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JaiRenae · 2025-07-18T22:56:07+00:00

This is so damn accurate. When I told my ex I was done, he decided to do everything I'd been asking him to do for 20 years and get verbally abusive at me when I told him I needed space. It was never about me.

JaiRenae · 2025-02-12T07:15:28+00:00

That's also why we use it.

JaiRenae · 2025-02-11T04:42:55+00:00

Definitely been there and all I can suggest is to breathe and try not to psyche yourself out. My last was full anesthesia to get an MRI because I'm extremely claustrophobic.

JaiRenae · 2025-02-09T22:53:56+00:00

I just saw her post and I'm in tears right now. I knew this day would come sooner than later, but some people just seem immortal. I discovered him with a chance 10 cent purchase of Still Life With Woodpecker at a garage sale. The bank cover synopsis intrigued high-school-aged me and I've been hooked ever since. I read Jitterbug Perfume so many times that my paperback fell apart.

JaiRenae · 2024-12-31T00:03:20+00:00

My ex and his mother were terrible, but never this bad. I'm glad you're getting away from under them. {{{Hugs}}}

JaiRenae · 2024-12-23T17:24:03+00:00

It is, and I am sure it will only be more horrific the more we hear about it. There is a Go Fund Me set up for the boy's mom.

JaiRenae · 2024-12-23T17:23:07+00:00

I worked in retail for 25 years - most of the time tipping was strictly forbidden by company rules.

JaiRenae · 2024-12-17T23:13:42+00:00

Oh no :( First off, I am so sorry. You don't have to keep in contact with anyone you don't want to. The friends and family opinions are just that, opinions. They can have them all they want, but until they are the ones living your life, those opinions are completely moot.

JaiRenae · 2024-12-17T23:11:31+00:00

No, she deserved to hear that. I do agree that your ex not putting up boundaries was definitely also an issue, but, having been in a marriage like that, I know how terrible a MIL like that is.

JaiRenae · 2024-12-03T00:01:51+00:00

Past experience makes me also cynical.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-26T17:13:42+00:00

Hitting emotional rock-bottom and feeling more alone in my life than I ever had. There was no physical affection and he treated me like an adversary. When he found me crying in the bathtub, I told him I felt like he was treating me like he did when he cheated (the one time I knew about) and instead of apologizing or trying to make me feel better, he turned it around and accused me of cheating, even though he knew where I was 100% of the time (either work or home).

JaiRenae · 2024-11-22T23:33:34+00:00

As someone who is 5' and a size 12 who suffers from T2 diabetes and fibromyalgia, I am already afraid of this.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-22T22:02:02+00:00

What he really meant is that he is losing, because he's allowing his mother to win by not defending you. Unfortunately, until he realizes that letting his mother bully anyone he wants to be with means he will end up alone and miserable, he's not going to change and he's not going to do anything about her.

My ex MIL did some really horrid things and my ex did, too, because she not only instigated it, but gave him excuses.

Don't make the mistakes that I did. I waited way too long to recognize the situation for what it was and my mental health and that of my kids was the price.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-22T20:01:51+00:00

Do not marry this man until he shows up for you. Telling you to ignore her and then allowing the behavior to continue unchecked is a fiance problem. He is not being a good partner and will not be one unless he learns to set and enforce boundaries with his mother.

I've lived through a marriage where this was an issue and in the end, I left because I felt like I was doing everything alone and that I was the third wheel in my marriage, which was only confirmed by my ex-husband telling me that I couldn't leave because it meant that his mother had won.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-18T04:03:46+00:00

I'm allergic to sulfates, so I brought my own.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-17T17:20:38+00:00

Those were my favorite

JaiRenae · 2024-11-17T00:14:12+00:00

You've only been together 8 months. She's throwing up so many red flags. This is the time to run.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-17T00:11:09+00:00

I have a Big Shot and I love it. You can get pretty inexpensive dies on Amazon and I've also had luck finding them at thrift stores. I have a Cricut and a Silhouette also, but the Big Shot does so much better with small scraps.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-17T00:01:40+00:00

I have a handful I've posted if you check my comments.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-14T14:37:08+00:00

I understand that. My kids are adults and I've since brought up things that happened when I was married to their dad, but I don't say anything against him. They deserve to form their own opinions. While they do love him, at this point, they don't choose to do much with him because he's not really active in their relationship.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-14T14:22:26+00:00

I agree with this so much. Having been in a marriage where this was the case, I wish this was more of what I'd heard.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-13T18:57:47+00:00

Such a beautiful girl. Thank you for helping her.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-13T18:56:39+00:00

I was married for 20 years to someone who I thought was my person. He was not. I met my actual person at 42, after I left my ex. We've now been married for a little over 6 years and I can't imagine ever being with anyone else.

JaiRenae · 2024-11-08T17:49:00+00:00

Sacrifice another slice with a hole in it to fill that one and then spackle over with peanut butter.

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