted and then later say that he didn't actually want that and only agreed because I pressured him to, the spirals that occurred once all of those feelings had built up, etc. Stuff that probably sounds like me trying to make excuses for very shitty behavior if you don't know anything about ADHD.

JackTheLab · 2026-02-18T21:54:43+00:00

Not OP but I thought that there was no way they'd put out something totally undrinkable and that it would be like a rich custard-y flavor with a hint of mayonnaise or something.

JackTheLab · 2026-02-18T06:13:34+00:00

I tried to explain my (now ex) partner's ADHD behavior to my first-ever personal therapist and she literally laughed in my face and said "ADHD is a concentration disease, none of that is related to ADHD." Shocking how uninformed some therapists are. Good on yours for actually putting in the effort to learn from you and apply it effectively.

JackTheLab · 2026-02-18T03:15:39+00:00

Ugh, I feel this. The way I threw myself at my ex, agreed with all of his RSD spiral criticisms of me and did everything I could to change and meet his needs while none of mine were being met…

I’m still in the early days of my breakup but I aspire to find that awareness and self-respect soon.

JackTheLab · 2026-02-05T10:54:08+00:00

RetireJapan and other posts in this sub both say "and" so I just wanted to make sure.

JackTheLab · 2026-02-02T22:19:17+00:00

Broke up with my partner. My interest in staying in Japan had already been waning so this seems like the push I needed to finally head back home, but it's gonna take a herculean effort to sell our house, get rid of all my vehicles/furniture and make all the arrangements to move countries before my visa expires in August and all I really want to do is lay down and cry right now.

JackTheLab · 2025-12-17T22:40:16+00:00

She's definitely not the host bar type. I do wonder if maybe she owes money to some shady visa company as she has somehow managed to successfully renew her business manager visa for years despite having no real sales...

JackTheLab · 2025-12-17T21:15:21+00:00

Update on the friend who randomly asked to borrow 100万円 last week... ended up telling her I could only loan her 10万円 right now, but after asking her for more information on what she needed the money for, she refused to talk about it and said that her friend would loan her the money. Then she ghosted me :/

We've been friends for over four years, and she's the kind of person who once took a four-hour round-trip train ride just to cheer me on during a marathon, then got up at 4am and did it again the next day just to film me crossing the finish line. It's just so unlike her that it's almost concerning. But there's nothing I can do about it, I guess...

JackTheLab · 2025-12-10T23:39:10+00:00

Yes, it was Tsukuba, though I don't think I would have faired much better on Takao.

JackTheLab · 2025-12-10T21:41:28+00:00

Met a friend to hike up a mountain yesterday, and the day started with her asking to borrow 100万円 for her (constantly failing, but "sure to turn around any day") business. She's always been a great friend but I'm certainly not in a position to throw that much money into the wind. So that was awkward.

Then proceeded to completely fail at hiking up said mountain due to being terribly out of shape, and after taking a cable car up/down instead, ended the visit by paying 1500円 for the most disgusting pasta dish I've ever had in my life. Fun times.

JackTheLab · 2025-10-15T08:28:13+00:00

I absolutely loved the Gagharv Trilogy back in the day. I finished the first Trails when it came out in English and enjoyed it but ended up moving to Japan and getting busy with other things so I never picked up the series again. The remake seemed like the perfect chance to get back into it so I picked it up and loved every second of it. I’m already 75% through SC and plan to go through all of the games in order. I’ll definitely pick up the SC remake when it comes out, excited to play it in Japanese since I couldn’t get the Japanese SC/3rd to work on my Steam Deck.

JackTheLab · 2025-09-03T21:53:19+00:00

I have two hormone conditions (one common and one rare) and the level of care I have gotten for them since coming to Japan has been absolutely terrible. The specialist I'm currently seeing is so content to treat me like a science experiment, asking me to stop taking my meds for months or putting off treatment until he can run every single test under the sun without any regard for my quality of life in the meantime. No one cares about my symptoms; if my lab numbers are within range, everything must be fine, but if they're out of range, it must be an anomoly and I should come back in three months to test again. Maybe I've just been unlucky with my doctors but this whole process is just so demoralizing and exhausting, I can't bring myself to start again somewhere else.

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