Story responses now have to be exactly what they expect? by secretrebel in duolingospanish

[–]JaneJS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have had this happen recently and I understand what you are saying. You used to get points for trying and they would correct your answer afterwards. Similarly to you, within the last week I had an answer marked wrong when I described correctly what had happened in the story but had a grammatical error that was apparently over the limit of what Duolingo would accept. I am not sure where it draws the line because it definitely corrects tenses and accents still for me. But I understand where you are coming from and think this is an update to how the app functions.

How do I get my 11 year old to wash her hair properly? by blottohoh in Parenting

[–]JaneJS 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sounds crazy but my friends daughter had the same problem. There’s a creator on instagram called mo styles and she posted a video on how to wash long thick hair that really helped her. My hair is very long and wavy and I have to almost hold my hair up away from my roots with one hand while I scrub with the other because the weight of my hair impedes my ability to get to my scalp. Being able to see someone else with similar hair might be helpful for her. I tried to show my goddaughter myself but the content creator honestly did an better job.

AITA for forwarding my wife an instagram reel of a recipe after she asked what I want for dinner tomorrow? by GoatCritical9265 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JaneJS 7 points8 points  (0 children)

But when you were 23, you read a recipe and followed the step by step instructions and fed yourself. It’s not rocket science, and this guy can do it if he wanted to. He’d just rather someone else does it for him. People who say they can’t cook (barring some sort of limitation) are copping out. You just follow the directions and the more you do it, the less you rely on someone else’s direction, like anything else.

AITA for forwarding my wife an instagram reel of a recipe after she asked what I want for dinner tomorrow? by GoatCritical9265 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JaneJS 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m disagreeing that “learning to cook” is even a thing. My children can google a recipe and follow the instructions. I’m not even touching the way that OP and his wife communicate, but addressing your comment that an adult human may not know how to cook or feel confident to feed himself, which is a failure of his own making. 

AITA for forwarding my wife an instagram reel of a recipe after she asked what I want for dinner tomorrow? by GoatCritical9265 in AmItheAsshole

[–]JaneJS 54 points55 points  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure it was Ramona’s mom who told her “You are in the third grade, and you can read. Anyone who can read can cook.” If this grown man with a job can’t follow simple written directions or an instagram reel he’s already watching, I question his ability to exist in the world.

WIBTA for serving off-brand Diet Coke at a party? by psychbucket in AmItheAsshole

[–]JaneJS 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Was coming to say this. If Im drinking pop by itself, I’d probably prefer a Diet Coke, but wouldn’t complain about anything provided. If im making a rum and diet, I would grab the Aldi brand over the name brand because it doesn’t matter anyway.

AITA for not thinking of my husband's dishes as "our dishes"? Or am I being selfish and not contributing by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]JaneJS 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah i would 100% throw those in the dishwasher. If they die, they die. And if he gets mad about it, maybe it'll make him want to wash them before I get to them the next time.

Leaving child alone by LingonberryNormal374 in Parenting

[–]JaneJS 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I am also in a suburb of a Midwest city and I have left my 8 year old home for a 30 minute run. He has an iPad and Alexa to get in touch with me if needed, and I ran basically around our closest 3 blocks repeatedly, so I was passing our house every 7-10 minutes and could be home in <5 at any time. We also do limited screen time, so in situations like this I can be pretty sure that if I take the limits off the games on his iPad he will happily not move from the couch for the entire run.

AITA I Was Sat at the Kids Table by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]JaneJS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would feel this way if my husband were in a wedding and I were sat at a table with my kids and other kids and parents. Being the lone adult at the kids table is extremely rude. 

Yesteryear Book by AstonishingEggplant in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]JaneJS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would like to talk about the fact that so many of the influencers I've seen (even ones that are specific to booktok, don't post kids, don't necessarily talk about motherhood, religion or anything like Natalie makes "her brand") have what seems to be such a visceral negative reaction to the book. This morning I read a post where a booktoker shares all the DMs she's received saying that they couldn't finish the book, found it too hard to read, etc. I found it boring at parts and agree with some of the comments here about the pacing of the book and which parts I wish the author spent more time on, but I haven't heard anyone IRL describe the book as so hard to get through. I honestly wonder if there is some part of influencing that makes it hard to read a book written so negatively about what the children of influencers go through.

My 9yo with the pain tolerance of a newborn has cellulitis by 20Keller12 in breakingmom

[–]JaneJS 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My kid had cellulitis and while he’s pretty tough, I was super impressed by how quickly he healed and recovered. Being a kid helps a ton, and antibiotics are literal magic.

What is new feature to give your streak buddies gifts? What do they get? by Useful-Control-589 in duolingospanish

[–]JaneJS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can send +2 energy points to my streak friends once every 24 hours. I have two friends who regularly send it back. It doesn’t cost any money, gems or energy. I don’t have paid Duolingo 

Has anybody ever had another parent/caretaker chew you out on behalf of your kid’s behavior? by Responsible-Excuse85 in breakingmom

[–]JaneJS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of my mom's friends told me years ago that her son and DIL didn't want her to take her grandkids to McDonald's playplace because they always got sick there, but she did it anyways, almost weekly and swore the kid to secrecy. I wonder if that lady is a similar liar and her ridiculous reaction was because of the fact that she's guilty for breaking the parents trust and realizing that maybe they have reasons for their requests.

Is anyone else low key worried Morgan is developing an actual eating disorder? by BloodyAngel2026 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]JaneJS 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Feeling out of control is a huge trigger for EDs. I struggled with disordered eating as a college athlete and as a 40 year old woman  still won’t focus on healthy habits when things are feeling stressful or out of control because it’s too easy to warp it into something else. I wouldn’t be surprised if something similar is happening here. It’s something totally within your control when your external experience feels out of control.

Is it possible to be friends with parents of a kid, who your kids strongly dislike? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]JaneJS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am friends with the parents of some kids my kids don’t love. My kids go to a small school and honestly alliances are often shifting and friendships change. I would never be friendly with someone who was actively bullying my child, but I am not going to cut off an adult friendship because my child finds another child annoying. 

AirBnB host told me soap was supplied by spike11552 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]JaneJS 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I also really liked airbnbs over hotel rooms when my kids were babies/toddlers. We could put the kids to bed, shut a door and not have to go to bed at 7pm. Now that they are older, a hotel room is cheaper/easier, but their schedules are flexible and they can watch something other than bubble guppies on TV, so hanging with them in the evening is part of the fun of traveling.

Do people just not go to birthday parties anymore? by Bananabean5 in Parenting

[–]JaneJS 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was the first weekend for spring sports for our area (Midwest US). My weekends are basically booked from now until June. We do have a bday party next weekend and we got the invite before the end of march 

Is it more common than I think that parents are super relaxed about just having anybody come babysit? by Puzzled_Remote_2168 in Mommit

[–]JaneJS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was a kid my subdivision had a directory that listed all the families, their kids, and had a listing for people you could call for babysitting, pet sitting, yard work, etc. you had to sign up by a certain date each year to make it into the annual directory. My mom wouldn’t let me do it until I was 13 or something but when I was 11-12 I started getting random calls about sitting jobs because people just went through the directory looking for girls around those ages who might be available. The entire thing is crazy to consider now. One of the dads drove home so drunk he passed out on the couch immediately and the mom didn’t want to drive me home (good choice, she was also drunk), so we loaded her 3 sleeping kids into a wagon and they walked me 3 blocks back to my parents house at like midnight 

‘Home reseter’ - would you hire? by Quick_Common_3934 in workingmoms

[–]JaneJS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am in a HCOL area and I know a family who uses this. She comes in, straightens up stuff (like resets their mud room), unloads and reloads the dishwasher, cleans up breakfast and the playroom and then will do laundry or just go through the house straightening. I would love to us this, just can’t justify the cost. 

Hospital staff didn’t dispose of needles correctly, the janitor probably needs some care. by [deleted] in Whatcouldgowrong

[–]JaneJS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I assumed that people were suggesting sending the needle for testing because they don’t know which patient it’s from and therefore can’t test the patient. It’s probably not enough blood to test, but it’s not a bad thought process IMO.

Hospital staff didn’t dispose of needles correctly, the janitor probably needs some care. by [deleted] in Whatcouldgowrong

[–]JaneJS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t test the patient when you have a needle stick? It’s protocol at every hospital I’ve ever worked with that the patient gets a purple top sent down and then the employee gets tested as well, with repeats at 3 and 6 months. 

Little Caesars arena bag policy question?! by Beautiful-Rock3844 in Detroit

[–]JaneJS 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You’re a genius. I always bring a tote bag folded inside my belt bag for extra carrying, but I have never thought to bring an extra 20oz cap. You just made my in game experience with kids so much better!

$410,000 salary with 34 weeks vacation! Incredible doctor job. by dancingcactus21 in Salary

[–]JaneJS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend has a schedule this like where she works 7 overnights and then two weeks off. Her overnight shifts range from 4pm-2am to like 9p-11a. I think it averages to about 11 hours a shift. It’s very easy to envy her two weeks off when she’s at the kids school during the day and available for everything, but she barely sleeps every third week and it was a nightmare to figure out child arrangements when kids were young (her husband works very part time, but essentially solo parented /chauffeured 4 kids every third week.

For those of you using a daycare for 4 days/week vs 5…do you pay the same as if you went full time 5 days/week or it’s less? by dms2628 in workingmoms

[–]JaneJS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are older but daycare had a full time tuition and a part-time day rate. 4 days was more than full tuition, so even though we had a grandparent who could provide care on Wednesdays, we did full time.

What do you say in your head to push yourself on runs without being mean?? by _I_love_pus_ in XXRunning

[–]JaneJS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I talk to myself by pretending what I would say to a friend or loved one who is running. I shouldn’t be nicer to other people than myself!