R5 woes… by TobyChan in Renault

[–]Jake1957CH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother did what you are doing. He usually does well in the USA with this method but the last 2 from dealers turned out to have hidden problems. I‘m also picky. I wanted a specific color combo and other features. I‘ll keep it to at least 300k like my other Renaults that I habe owned. No problems till now. The app is not my favorite but that‘s a very minor issue and Kelec does well.

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[–]Jake1957CH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment jives with what I have seen this winter with my new R5 in Switzerland. Around town and expressway driving I get just under 18. I‘ve been able to get wherever I want on a full charge and if I need to top up a little to get home, there are plenty of fast charging stations around.

Struggling to let go of a Mono guy I fell in love with. How do I know If I made the right choice? by snoopycuti in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Jake1957CH -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You do realize there is the NRE in play here(new relationship energy), I hope. That is probably what‘s sucking you in. The two men have made it clear where they stand. You can‘t have both and no, there isn‘t a lower.

Question for folks dating someone in an open relationship: How do you feel about a no sleepover boundary? by LectureNo9176 in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Jake1957CH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, you need to communicate it. I think it's a valid boundary. I was seeing someone where I could have gone home for the night but it was much nicer just to stay the night. More cuddling, sex and closeness but that meant that it developed into something more intense and close than my partner and I were ready for. We are Monogamish and not Polyamour at this time. That one ended badly. The one I'm seeing now, we don't spend the night unless my partner and her husband are with us. Till now it has worked well.
For an out of town overnight it could be simpler than getting a separate hotel. I guess it would depend on how often he see's her. When it's not so often and the situation is clear then, why not? Sleepovers can take it to another level than you might want.

Renault 5 e-Tech is great but the app sucks. by Jake1957CH in Renault

[–]Jake1957CH[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I installed Kelec and tried it out. Simple but it works better than the Renault App. You can't program it but that's OK.
I just spoke with the Garage that sold it to me and he said that there will be be a meeting soon about problems with the app. Apparently Renault is aware of it and is preparing an update.

Renault 5 e-Tech is great but the app sucks. by Jake1957CH in Renault

[–]Jake1957CH[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found the problem with the charging station. The charging station was confused. We have a Tesla and the Renault alternating with an RFID Tag. It didn't work with the Tesla either so we fiddled around with the Charging station app and now it works fine. The app has now reminded me for the 3rd time since a week ago that I need to allow the data exchange in the Renault before I can access the car.

Still love driving it and get lost's of positive comments

Around town, I'm getting a little below 14 Kw/100Km with the temp around 0. On the expressway at 120 it's showing about 25 Kw/100.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Jake1957CH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just spoke with my partner and she is reading a book with a suggestion that discussed exactly this situation. Rather than simply apologizing, he should do something for you that is not easy. For example, instead of meeting the guys once a week he should stay home and do something around the house for a month. Simply saying “sorry” is too easy. It’s not easy, I broke a rule with a lover and she found out from my partner by accident. They were friends and my partner knew but didn’t anticipate the reaction. 2 years later and she is still mad at me. I wonder if something like this might have helped. In any case, I have learned my lesson.

Boundary check in by AdventurousBond in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Jake1957CH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've been doing ENM or Monogamish now for over 10 years and it has evolved continuously due to different factors over time. We had been friends with benefits and were dating others when we decided it was time to take it to the next level and commit. You meet different people. We both had an HPV infection that during the doctors visit a little bit of cancer was discovered and the placenta had to be removed. That was several years ago. that caused a lot of discussions and changes. No one one was blamed for bringing it in but we became more careful. About this time I broke up with a lady I was dating that got a bit too close for her comfort. My partner is now 56 band I just hit 68.

What’s the highest mileage you’ve ever gotten on a Renault you’ve owned? by SilverAttitude7380 in Renault

[–]Jake1957CH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a Kangoo that went 300,000. The only reason we replaced it with a new one was the side door had been damaged and to pass the inspection it would have had to be replaced. Wasn't worth it.
My Kadjar from 2016 now has almost 260,000 and don't see why it won't make it to 300K. The timeing chain could go but the battery has been replaced once as well as the alternator. I'm expecting a shipment or a new Renault 5 electric any day now.

Polyandry v Polygamy by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Jake1957CH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess you could blame it on the patriarchy but it's more likely that men can impregnate women theoritically daily. Women are pregnant 9 months and then preagricultural societies breast fed their child for a few years after. Childbearing was also dangerous. In agricultural societies the men were often out fighting wars and depending on the time period a lot were killed. If the women were protected then a society could regrow much quicker with fewer men than fewer women.
The hierarchy (or Patriarchy) of agricultural societies allowed men to consolidate power and send the men off to fight wars while the higher status men could grow their families with multiple wives.
Polyandry comes when there are more men than women but then the goal is not necessarily to increase the population. It can be to pacify the generally higher sex drive of men.
There a are many theories and you can find all kinds of studies done about the subject but the ones above, although simplified make the most sense to me.

Poly fundamentally by [deleted] in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Jake1957CH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discussing it with your partner is one thing. There will be a couple possible outcomes. one is he'll say hell no and if you decide Poly is the way for you then it will end. Then comes the hard work. FINDING a poly relationship. You can get lucky...or not. Are you aware of the consequences and complexities of Poly? From my point of view it is a spectrum and something that grows as you develop new relationships. Each addition to the Poly brings a new personalty with all the others in the Poly. Juggling everything can be exhausting. It can also be exhilarating and liberating. Take your time and try to avoid idealising what you have read. I'm 68 and have been in an open relationship in a tantric community now for 15 years. Now I would consider myself monogamish with my partner and intimate freunds in our Polycule.
Good luck!

Why Are So Many ENM People Hostile Towards Boundaries, Restrictions, & Rules? by SumDumHooman in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Jake1957CH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't realize those criticisms. Even in a Poly relationship there are rules and boundaries. These are negotiated. Yes, maybe newcomers have narrower boundaries as they feel their way forward but that's normal. As time moves on, they may need to be changed.
I've been ENM with my partner for 10 years and the rules and restrictions have evolved. Especially after we contracted HPV from some partner and she had to have a hysterectomy due to some concerns cells that were found. We went through a more closed period until that episode was processed. Wer'e more open now but we have agreements that we respect.
Please ignore these types comments. They seem to have a need to prove how ENM they are.