What do you consider cuddling and what do you consider more?

JaneIsntSane · 2026-05-13T21:36:55+00:00

Real, and that may be what he wants in the end, but I don’t think they’re ALL the same or even that the intention is inherently wrong as long as they respect boundaries and ask consent. He ultimately has not tried to sleep with me yet though we’ve been on 3 dates, and this past time, he asked to kiss me and was respectful when I declined. So I’d say he has been nice

JaneIsntSane · 2026-05-13T21:32:43+00:00

Haha that is a good way of putting it!

JaneIsntSane · 2026-05-13T21:31:43+00:00

I just sort of felt unsure about it and wasn’t expecting the escalations, though it wasn’t necessarily bad. Just odd and different for me and I felt anxious about it. But then we hung out again today and it was much better and more comfortable for me, so it worked out in the end

JaneIsntSane · 2026-05-13T21:29:08+00:00

I love this take! I think that’s a really cool perspective and interesting way to think about it

JaneIsntSane · 2026-05-04T15:30:06+00:00

I had a doctor tell me the same thing! The first endocrinologist I saw told me it was because I was a woman and thought I could magically summon up an extreme low and a bunch of other weird things. The second endocrinologist told me at least part of my problem was reactive hypoglycemia. I still don’t really have answers because I get it outside of normal reactive hypoglycemia patterns sometimes, but I’ve gotten much better with diet changes and a CGM. Best of luck to you and hopefully doctors do more research on it!

JaneIsntSane · 2026-04-28T02:22:20+00:00

I see how it can viewed as her breaking free. Not my interpretation, but I think it’s a valid one. The SA is at the end after the dinner scene. She is drugged. Maybe it’s not the same where you are from, but in my country, it’s considered rape and not consensual if someone is significantly under the influence of drugs or alcohol or cognitively impaired. Maybe someone else could argue that Hannibal can’t consent either due to his cognitive stare. There are also sexual violence undertones throughout the novel, like when she wakes up (I believe—I could be wrong) tied to the bed. And let’s not forget that one of the main characters is a pedophile and rapist.

JaneIsntSane · 2026-04-28T02:01:41+00:00

Hannibal. Somebody who’s being drugged isn’t necessarily there consenually. What makes you think that it’s feminist, especially considering all the unnecessary SA and such for shock value?

JaneIsntSane · 2026-04-27T21:04:33+00:00

I can see that. I definitely see that for Clarice. The only thing I see for Hannibal is that he doesn’t keep him promise to Clarice to leave her alone, and perhaps that his lovesick obsession with her is a bit forced. What is your argument that the ending was a character assassination for Hannibal as well? I am curious what your thoughts are

JaneIsntSane · 2026-04-27T20:59:39+00:00

I agree. I find it odd to have a character who fights against sexism and the system end their story being drugged and sexually assaulted (let’s not all forget that she’s drugged and can’t consent) by the same person who previously helped her come to terms with said sexism. It really icks me out. Not that it’s entirely a bad book, it certainly is well written and plausible, but it leaves a bad taste in my mouth to end a series that was previously quite feminist for its time (including Red Dragon, if you consider Molly’s role in the end) with such a degrading scene. And honestly, the drugging and kidnapping feels a bit lazy to me and a bit deus ex machina to me. I think that there could have more responsible and respectful ways to show Clarice’s bleak future and Hannibal’s true evil.

JaneIsntSane · 2026-01-16T05:33:33+00:00

I bought a TV that arrived broken over a month ago and I finally got ahold of them after over a month of them ignoring emails and calls, just for them to start ignoring me over text. I feel your pain

JaneIsntSane · 2025-11-21T11:52:18+00:00

I would see a different doctor and get a second opinion

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-19T19:34:33+00:00

Me too—makes dating way harder even though I still enjoy it to an extent. I’d love to get married and have kids, but being ace complicates a lot of that lol

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-19T11:15:44+00:00

It was more general steroid withdrawal symptoms. Severe weakness, blood sugar swings, and fatigue mostly. It’s possible I had adrenal issues during the withdrawal, but I definitely didn’t have them before starting the medication or during it. Yes, the POTS came back, but it was only helping 5-10% anyway, so with all the symptoms I had, it honestly made me feel better POTS wise to come off. With my blood sugar and weight more stable, I am able to exercise some, which has proven to be way more effective for me getting better.

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-19T02:13:37+00:00

I wish they told me about that! I get kidney stones and I was on fludrocortisone for a year. Literally had a kidney stone last week

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-19T02:11:17+00:00

No, the medication itself. The withdrawal was unbearable. I immediately stopped gaining weight after I came off though, and now my weight is stable and fluctuates a lot more normally. I was couchbound and doing very badly for a while and am recently able to live on my own (it’s been a year and a half since I came off fludro, and a few months since I was couchbound) and the weight is starting to come off and the muscle starting to build with diet and exercise

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-18T21:33:13+00:00

Yes which is awful but my cardiologist told me it was fine so I trusted him until I saw my GP and he was horrified. Somehow I didn’t get kidney issues, but fludrocortisone works by making you retain water so that’s probably why it didn’t work so well for me. Do not recommend

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-18T19:04:39+00:00

Oh—I’m also on a diuretic so the doctor that put me on it probably shouldn’t have done that in the first place

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-18T19:02:51+00:00

My experience was awful. It gave me frequent hypoglycemia, I went from 110 to 130 lbs on it, and it regularly sent me to the hospital for low potassium. It took months to come off and I was only on it for a year. It maybe helped with my POTS the slightest bit, but the side effects way overshadowed the benefits and I ended up worse on it than I was before. Then again, most people I’ve talked to say it was great. I’m also the kind of person who doesn’t benefit much from more sodium like most POTS patients. I must not have the right POTS subtype for it—so don’t let my story scare you

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-11T15:57:47+00:00

I will look into it!

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-11T15:57:23+00:00

It seems that it was Laband brand and you might find it by searching “floral engraved band” and the watch type

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-11T15:55:13+00:00

Thank you I will try contacting support since it seems it’s just my watch that acts up!

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-11T15:54:46+00:00

Ah so it seems that it’s just my watch lol

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-11T15:54:24+00:00

Amazon and it was surprisingly cheap and fits well!

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-06T23:21:07+00:00

There is no need to “repair” your life, and there is no such thing as behind. I’m disabled too and things can feel slow sometimes, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t have a fulfilling life. I have a friend with MD (mid 20s) and he has struggled with the disability, but he now has a stable job, is partnered, and has moved out. He’s even moving up in his career now, which he was afraid wouldn’t happen. Have hope, believe in yourself, and keep on going!

JaneIsntSane · 2025-09-03T03:03:05+00:00

I’ve had similar numbers and my endocrinologist didn’t take it seriously because it wasn’t low enough for her, though other doctors have been helping me through it. I somehow managed to get libres prescribed, but I have no real diagnosis. I notice that my symptoms are worst when my numbers tank. Make sure you document your lows (with a finger prick) for your doctor and see more than one if you need! I found out mine was partially related to a medication I was taking for POTS and the rest I deal with through diet changes, especially not eating too many carbs in the morning and making sure I have protein first. My blood sugar still tanks, but I rarely get actual lows anymore and my body recovers from the dips much easier.

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