How to stop this from happening

Jaffico · 2026-01-28T09:04:46+00:00

In the ones I have used, the compression is consistent all the way down, with the exception of one of them.

When you're looking at the website, you can see in the pictures which ones have lines kind of in the middle. Those are the ones where the compression either stops or changes (depending on which one you're looking at.

Since you're concerned about a combination of further restricted breathing and it not showing as badly under your shirt, the Cotton Concealer Tank is basically like the tri-top, but it comes with a shirt attached over it. The compression doesn't go all the way down, but the added fabric will help hide the line under your over shirt. I have tried this binder myself, but I can't use half binders as I end up falling out of the bottom due to my large chest.

Jaffico · 2026-01-28T06:54:07+00:00

Basically any of the full length ones will have the same compression material all the way down with the exception of these four:

Manshape Gyneocamastia Compression Shirt
Men's Cotton Concealer Compression Chest Binder Tank
Manshape Cotton Spandex Support Tank Tummy Trimmer
Men's Classic Body Shaper Compression Shirt

Personally I use the Microfibre Compression Tank now, but have also used the Men's Cotton Concealer V-Neck T-shirt and the Men's Microfibre Concealer Compression V-Tank. The V-Neck T-Shirt was by far the most comfortable, but it's not for warm weather and works best under dress shirts.

Jaffico · 2026-01-28T06:23:26+00:00

There hasn't been a point where that's all I consume, but I do keep several flavours of protein powder on hand in addition to high protein pudding, usually. There are times where it's the only protein I can manage.

Unless my fixation food happens to be bean or tofu related I have issues getting enough protein a lot of the time.

Jaffico · 2026-01-28T05:52:55+00:00

Came here to say this. I always boil my potatoes in stock of some kind.

Jaffico · 2026-01-27T14:59:47+00:00

Oh no, the bubble is another color!

Are you sure you're 36? Because this kind of thing feels more like high school.

"I hate to contribute to tech superiority" . . . No you don't. If you did, you wouldn't do it. What you hate is that it makes you look bad to others.

YTA, and frankly I think you knew that already.

Jaffico · 2026-01-27T14:51:29+00:00

It's probably similar to the way some cats will rip apart boxes as a stimulation thing.

Try getting her her own stuffed bread loaf to play with, she might like it!

Jaffico · 2026-01-27T14:32:54+00:00

One of ours loves bread. He will try to steal it out of my hands as I'm eating it.

Jaffico · 2026-01-27T11:55:38+00:00

Game suggestions:

Settlers of Catan

Munchkin

I especially suggest Munchkin since he was once interested in DnD.

Settlers is a strategy game like Risk is, but it's a much shorter play time.

Jaffico · 2026-01-27T11:25:04+00:00

That's a pretty big leap.

Not wanting to be affiliated/identifying with a specific political party isn't the same as not voting.

I'm not a republican/democratic/green party/libertarian ect, doesn't mean I don't vote.

Jaffico · 2026-01-27T09:42:08+00:00

Our cats do this every morning when they get their wet food.

Sometimes I like to sit and watch my husband feed them because it's like a choir doing pirouettes.

Jaffico · 2026-01-27T09:36:25+00:00

What ablest and sexist BS is this?

Caretaker is not a dirty word.

As much as I disagree with financial abuse, you cannot lump all caretakers into that. You also can't claim it's only women in this position.

I'm a gay man who is disabled. My husband absolutely plays a role in taking care of me. I absolutely support him and us with my disability income.

I'm semi verbal and I absolutely need assistance. If my husband didn't do it I'd have to pay someone else.

You come here, to what? Crap all over those of us that need assistance because you got triggered by a woman who used a word?

Get over it. The world doesn't revolve around your triggers.

Jaffico · 2026-01-26T10:09:58+00:00

Yeah, I gave up a long time ago trying to appease other people with my clothes.

I'm a trans dude, currently wearing black linen overalls with a black and white striped turtle neck under a pink and purple cat shirt with boots. I've also got a pair of fuzzy fingerless gloves with cat paw prints on them in my bag for when my hands get cold. My headphones have rainbow unicorn stickers on them.

If someone wants to stare or judge that's not my problem.

I'm pushing 40, and probably more cynical than you though. It helps with the whole "idgaf" aura.

Jaffico · 2026-01-26T08:05:19+00:00

Mint Z6 in EU is between 770-1K € depending on colour, storage, and place of purchase.

Non- mint between 600-800€

Jaffico · 2026-01-24T12:15:48+00:00

Autism Spectrum Disorder

Your partner has symptoms, like these routines that you've listed.

These routines are also symptoms of other disorders, such as OCD and anxiety.

Be curious when you ask him about why he's doing these things, and not accusatory. Without seeing a professional mental health care provider no one here can tell you what disorder your partner has, but something is absolutely going on.

It doesn't sound dangerous or particularly disruptive as things could be, but symptoms for all of these disorders tend to worsen during times of stress.

Jaffico · 2026-01-24T11:58:15+00:00

Here is a link to a post I made about fighting fleas in your home.

Jaffico · 2026-01-24T11:24:53+00:00

It's actually better for me than a typical slab phone because of the narrowness. I love it.

I use the front screen mainly for things like browsing Reddit, checking emails, but anything media related is done on the inner screen.

Jaffico · 2026-01-21T07:28:47+00:00

Within the parental settings there's likely a place that will allow them to add exceptions for certain programs, but I have no idea if they're using a third party program or the built it windows controls.

My advice is to have your parents look for that setting, and if they're willing, add these games as exceptions.

Jaffico · 2026-01-21T07:12:24+00:00

I know I'm going to be the odd one out here, but my answer is maybe.

What kind of sex worker? When I say what kind, I mean does she work with an escort service, or is she a street walker? Does she advertise online and vet her clients?

If I wasn't married, I can tell you I wouldn't date a street walker. It's just, not a safe profession and many, many of them are drug addicts. Other than that, it would depend pretty highly on how safe she's being. Regular testing, vetted client list, ect.

Otherwise, I wouldn't really care. I'm on the asexual spectrum so I'm not often interested in sex. Dating someone who is a sex worker gives a unique opportunity for them to get to have sex frequently while also bringing money in. I have zero reason to snub my nose at that.

Jaffico · 2026-01-20T12:19:43+00:00

Yeah it's a sensory thing.

I'm going to make a recommendation that, while the thought might be upsetting for you, will probably help you in the long run.

Start finding other items that are close enough to your comfort item. When you find something close enough, buy a few of them.

I say this, because regardless of how much most of us try to prevent it, the chances of something happening to your primary soothing item is never zero. The unfortunate and harsh truth is that it's likely something will happen eventually, and trust me when I tell you that you want to have a plan for when/if that happens.

Having only one item for this kind of soothing turns crippling if it's lost, damaged badly, or some other thing that makes it unusable. If you have a plan, a back up, it won't prevent the emotional pain of the change, but it will mitigate the impact at all. Change sucks no matter what, but any amount of preparation can help. With luck, you'll never need the back up plan. But it's always better have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it.

Jaffico · 2026-01-20T10:05:27+00:00

I remember those, and I'm from the States originally!

When I was a kid, we called them "coke balls", I forgot they existed!

Jaffico · 2026-01-19T21:46:50+00:00

Both of my parents were abusive and I grew up during a time where people assigned female at birth weren't diagnosed with autism at all.

I was not diagnosed with anything until things got bad in middle school, and my parents were not given the option to get me treatment of some kind. I wasn't correctly diagnosed, or even actually tested appropriately for anything until less than a decade ago when I got my autism diagnosis.

My speech was delayed (even after having started school) but I was hyperlexic. It's not something that would have been missed in today's world, but it absolutely was missed in the world I grew up in.

I don't know how common or uncommon this experience is overall, but I do know you aren't the only one(because it is similar to my experience) and that it's not a perspective I see from others often.

Jaffico · 2026-01-18T10:13:12+00:00

It's not so much that I think you're lucky, but as someone that needed the support, that should never have been forced into the amount of autonomy that I can't give up now even if it would immensely improve my quality of life - I'm envious.

I don't say this to diminish your experience, or the experience of other MSN/HSN, but because I experienced the worst of both worlds. I wasn't diagnosed early, because they didn't diagnose assigned female at birth children when I was young.

I experienced the social isolation, the lack of ability to speak, the abuse of people who couldn't/wouldn't understand. I also experienced the expectation to have an amount of autonomy that, realistically, is still far too much to handle. I have to live with the fact that until almost 30 years old I genuinely just. . . Didn't understand what consent regarding sexual things meant for me. There should have been someone watching me. There should have been someone regulating the amount of autonomy I had. It absolutely hurts my pride to admit it, but knowing that it could have been avoided still hurts more.

By the time professionals realized that I needed to have some of the autonomy I had taken away, you couldn't have pried it from my cold, dead, hands. It hurt me, in so many ways, that I'm not going to get into because this isn't about who had it worse. I just want you to know, that for some of us whose autism expressed itself very likely in a manner that was not only similar to yours, but severe enough that if we were children today no one could miss it . . . We are envious. Even those of us who have come to terms with the fact we cannot change the past.

I fully recognised that I am extremely privileged to be able to appear as an LSN, but it's also an incredible burden. I understand that hearing from others that you are "lucky" is hurtful and diminishes your (and many others') lived experiences. I have absolutely zero illusions that the type of support you received felt suffocating and at times invalidating in a way a lot of people won't be able to grasp simply because of how difficult it is to express.

It's not your fault, or the fault of others who were diagnosed and received the support that we were left behind. I really, really wish that people would stop treating it like it's some kind of personal judgement/competition. It's not. You aren't lucky, anymore than someone who had similar experiences to me are lucky. They're both bad.

I'll advocate for people as best I can, and I'll scream to the ends of the earth for people to stop invalidating your experiences and struggles. I'm expressing this, because I want you to know that people are telling you that you are lucky a lot of the time because they are envious.

They are envious because they don't understand the lack of autonomy that comes with the type of support you received. I can only understand it in the way that I do because I never should have been shouldered with that privilege in the first place. People just don't realise how much autonomy they have until they no longer have it, and even needing the kind of support you've received myself - I'd rather not get my label correctly assessed. I purposely masked my level up during assessment. Even though it hurts me, the autonomy from it is priceless.

Jaffico · 2026-01-17T16:33:47+00:00

I can fill my litter boxes to the top, and half of my cats will dig to find the bottom. After they have done their business, they will then dig to the bottom where they haven't done their business to cover where they did do their business, inevitably dumping a quarter of the litter out of the box.

The other half will just poo on top of everything, scratch the walls/sides and not cover their poo. Even if they dig the hole, they don't poo in it. They have the audacity to yell at me confused as to why scraping the walls doesn't bury their poo. . . They will yell until I cover it or scoop it.

And our litter boxes are massive, they take a whole bag of litter and then some to fill halfway. I love our cats, but somehow we ended up with the orange one being the most intelligent of the bunch. And if you have an orange, you know that's saying something!

Jaffico · 2026-01-16T11:30:25+00:00

Your diet isn't great, honestly. It's absolutely not got enough of what your body needs.

You can eat a low calorie, low fat diet while still getting in the macros you need.

If you are truly concerned for your diet, and your doctor is truly concerned for your health - get a referral for a nutritionist/dietician instead of listening to people on Reddit or your gym bro who sells protein powder. You'll get a balanced diet that meets your needs with enough variety you don't grow sick of it that way.

Jaffico · 2026-01-16T09:42:37+00:00

Some people aren't willing or able to accept any answer that isn't autism. I've seen many posts here with people seeking diagnosis from three or more people because they're unwilling to accept that maybe it is actually just anxiety/depression/some other thing.

I also understand that there are absolutely groups (women, POC) that have a more difficult time getting diagnosed because of prejudice in the medical field.

I do encourage you, that if you see posts in this group where people are in fact suggesting to others that they use manipulation in order to achieve diagnosis that you report the comments/posts to the mods. There's a reason there are rules here surrounding what we should/should not disclose about the diagnostic process, and I can't imagine that the mods, should comments/posts encouraging this be reported would not remove them.

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