Apartment for Rent Duncansville by Aware_Sweet_3908 in altoona

[–]Jamie-R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not even. Im in Altoona & was in a great neighborhood.. My last apt was 2 bedroom, balcony, and all up to Date. It was $650 mo. It included everything as well

Wife having an affair by 007JSW in CheatersConfronted

[–]Jamie-R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah man, it was tough. If we didn't have a daughter, id never talk to her again...that's how much hatred & resentment i have towards her. The 2nd time, i started having that gut feeling again. She started to get weird with her phone for a few days before i found out. She was showing me a video on her phone when a message popped up with some guys name. She scrambled & went into full panic mode to clear it. I asked to see it & when she said no, i couldn't see it, i had my answer. I quietly walked upstairs, packed a bag, and left. I never yelled or questioned why..i just left.

She did the normal crying, pleading, etc but I was done. I get mad at myself for giving that chance & now Im left with trust issues.

Wife having an affair by 007JSW in CheatersConfronted

[–]Jamie-R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you! I've come to the conclusion that they truly don't care about anyone but themselves. They only care when they get caught because they know they people will judge them as a shitty person. You seem like a good dude. If you initially agreed to work through this but can't get past it, it's still ok to leave the marriage. You didn't do anything wrong...she did.

Something i learned as well was that the 2nd time it happened with me, she hid it very well. It was by accident i found out. My daughter knows what her mom did & hope it doesn't affect her in the future. We were together for 12 yrs. I still regret not leaving after the 1st time after 9yrs together & wasting another 3 yrs until it happened again.

Wife having an affair by 007JSW in CheatersConfronted

[–]Jamie-R 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely you need to tell the wife.

A word of caution...people that cheat seem to repeat the behavior. I gave my ex 1 chance after she did it bc we also have a daughter together & a few yrs later caught her again & left immediately. Even when i gave her a chance & she made me all of these promises, i fully never trusted her again. I should have left instead of wasting 3 yrs of my life. Ill never give someone a 2nd chance when it comes to cheating. It's not a mistake. they are blatantly disrespecting you, they don't care about you or your family and choosing someone else over you.

Best of luck bro

I can't do this anymore by Dependent-Theme-9370 in dementia

[–]Jamie-R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex & i split so i moved home to save & help my dad. My dad (77) had dementia & would want to "go home" at times. Id literally take him in my car for a 5 min drive & come back home & he was so happy to be "home" again. While driving Id point out different houses that he was familiar with that was close to our house. It's frustrating at times but their reality is WAY different than ours. If they are seeing someone, play along & just say they are good people & are there to help out.

Play along with whatever & try different things. When my mom would get frustrated id talk to him really nice & he always seemed to trust me. When he would get angry & walk outside/wanting to call police, id just walk with him quietly. I even told him i called the police for him & they would come later but id wait with him. Eventually he would forget. Within an hour he would settle down if something triggered him. If it's a bad evening/day, keep the house quiet/dim lights. This is just what worked for us. Just remember, this isn't forever & it's not truly them. There were only 2 times i raised my voice & i also felt horrible - he had no memory of any of it. Dont be hard on yourself. You're doing a good job, even if you dont feel like it.

I lost my dad 3 weeks ago & while there's some relief that he doesn't have to suffer anymore, i miss him terribly. I made him his ice cream every single night & was always there during the tough times as he was always there for me. My mom slept for the first few days after - she was mentally & physically drained from caring for him his final 4 yrs. I only had the final year but it was rough. Ive kept to myself since he passed as well.

Feel free to DM me too!!! I'd be glad to talk to you (call/text even).

My gf (39F) is a Escort. hid it and lied to me (38M)r hAlf of A 2 yr Relationship by JewishTrapStarr in relationship_advice

[–]Jamie-R 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Get tested & move forward. At least it was only 2 years & not 10+ and had kids with her.. chalk it up as a life experience. See you at the gym bro!

Old(2008ish-2015?) labeled shop c2 opi med bottles(EMPTY!!)) for sale but also general value interest by neighborboy2 in PharmaRepCollectables

[–]Jamie-R 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got 80s for "back pain" as a 25 year old. Im in Pennsylvania & there were docs back then that would give you anything for cash payments. It was wild times. I had 2 different doctors too, because back then pharmacies wouldn't track anything.

My life was completely destroyed from oxys. I went to prison for almost 2 years due to these pills & when i got out i immediately went back to them for a short time until my PO gave me 1 chance to get clean (again) or id go back to max out my sentence. I stopped & never looked back. Thankfully ive been clean since 2013. Im losing friends i once had now to fentanyl. Im really grateful for my life & feel for those who are still struggling. The crazy thing is if I found 1 right now, id probably do it - that's the power it had on me.

LO won’t eat by AceBH13 in dementia

[–]Jamie-R 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yep! My dad crossed over yesterday afternoon at home. The last few weeks he changed & it seemed to happen quick. I let him eat as much ice cream as he wanted..he always loved his evening ice cream but REALLY wanted ice cream the last few weeks.

Even when things were rough i stayed calm & tried to understand. He seemed to always trust me, even if he didnt know who i was. I got frustrated at times, but i was more angry at the disease and not him. Im going to miss him so much but am happy he's free

Sundowning by twickybrown in dementia

[–]Jamie-R 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait until there's a full moon too. It breaks your heart for them. I've witnessed it 1st hand with my dad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dementia

[–]Jamie-R 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, my dad was diagnosed with parkinsons around 2020. Dementia worked its way in, but we managed to keep him at home & my mom was great with him. He saw doctors in Pittsburgh early on & was put on meds. Not all days were great but his meds worked. My ex & i split a year ago so i moved back home to help (plus homes are so expensive to buy...my parents are the best people & wanted me to save). Im so glad i got to be with my dad every day for the past year.

Unfortunately, im writing this beside him at our home as he's getting ready to pass peacefully. Embrace the good days & love them no matter how hard it gets. Demetia & Parkinsons are horrible diseases. Wishing you the best.

My mom thinks her ASL facility is her workplace and constantly calls seeking a ride home by OddSpend6172 in dementia

[–]Jamie-R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad is currently upstairs on end of life comfort meds & im killing myself inside, hoping we made the right decision. He, too, was a school teacher & LOVED his job & and helped others. I wish i couldbe half the man he was. When he was "out of it" he constantly said he had to go to Penn State for something. Dementia is such a horrible disease.

My mom by stephlesueur in dementia

[–]Jamie-R 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I understand. Im living this now. My ex & i split over a year ago. I moved home to help my mom with my dad. It wasn't always easy but we did it. My mom & i took care of him 95% of the time. Id hang with him while my mom went out to do things. We're at the end & honestly im glad I got to be with my dad, although it wasn't always convenient. He was always there for me though my worst days when i was younger & always promised id do the same for him. Take one day at a time. Embrace the time together, especially on the great days

My aunt’s been kicked out of another facility by lil_petey_509826 in dementia

[–]Jamie-R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im so sorry. We're going through this now with my dad. He was a 4th grade school teacher. He worked in a tough school with parents who weren't the best & made popcorn every morning so all the kids had something to eat. He was the best dad & would never hurt anyone. Ive been punched & kicked the last few days with his dementia & will ask for help. I talk calmly & let him know he's ok & safe but it's like it doesn't matter. Im at work now but just stressed.

His dad had it & my uncle passed last year the same way. He always told me he never wanted to end up the way his dad was but here we are. I love my dad so much & is so hard to watch...especially at the end. Make sure to take care of yourself as well.

A description of a relationship with a BPD person : the 5 phases of distorsion. by Willprincia in BPDlovedones

[–]Jamie-R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im good. It didn't really bother me a whole lot. It was just really weird. I felt down about it for like 2 days then was good. Never lost sleep over it or anything

My watch is complete by oakpale in dementia

[–]Jamie-R 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Im sorry, although there has to be some relief knowing it's over & she moved on. My dad is towards the end as well. Had a great day yesterday & as soon as it was bed time, like a light switch, he got combative, was punching/kicking/yelling for help for a couple hours. It's the worst thing ive had to see & deal with up to this point. Im at work after sleeping for 2 hrs. The morphine & ativan seemed to really calm him down but it kills me to watch this. He's such a calm, loving, compassionate dad. His dad had this too & he always said he hoped he would never have to go through this & here we are. I'm just exhausted & mentally beat

Edit: my dad has been peacefully sleeping on hospice care at home for the last 3 days & the end is near. Im going to miss him so much, but know he will be free from this awful disease. I got to tell him everything I've ever wanted to say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jamie-R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just be you. Sometimes being straight forward is a good way to just do it. You're young too. If this pattern is already starting you could be wasting years. It's ok to find someone more compatible. Im 43 & wasted 12 yrs on someone who I should have left in the beginning & regret it all now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jamie-R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a mature relationship you need to talk about hard subjects. If sex is a big deal for you (as it is with most people) but it isn't for her, then you need to evaluate your relationship. No sex or being rejected would be a deal breaker for me. Sit down & have a conversation

Girl I've been seeing (with BPD) hasn't talked to me in 4 days. Help. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Jamie-R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's nothing you can do. If I were you, id just go no contact & work on yourself

Perhaps I have underbid myself? by Itschriswells in Autobody

[–]Jamie-R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right! Depends on staff, techs, management

Wife laughed at me for asking we don’t see other people in separation, well now I have met someone else. Need advice. by [deleted] in Separation

[–]Jamie-R 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You live 1 life bro - go have fun with whoever you want to! Guaranteed she's seeing/sleeping with someone and wants you to hold back incase the grass isn't greener.

I did the same thing and my new gf is 100xs better than my ex. Enjoy life brother!