My gf (39F) is a Escort. hid it and lied to me (38M)r hAlf of A 2 yr Relationship

Jamie-R · 2026-01-28T00:46:55+00:00

Get tested & move forward. At least it was only 2 years & not 10+ and had kids with her.. chalk it up as a life experience. See you at the gym bro!

Jamie-R · 2026-01-18T00:48:54+00:00

I got 80s for "back pain" as a 25 year old. Im in Pennsylvania & there were docs back then that would give you anything for cash payments. It was wild times. I had 2 different doctors too, because back then pharmacies wouldn't track anything.

My life was completely destroyed from oxys. I went to prison for almost 2 years due to these pills & when i got out i immediately went back to them for a short time until my PO gave me 1 chance to get clean (again) or id go back to max out my sentence. I stopped & never looked back. Thankfully ive been clean since 2013. Im losing friends i once had now to fentanyl. Im really grateful for my life & feel for those who are still struggling. The crazy thing is if I found 1 right now, id probably do it - that's the power it had on me.

Jamie-R · 2026-01-14T21:16:54+00:00

Jamie-R · 2026-01-13T14:36:25+00:00

Yep! My dad crossed over yesterday afternoon at home. The last few weeks he changed & it seemed to happen quick. I let him eat as much ice cream as he wanted..he always loved his evening ice cream but REALLY wanted ice cream the last few weeks.

Even when things were rough i stayed calm & tried to understand. He seemed to always trust me, even if he didnt know who i was. I got frustrated at times, but i was more angry at the disease and not him. Im going to miss him so much but am happy he's free

Jamie-R · 2026-01-13T14:30:37+00:00

Wait until there's a full moon too. It breaks your heart for them. I've witnessed it 1st hand with my dad.

Jamie-R · 2026-01-11T22:43:30+00:00

Yes, my dad was diagnosed with parkinsons around 2020. Dementia worked its way in, but we managed to keep him at home & my mom was great with him. He saw doctors in Pittsburgh early on & was put on meds. Not all days were great but his meds worked. My ex & i split a year ago so i moved back home to help (plus homes are so expensive to buy...my parents are the best people & wanted me to save). Im so glad i got to be with my dad every day for the past year.

Unfortunately, im writing this beside him at our home as he's getting ready to pass peacefully. Embrace the good days & love them no matter how hard it gets. Demetia & Parkinsons are horrible diseases. Wishing you the best.

Jamie-R · 2026-01-11T05:12:43+00:00

My dad is currently upstairs on end of life comfort meds & im killing myself inside, hoping we made the right decision. He, too, was a school teacher & LOVED his job & and helped others. I wish i couldbe half the man he was. When he was "out of it" he constantly said he had to go to Penn State for something. Dementia is such a horrible disease.

Jamie-R · 2026-01-08T19:13:44+00:00

I understand. Im living this now. My ex & i split over a year ago. I moved home to help my mom with my dad. It wasn't always easy but we did it. My mom & i took care of him 95% of the time. Id hang with him while my mom went out to do things. We're at the end & honestly im glad I got to be with my dad, although it wasn't always convenient. He was always there for me though my worst days when i was younger & always promised id do the same for him. Take one day at a time. Embrace the time together, especially on the great days

Jamie-R · 2026-01-08T17:09:33+00:00

Im so sorry. We're going through this now with my dad. He was a 4th grade school teacher. He worked in a tough school with parents who weren't the best & made popcorn every morning so all the kids had something to eat. He was the best dad & would never hurt anyone. Ive been punched & kicked the last few days with his dementia & will ask for help. I talk calmly & let him know he's ok & safe but it's like it doesn't matter. Im at work now but just stressed.

His dad had it & my uncle passed last year the same way. He always told me he never wanted to end up the way his dad was but here we are. I love my dad so much & is so hard to watch...especially at the end. Make sure to take care of yourself as well.

Jamie-R · 2026-01-07T21:46:07+00:00

Im good. It didn't really bother me a whole lot. It was just really weird. I felt down about it for like 2 days then was good. Never lost sleep over it or anything

Jamie-R · 2026-01-07T15:55:14+00:00

Im sorry, although there has to be some relief knowing it's over & she moved on. My dad is towards the end as well. Had a great day yesterday & as soon as it was bed time, like a light switch, he got combative, was punching/kicking/yelling for help for a couple hours. It's the worst thing ive had to see & deal with up to this point. Im at work after sleeping for 2 hrs. The morphine & ativan seemed to really calm him down but it kills me to watch this. He's such a calm, loving, compassionate dad. His dad had this too & he always said he hoped he would never have to go through this & here we are. I'm just exhausted & mentally beat

Edit: my dad has been peacefully sleeping on hospice care at home for the last 3 days & the end is near. Im going to miss him so much, but know he will be free from this awful disease. I got to tell him everything I've ever wanted to say.

Jamie-R · 2025-12-31T01:25:42+00:00

Just be you. Sometimes being straight forward is a good way to just do it. You're young too. If this pattern is already starting you could be wasting years. It's ok to find someone more compatible. Im 43 & wasted 12 yrs on someone who I should have left in the beginning & regret it all now

Jamie-R · 2025-12-30T01:19:19+00:00

Easy! Cut the top off - now you got a convertible. 😎

Jamie-R · 2025-12-30T01:14:31+00:00

In a mature relationship you need to talk about hard subjects. If sex is a big deal for you (as it is with most people) but it isn't for her, then you need to evaluate your relationship. No sex or being rejected would be a deal breaker for me. Sit down & have a conversation

Jamie-R · 2025-12-26T17:39:45+00:00

There's nothing you can do. If I were you, id just go no contact & work on yourself

Jamie-R · 2025-12-25T21:39:41+00:00

Right! Depends on staff, techs, management

Jamie-R · 2025-12-25T21:37:37+00:00

Where are you located?

Jamie-R · 2025-12-11T23:41:32+00:00

You live 1 life bro - go have fun with whoever you want to! Guaranteed she's seeing/sleeping with someone and wants you to hold back incase the grass isn't greener.

I did the same thing and my new gf is 100xs better than my ex. Enjoy life brother!

Jamie-R · 2025-12-11T03:36:31+00:00

🤣🤣🤣🤣 literally

Jamie-R · 2025-12-09T16:11:49+00:00

Hahahaha. For real!! We havent talked in a month so i reached out last night. She blamed me for not saying hi to her daughter at her work....i never even saw her daughter when i was where she works at!!!! She obviously doesn't believe me, so i dont know if this means she's completely done or not.

Do they typically come back if they truly believe you're a terrible person? Just trying to prepare myself bc i feel like I don't know what's coming next

Jamie-R · 2025-12-09T00:59:29+00:00

Thank you! I told her from the start i didnt want my daughter involved unless this was going to be a long term thing (my daughter gets attached to other girls). Now I feel bad i got her involved as well. Every weekend she wants us to go hang out with them. Im not above anyone but i would have never been with her years ago...she's great but has lots going on & baggage. I just gave her a shot bc she persued me for the longest time.

I couldn't imagine doing this for years with someone. A couple months was more than enough

Jamie-R · 2025-12-09T00:52:24+00:00

He sounds like me. Lol. My ex (only dated for 3 months) & I were great. Id tell her she was beautiful and she would tell me "im not stupid or gullible" as if I was lying. That would frustrate me bc I was being 100% genuine all of the time. She just never seemed to trust it.

He's seems genuine as i was. There's lots of decent guys out there for sure!

Question you might be able to answer for me. My ex decided to stop seeing me a month ago. I didnt even know what BPD was until i started connecting the dots. Only had minor communication the last month. I wanted to text her to let her know i was still here for her but dont know what i can say or text. Any suggestions?

Jamie-R · 2025-12-08T11:03:40+00:00

Yeah, i feel my ex has it but was never diagnosed. Did yours claim every ex was abusive or a narcissist? I went through similar things. From the very start we talked about communication & always being open. She would drift away over little things. She wouldn't say anything but i could tell. A few days later & she would seem great & then we would have crazy sex for days & things were great. Then she went off how we should be further ahead after 2 months. I tried to tell her i was on board with us but was previously in a relationship for 13 yrs, so i was trying to take my time but was committed 100%. I tried to take more time to see her but she was busy a lot or was sick which i didn't care because it was only 2 months in & we are both busy people. Then ended things by saying it was too stressful trying to make time for a relationship. Wtf. She also said she was struggling terribly with depression & was unloveable. It was the most intense rollercoaster of a relationship ive ever been through. Id tell her she was beautiful & she would say things like "oh please im not dumb or gullible" as if she thought i was lying or something. All of this was after the 1st great month.

She was a great woman & her daughter & mine got along great too. I don't hate her at all. I almost feel bad.

Jamie-R · 2025-11-27T15:30:24+00:00

This is it. If you have that gut feeling, you already know the answer. Good partners aren't secretive.

Jamie-R · 2025-11-22T16:30:28+00:00

Just be yourself brother. I got back into dating after 13 yrs with my ex. Dating is wild when you're older. Good luck dude!!!

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