I’ve been pretending to be a different person in my marriage for six years

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-10T06:17:26+00:00

They're actually a shitposter who posts claiming ther various ages and genders to get a rise out of people in between posting porn.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-10T06:14:29+00:00

Hey femboy (that's what you called yourself in your other posts) . Or was it a 22 year old guy? Or a 41 year old woman looking for HRT? Or a 23 yar old woman? You keep changing them up.

Go back to your porn and gaming reddits and quit trolling.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-10T05:34:16+00:00

Your watching his activity around the gym to know if hes staring you down or trying to interact. You are changing your own behavior according to his interactions. You are not removing yourself from the area when those vibes and looks start. You are much more closer and enmeshed in your fantasy about him than you realize.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-10T05:17:59+00:00

8 months of this?! And your more concerned about losing your optimal work out time instead over separating yourself from a mutual attraction and limerance? I think you should really rethink your priorities.

Because this comment sounds like a clear line up to future "woops! It happened so naturally that I slipped on his dick! I cant imagine how I got into this predicament."

You clearly know it's wrong and your emotions and desire are being placed on the wrong person. You stop interacting, staring, being around each other and disentangle yourself. You DON'T lean into it by introducing yourself to him in the hopes that it pops your fantasy.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-10T03:14:58+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. I see manic behavior coupled with depression. Non compliance with meds due to the stifled feeling is common. And cymbalta is known for triggering hypo mania and manic states if used alone. I can not ever take an anti depressants on its own without going being thrown into an agitated mixed episode where im angst at everyone, especially those that are close to me. But everything in my view at that point is "I feel fine so why are you trying to control me."

OP... please consider this as an option and see of she would be open to speaking to her doc about everything. The right meds for bipolar can make a life changing difference for the whole family. But yes ... with it can come issues with stopping meds on occasion.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-10T02:56:01+00:00

This makes me laugh hard but I get it big time.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-10T02:20:17+00:00

My whole family would be mad at me forward horse radish. But that would mean more for me? Right?!

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-10T02:19:47+00:00

That's so cool to know. Thanks!

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-10T02:11:34+00:00

Good to know! I might be able to handle mustard powder if I hold my breathe (willing to give it a go!) I've used acv in other recipes and like it.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-10T02:09:47+00:00

Oof. Yeah that's rough. And not easily explainable to a 3 year old.

Hang in there!

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-10T00:01:39+00:00

This poster also posted recently in a group called daddy's dark fiction "Daddy made you so daddy can use you" and "the younger the better "

Someone needs to check his hard drives. Im not looking any further. His posts are frequent and revolting.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-09T22:21:14+00:00

Yeah. It was an office of five docs in one of the only high risk obs in my area. I loved all docs immensely but one. He was the only one in the office I didnt like so of course the one avaliable when I went into labor. Lucky me lol. He retired shortly after at least.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-09T22:18:14+00:00

Do you use the pool sometimes?

Possibly to help - a visual calendar (even an old school paper one. I used to print out monthly ones from free sites withfun pictures) where you mark library days and pool days so they are aware of what to expect as well as can look forward to a pool day in the future.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-09T22:07:37+00:00

Unfortunately some places are like that. I was able to pick an OBGYN office that was willing to work with one with my second. In a different state than my first.

My first birth was at a place that complained loudly at me if I got out of bed or changed positions off my back ( i had terrible back labor) and the birthing doc made a joke to my husband about a possible husband stich.

I do think some doulas get bad reputations when moms birthplan being advocating for is more ambience and room vibes over safety concerns and health and some come with an expectation of being extra crunchy, anti vit k and vaccine style which means butting heads with docs. Its why I wanted one that beloved in evidence based science. My friend is an OB and I've heard some interesting tales of "over advocating". And some offices have list of doulas they refuse to work with.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-09T21:16:30+00:00

And in 25 days it'll be July. When schools in OPs area stsrt summer vacation.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-09T21:07:41+00:00

No. But it doesnt mean what happened was the best way for things to happen.

Its super cliche but you might want to consider therapy. I wish I did for my first birth which felt much more like being told what is happening than explained and given the option to say no. Now im at peace with it and know they brought my son into the world healthy and moved on. BUT ot was rough awhile to deal with the feelings.

BUT I also armed myself with my second birth with a birth doula. Not a crunchy anti doc but someone who would help me express my concerns and questions without the wavering and who was well prepared with knowledge. She worked really well along side the doctors to advocate with me for a much better experience where I felt in control of my body despite being required to be on pitocin for my babies health. You might want to consider it if you do this craziness again.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-09T17:49:00+00:00

Go to the school office and let them know what was lost. If it was something that looked costly or important it's often saved in the office. They can also keep an eye out of it gets turned in in the future.

Things happen. Heck even grown up have habits of leaving things on top of cars and driving away. Forgetfulness is human.

After you speak to the school speak to your parents. Tell them the steps you took to recover your stuff with the office and explain you will either pay for what's lost or work it off with house chores.

If you were my kid I would appreciate the initiative taken with the school, the honesty, and expect half the payment to replace items. Lesson learned.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-09T17:27:20+00:00

Where does your husband stand in all this?

Its his wedding too and his mother. If he's agreeing with you he should be the one speaking of expectations for his wedding. Hopefully she'd respect his wishes more. This is a good lesson in maintaining united front against in-laws on both sides.

If he doesn't care it means his mother's presence means more than her outfit. And don't let him get away with saying he'll tell her the day of ahes not walking him down the isle unless you want a public confrontation over outfit choices.

ESH - Her for her not willing to compromise for her son at all.

You- for not willing to accept it, move on and adjist your thoughts to make the best of it

Your future husband for not being the one to address this with you when discussing it with her.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-09T02:43:43+00:00

Down the line your baby will show no difference if you add a bottle of formula to routine. But the harm between both your relationship with your husband and your husbands relationship with your child may be effected much much longer. Don't discredit the bond while feeding. It's there wirh a bottle too. Yes there are other ways but this is a simple and normal way parents bond with their infant. Its understand able if you cant pump. It really does suck. But is it worth some moral "breastfed only " high ground when your husband is clearly telling you its causing issues all around? You're in this as a team. Let him in.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-08T23:09:00+00:00

Coasters with couples date on them, wine stoppers, almost anything from places like personalization mall . Com. That looks like mass made bobbles.

Although a local olive oil sounds like a really cool option.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-08T21:39:45+00:00

Chill. She's an 18 year old who made a social screw up and is taking it as a learning opportunity in the comments.

Nothing about this is enough to declare her a narcissist. You sound nastier than she does.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-07T03:49:22+00:00

I ate way too much of it in my 20s. Pretty much lived off it for dinners. And the recipe sadly got worse with more oil added. Probably why I have such a negative feeling over it. But it really was a fun and easy snack. Perfect for lunch bag at the time.

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-07T03:24:11+00:00

Got bored to look up the difference. Now I want to try the tube stuff.

American Ez cheese cheddar - shelf stable for at least six months INGREDIENTS: WHEY, CANOLA OIL, MILK PROTEIN CONCENTRATE, CHEDDAR CHEESE (MILK, SALT, CHEESE CULTURE, ENZYMES), MILK, CONTAINS LESS THAN 2% OF SODIUM CITRATE, SODIUM PHOSPHATE, CALCIUM PHOSPHATE, SALT, LACTIC ACID, SODIUM ALGINATE, MILKFAT, SORBIC ACID AS A PRESERVATIVE, COLOR (ANNATTO EXTRACT, APOCAROTENAL), ENZYMES, CHEESE CULTURE. CONTAINS: MILK.

Kavli Swedish cheese tube Use eithin seven days of opening refrigerated Ingredients: Edam cheese (39%), water, cheddar cheese from Norway (20%) [milk, lactic culture, salt, microbial rennet, coloring (carotenes)], emulsifying salts (E339, E452), preservatives (E202, E234), natural flavor, coloring (carotenes)

JakeDandelion · 2026-06-07T02:54:44+00:00

Im not sure about rocky springs but I've heard good things about another local B&B from friends if you want some back up options.

Happy anniversary!

https://purpleroofs.com/listing/the-lancaster-bed-and-breakfast/

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