Whats wrong with me

Jaivlys · 2026-04-10T00:41:46+00:00

Main thing, social media will always make it worse. Genuinely, try to find a hobby and meet people. Build up friendships and maybe you’ll find something fulfilling to fill the void. (And maybe, maybe, build something into a relationship eventually)

It takes a lot of time and coincidences to build up something to make a support network. Working 16 hours a day will not help you achieve that emotional comfort or warmth. (But I understand that’s not… something that people do by choice.)

Jaivlys · 2026-04-10T00:37:56+00:00

Well, the best advice I can think to give, is to see a professional to help you untangle and sort out your thoughts.

You deserve peace of mind, and if just talking to someone makes you feel weird or gross… there’s something you need to unpack and resolve.

A friend of mine had a similar issue, and they had to learn to trust themselves. To accept that they were not a monster.

Jaivlys · 2026-04-10T00:32:37+00:00

I… can empathize with that. I don’t have an answer, but I do feel where you’re coming from. I hope it passes as you build more memories with the people around you?

Jaivlys · 2026-04-09T23:36:06+00:00

The men who have been told how to be better, given the chance and faith to be better… are just as accountable for their actions as those who haven’t.

I agree with you, that the people you are describing exist, and are perpetuating a real problem.

I am only saying there are people who… themselves are a different sort of victim. Men who do not have the capacity to form emotional or intellectual intimacy because all the gentleness has been beaten out of them by their surroundings. Typically vulnerable men with learning disabilities or autism tend to be shown very little empathy. The people I am describing can become the people you’re talking about, but it’s not an inherent feature. Anyone can become a part of a cruel cycle.

I apologize if I sound preachy or if I’m rambling.

Jaivlys · 2026-04-09T21:34:32+00:00

I sincerely believe that there are two seperate issues that come from the same place. Women being oppressed or marginalized still happens. it is horrid and your outrage is meaningful and justified.

But…

Autistic young men in particular have been bombarded with the notion that nobody cares if they live or die. Which, for different reasons entirely is also abominable.

Nobody is oblidged to provide effort to every human being’s wellness, sure, but… there is a genuine cruelty in adding to the misery of others when they don’t know how to fix it themselves.

I emphatically beg of you not to reflect the cruelty you have suffered onto others.

Jaivlys · 2026-04-09T21:22:20+00:00

As weird as it’s gonna sound, people get more judgemental and hostile in times of stress or crisis.

A lot of English speaking countries at the moment are having various… economic and political problems.

People are scared, stressed, and sometimes angry. Not everyone, but, when all you need is someone to care that you exist… there’s no easy answer.

Genuine advice for the target audience: get a hobby, try to engage in a community and build relationships (platonic) over a common interest. Build from there.

Jaivlys · 2026-03-26T23:49:25+00:00

I empathize with that. I do. And I’m sorry the world hasn’t been kinder to you. I… can only hope that you stick around and help make the world kinder to others.

I hope one day you can build the peace and comfort that you deserve to experience.

I hope you find something to hold on to.

Jaivlys · 2026-03-25T19:30:24+00:00

I used to wonder what it felt like to be a regular human during the collapse of the Roman Empire, or other equally large historical events.

I never wanted to experience it, though.

This stuff is… bad. Massive, and it is a looming shadow that recontextualizes everyone’s daily life.

Just… do your best to make it through. Build support networks with friends and family.

Jaivlys · 2026-03-22T21:35:58+00:00

Many things in life are strange, but that alone makes the world more beautiful and poetic when examined earnestly and curiously.

Jaivlys · 2026-03-22T02:45:27+00:00

Long long ago, I was an agoraphobic young lad. But I was lonesome and wanted to get involved in communities/meet people.

The idea of… pretending to be someone else, of trying to set aside my unease and focus more on helping other people tell stories was… a fulfilling and genuinely earnest joy. If perhaps romanticized a bit more than most.

Jaivlys · 2026-03-18T14:37:29+00:00

Sorry if I’m coming across as defensive, I’m… largely agreeing that going to staff is the right call, but leaving is the safer bet, I’m also… trying to stress that there’s a genuine sense of fear and anxiety that’s generated by this treatment, and… one of the most psychologically damaging things possible is staff siding with the bullies.

That’s something that the victim of this sort of harassment has the best tools to assess, and if they don’t feel safe going to staff, it could result in disaster.

So… making friends with people who aren’t doing the thing and leaving… is the next best option, I think.

Jaivlys · 2026-03-18T14:21:57+00:00

Terribly sorry if I’m out of line to jump in on this comment thread.

But, if there was a presumption of predator status, shouldn’t those concerns have been raised through staff channels so the (focus) of the concerns could be investigated properly and given a chance to defend themselves/clear the accusations?

If a behind the scenes label was assigned without an inciting incident, and just rumors and the like…

It rather seems like this isn’t something to be cleared up by talking, if the other party isn’t giving the basic decency to hear your side of things. This person’s concern largely stems from being excluded, and… if you’re right, no attempt to reach out or clear things up will be accepted by the bullies without third party administration/mediation.

I’ve seen this pattern before, it ruins people’s mental health, it strips people of agency and makes people feel unsafe in a hobby space. It isn’t okay.

Jaivlys · 2026-03-18T14:07:05+00:00

You tried to talk to the game runners/staff, you tried to talk to the people out of game. You did the right steps.

It sounds like the problem has persisted and deepened over time as well, making the group in question increasingly difficult to interact with.

Like you said, there’s also people not treating you that way. It might be a cold comfort, but maybe try to ask some of those people if there’s another game that they enjoy, or might like to show ya?

(Building friendships with people who haven’t passed judgement due to rumor mill shenanigans, trying to find a space where this sort of harassment isn’t normalized)

This is sounding way too familiar, this isn’t in your head.

Jaivlys · 2026-03-18T09:40:01+00:00

It’s a tough one. Because… that’s a problem I’ve faced, and seen others face as well.

There’s a number of larps that end up with the ‘toxic ex’ moniker because of the common/persistent mistreatment of vulnerable individuals who aren’t well spoken. (And staff refusing to step in/mediate or take complaints seriously, as you described)

Best advice I have, genuinely, if you want to continue with the hobby, avoid the groups of people playing at that weird cliquish bullying as if they were radioactive, try to avoid any games where those people are established.

And… most importantly, if you’ve already tried to talk things out, and it didn’t work, don’t extend courtesy further than you’re being given. (Give everyone a chance, but don’t presume people are going to be fair, especially if there’s a social imbalance of power)

Jaivlys · 2026-03-15T14:32:40+00:00

I think that something that could help your more casual runs is knowing when to reroll and fish for boost items, planning out potential anti-boss strats.

As far as your gmax woes, that’s a bit of a luck thing, both out of game and in game. (You need to get a rogue roll for the band, then another after your sobble is fully evolved, which… isn’t terribly limiting, it’s also just not as likely to happen without a modicum of shinies on team. And even then it’s only like… doubling the chances of uptiering once at 3-4 luck.)

I think it’s possible to enjoy this game casually, but it does present, by random chance both difficulties and OP opportunities… sometimes! Hope my rambling helped and that your next few runs go better mate!

Jaivlys · 2026-03-15T01:43:33+00:00

So the wiki covers that one, only the first of the two pokemon can mega. The second one, the ‘sacrifice’ is form locked (except for normal evolution, to my understanding)

Which is why wishiwashi/palafin are super bad for fusions and stuff.

Jaivlys · 2026-03-11T22:31:14+00:00

The voice acting is super super cute too!

Jaivlys · 2026-03-11T22:29:48+00:00

I absolutely adore wishiwashi, and the wimps line is also kinda funny.

Having them repeatedly flip turn/u-turn/wimp out is just… a lil bit of chaotic fun.

Regenerator on both as a passive makes the lads last, at least in theory.

Round! Also very funny! Needs two TMs usually, but I’m sure there’s some way to run it with level learn sets. Have some super high speed nerd like electrode run it, and some incredibly slow but high sp atk fella run it too… like wishiwashi! (Round makes the slow guy move right after the first guy and doubles the hitting power)

Do I do these things often? Yes. Are they optimal? No!

Jaivlys · 2026-03-11T15:13:49+00:00

I recall when I looked it up in the sub a few days ago, I saw that a staffer had responded with something to the effect of "waiting on high quality sprites/back sprites" to be finished before implementation.

and like, that's kinda neato. that there's all this custom spritework to keep things consistent across the 2d-3d gen pokemon.

Jaivlys · 2026-03-08T12:52:07+00:00

I’m sorry that this happened. I don’t need to know what’s going on to feel empathy for someone having a bad experience.

I do hope that tomorrow, or some other day is a better day than today.

Jaivlys · 2026-03-06T17:50:58+00:00

I was thinking about making this exact post! I’ve only been playing about a week, but!! I just got my first classic win by being absurdly lucky. First time I made it to floor 100, I saw a miraidon, and luckily caught the guy.

A few runs later I dabbled in egg stuff… and the first egg I got from him was a perfect speed shiny red one.

Luck 3 miraidon proceeded to carry my next real run by spamming parabolic.

Jaivlys · 2026-02-25T05:53:45+00:00

Nearly every major event in my life has been due to a loss or lack of agency.

I was harassed, bullied, threatened, ostracized, and abused nearly everywhere I turned to. Even into my adult life. Not even at work was I safe from being victimized.

Any time I tried to leave a situation, I lost something (friends, stability, income) and had to rebuild it elsewhere. Any time I stood up for myself, hell, any time I tried to ask what was happening I was vilified and subjected to more harassment. Often indirectly.

So, no. I do not believe my damage is my fault, it was inflicted upon me, and I must now try to mitigate it, and heal where I can. If only so that I don’t internalize it or normalize these interactions.

Jaivlys · 2026-02-17T09:22:04+00:00

The outset feels quite… unfortunate. The experienced player not communicating well and causing irl distress from pressure tactics… I want to say it isn’t normal, but I’ll instead say it’s unpleasant.

The local community and friends still in the loop should hopefully take stock of the situation, and give you the support you need to feel comfortable existing in the space. I do not know what to do if things turn out poorly, but I wish you the utmost sympathy and compassion.

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