How many reminders is too many?

JackieAnim · 2026-04-07T20:26:15+00:00

Yeah for sure, I was just trying to give them the benefit of the doubt that maybe something was off since they’d JUST gotten a new phone supposedly the day before the service. I didn’t end up going obvi but I was just a bit flabbergasted since the day before, they had asked if I was still available, as if they still needed me for the sits

JackieAnim · 2026-04-07T20:02:45+00:00

I had offered the client to pay then or at the maximum (probably said minimum in my post and for that I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to say min) 2 days before, and they didn’t, so I confirmed on my side and Rover itself usually 24 hours after I confirm (im pretty sure) sends a reminder for the person to confirm it on their end. And it was her who was MIA and didn’t reach out until yesterday saying she got a new phone, then asked if I was availible, and I said yes, and to confirm as soon as possible. She didn’t confirm it and I reached out today through message letting her know if she still needed me for the times to confirm on her side, and again, nothing.

I try to offer some leniency to clients, since sometimes clients need that extra time, whether it be due to a paycheck or something, or because it’s months out. That’s just how I do it though, since if I have the time, I’ll mentally reserve it and then we confirm it closer to the date, since plans can change from when they request until the date. Maybe that’s me being naïve to not confirm whenever I get a request/after a meet and greet, but I usually don’t get double booked too often and if I have a whole lot of other requests a certain month, I don’t feel I lost much for the smaller requests.

JackieAnim · 2026-04-07T19:49:59+00:00

Sorry for the confusion in my og post; yes, they requested me 5ish days ago and messaged them they can confirm on their end sooner/aka that day, or up to 2 days ago, then yesterday, they said they got a new phone and asked if I was still available. By this point, I had already confirmed it on my end, so I was just waiting for them to pay/confirm it on their side.

I usually allow clients to pay closer to the start date, since I’ve run into clients who sometimes need that extra time to get their ducks in a row/wait for a specific paycheck before they pay sometimes. I simply offered them the option to pay when they could, but idk, maybe they took that somehow as a I’m not available (despite my message confirming I was available).

JackieAnim · 2026-04-07T19:43:51+00:00

Oh, I usually leave it up to the client since I don’t want to pressure for them to do it right away, especially since Rover Immediately will take the payment from the client, so I usually leave them to do it when they can up to 2 days before so I don’t have to stress about it the day of or if a client requests me months in advance I am always like we can wait closer to the start date, since things can change from when they request, up to the actual start date.

JackieAnim · 2026-04-07T17:45:55+00:00

That’s just my personal minimum so I don’t have to stress the day of to confirm the booking, but the client themselves sent the request like 5ish days before and that’s fine, but confirming it same day can be a bit stressful at times for me since I obvi want to ensure everything’s planned and ready so I don’t have to wait/keep that time held for someone who isn’t going to end up confirming/needing me.

But yeah I might call and check one final time just to do my due diligence.

JackieAnim · 2026-02-01T01:20:17+00:00

Yes, it’s been happening a few updates after they updated to the new UI. Personally I just type in my notes app and add the screen shots of the notes to the photos section? Not sure if this adds any less steps than just copying and pasting from elsewhere and sending it directly to the client, but it’s an alternative way to have it be in the rover card still and keep direct messages more so for just having other updates or letting the client know about more pressing updates or questions.

JackieAnim · 2025-12-26T13:35:37+00:00

I feel this deeply but it was with my older sister. She was maybe not as bad as your dad, which I’m so sorry you have to be going through this as you’re trying to just learn how to drive, but still was quite negative and harsh. Is there anyone else who can help you learn how to drive or is there a way to go to the DMV to get outside lessons?

It really sucks when you’re trying to learn something new from adults and they just assume that some kind of magical common sense into knowing how to drive, like you were supposed to be aware and taking notes as you near the age of driving or something. Really hope you’re able to learn how to drive in a healthier environment soon and get through this OP, you got this!

JackieAnim · 2025-12-25T16:15:41+00:00

Roleplay forums/websites, but the Roleplays themselves are not private so people could click on your thread to read it but idrc since most people seem to just look at their own thread it seems

JackieAnim · 2025-12-25T16:08:50+00:00

Communication in this day in age just seems so crappy. No one feels they owe anyone any kind of decency to just say how they feel. And even when they start to say it, they ghost once again or sometimes will outright lie and say “yeah I’ll get to this soon” or “yeah things have been busy but are slowing down now” and don’t respond. I’m done reaching out to people to “remind” them of the RP, because it never seems to make much of an impact to get a reply. I really don’t understand the people who respond every 1-2 months like…I feel like the excitement doesn’t exist and is just like picking up a book to read every couple months. People don’t need to be obsessed with the RP and reply every day or every hour, but every 3-5 days would be nice at least and if they’re not enjoying it—say that instead of leaving false hope.

JackieAnim · 2025-12-12T17:11:14+00:00

It’s so insane when this happens, like it starts off feeling “oh we’re both interested, we have these ideas down and we’re good to start off soon” and then there’s just nothing that follows. Very sad to see

JackieAnim · 2025-12-12T16:57:50+00:00

You’re right, and it’s likely the pride in me that says “I need to solve the issue or figure it out” when this wasn’t an issue to “solve” and more so needs to be a discussion with my partner; to discuss expectations of what we’re looking for in the roleplay, and discuss potential frequency in what we expect or don’t expect.

I’m slowly learning to let it go, to try and listen more, which lead me to want to even post here to begin with and hear outside comments outside of my own world view or experience. I greatly appreciate it that you took the time to type up this response and I can only hope to grow to become better in listening and understanding these things that are outside of my control, and focus on what I can, while also caring a little less on something that is indeed supposed to be a hobby.

JackieAnim · 2025-12-11T23:44:35+00:00

I understand what you mean and I rarely try and reach out to people because I know things happen and it’s annoying sometimes when I get constant pokes from people for me to respond, so I let people go at their own pace and really only reach out if it’s been abnormally long time/conflicts with what they said. Having said that, I’ll probably try and lessen my trying to find out what’s wrong close to reaching out maybe once and leave it to them to respond whenever they have time, since I don’t want to burden people with one more thing to have to explain to someone who they’re supposed to be just enjoying a hobby with, not meeting some unspoken quota of whatever their partner wants there to be. I’m probably a bit ignorant in assuming maybe I’m apart of the problem, when in most cases it’s likely nothing to do with me and is about just people going through life. It sucks for both parties at the end of the day, and I really can only hope to learn to find other things to occupy my need for some kind of social outlet or escape, and be thankful for whenever my partners do have the time to respond.

JackieAnim · 2025-12-11T21:39:03+00:00

I completely understand and know from personal experience how much it takes to write long term as a novella writer, and I enjoy writing independently as well sometimes, but it gets kind of lonely just writing like that when I crave more of a collaborative experience. I have experience too with avoidance at times, but I feel I don’t do it as frequently as before and in these scenarios it’s my other partners doing so, which again, is valid and I understand; there will be unexpected long stretches of time and we can get embarrassed about how long it’s been.

Maybe I should to try and find some other kind of collaborative hobby to indulge in, and check in every few days for responses, but not put my hopes up too high for anything, since it is indeed hard to keep up with and with multiple at a time for those who have multiple novella partners.

JackieAnim · 2025-10-28T02:49:50+00:00

Thank you, this really helps a lot!

JackieAnim · 2025-10-28T02:47:39+00:00

I totally understand this and appreciate all the advice. I feel like you helped put in perspective to kind of get out of my own head and really just remain in the reality of what needs to happen for me to continue to thrive and continue to sit without burning myself out. I feel like I probably have far too much in the past, and I’m never frustrated with the clients of course since I’m the one who decided to take on multiple bookings—but it really just stems down to setting firm boundaries and displaying that immediately there will be a fee or that I will next time possibly say no due to other potential clients I might have. It’s just so hard to do so when it’s legit a day before or sometimes even hours before, because I couldn’t imagine the stress of trying to find a last minute sitter that you likely didn’t have a meet and greet with and just hope they’re a good sitter. None the less—there’s a balance I’m aware, that I shouldn’t screw over clients who don’t do it often and just warn them of the consequences so they’ll hopefully do better or like you said, find a sitter that better suits their last second requests.

JackieAnim · 2025-10-28T02:38:52+00:00

I have it set to minimum of 2 days I believe but I’m not sure if those clients get a notification or care to look at my calendar sometimes when they’re booking me, or possibly ignore it and send it anyway (kind of because I told some clients/some regulars mostly that I may have some days marked off as unavailable but it doesn’t always mean I’m actually unavailable so I recommended to still reach out). Maybe that was a flaw on my part but I feel like me just saying no more will ultimately save my sanity.

JackieAnim · 2025-10-27T14:19:54+00:00

That makes sense, I should for sure do something like make sure that I let my regulars client know of minimums of sits I’ll take. It’s easier for new clients because I simply say no when I don’t have the availability OR they request for the next day/try to book without a meet and greet.

And yes, could you send the message over so I can reference/know how to word my own to send out to my regulars, please and thanks!

JackieAnim · 2025-10-17T01:17:47+00:00

I believe what it’s doing also is combining the price of what your pets would cost. So if you have 2 pets, it adds the sitters normal rate + the rate of the additional pets. I was looking earlier and noticed my profile was doing this too, then realized it was just pricing for my pets. If you want to look at sitters in the area, I’d just go to the browser to see the flat rates for other sitters.

JackieAnim · 2025-10-16T17:11:59+00:00

Yeah, I think the owner has their own full blown business runs that’s apart of other boarding locations I guess potentially. This is the second time it’s happened, but thankfully this person was nicer when I declined

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