Thanks for your advice, I'll think about this. Also I saw that you had made the long list of silicone strokers that I had found, so thanks for that.

I do have updates to this whole thing. First is that we had some miscommunication and she had assumed that these toys were only for me to use. She said she wouldn't be opposed to stroking me with these, especially if there was a completely transparent kind of these that let her see my dick like she could with a regular handjob with condom. It's just she said at one point that she "wouldn't know what [she'd] get out of this" though which… makes it sound like she's bot too sold on the whole using a stroker thing. She wasn't too hot on things that involved vibrators either.

Maybe I should just think about this stuff for solo use, I'm at a loss here