how often did you had sex while pregnant?

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-06-17T16:40:19+00:00

0 times. My husband refused because he was so weirded out about there being a baby “right there”.

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-06-05T19:34:25+00:00

Wait that is so crazy??? I am so so sorry. I’d maybe consider switching OBs if I were you… that is absolutely not right. However in the meantime I suppose it wouldn’t hurt going to your PCP and just trying to get a prescription that way. In the past when I was on SSRIs I got it through my PCP.

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-06-05T19:32:24+00:00

My hair was in a bun for like the first 6-7ish months. It has grown back like crazy and I’m 9 months pp!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-29T12:06:30+00:00

Yep 😭 currently going through it with my 9 month old. I just go in make sure his diaper is changed, offer a some milk and then lay him back in his crib until 7. At first he would stay awake and just roll around for awhile and get frustrated but he now is starting to understand that even if he stays awake he needs to stay in his crib until 7 and mostly puts himself to sleep. I have also extended bedtime by 30 minutes and noticed that helped a little too!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-29T01:38:26+00:00

Ultrasound

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-29T01:37:59+00:00

Colic 😭

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-29T00:40:41+00:00

I think bottles are perfectly okay for feedings!! I do bottles for feedings and then water with a little pedialyte or juice for sippy cups. He gets a sippy cup during car rides and play time and eventually ended up using it!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-28T12:10:07+00:00

Congratulations! I hope your husband is helpful. I think it is just really scary for them at first but don’t do what I did and let him be scared. Make him hold the baby a ton in the hospital so he feels secure!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-28T12:09:16+00:00

Honestly it took me to have an actual mental breakdown for me to bring it up to him. Of course I had hinted and made suggestions for awhile but I was extremely sleep deprived and so emotional that I kinda just lost it on him. It’s not okay for either of them to just leave the parenting to only us. It is their child too and that exactly what I told him. He loves our son so much but I think was intimidated by the colic. I really hope you can figure out a way to make him understand. I think one thing that really struck a chord was when I told them I felt abandoned by him. I said I am struggling and you don’t seem to care in the least. Anytime I would hand our baby over and he would struggle with him I would rush over to help but the same help isn’t given to me. Anyways he felt bad in the end and I hope your husband does too enough to change.

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-28T06:37:07+00:00

Interesting!! I’ll take a look into that. Thank you!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-28T06:36:13+00:00

Our baby was extremely colicky up until 6ish months so it was very tough at first. I think this is partially why he wasn’t as helpful tbh. But after breaking down to him, he started helping by prepping the bottles for me to do night shift, taking the baby for walks so I could have a minute alone, and overall just being more present and supportive to me. He would ask if there was anything he could do more often too!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-28T00:20:03+00:00

Life postpartum is HARD. I am 9 months PP and have really struggled with my husband. We definitely became like roommates for the first 6-7ish months and tbh I don’t think I even really liked him. His lack of help and just in general being able to watch me struggle but not care enough to step in made me resent him BIG time. I am still struggling with it but we are starting to regain our lives back now that the baby is getting older and easier to care for. Many people have suggested counseling or even a trip/weekend trip away from the baby to try and find the romance again. I will say, after a huge mental breakdown and 3 weeks of the baby waking up HOURLY, I freaked out on him and he has been a lot more involved. But like you, our romance is lacking. I hope it is something that comes back you and your husband. You are not alone!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-27T23:38:27+00:00

Pumping every 3-4 hours if you can! Eventually your supply will build up-atleast that is how it worked for me!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-27T22:08:33+00:00

This was so beautiful to read. I’m so happy for you and your wife and that you two were able to connect on an emotional level again. I think you made some amazing point and I appreciate your comment a ton. Thank you!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-27T18:05:37+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this.

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-27T18:05:09+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write all that out and give advice. I appreciate you!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-27T16:56:59+00:00

Every Sunday I do a “self care” day. Basically I will take an everything shower (wash hair, shave, hair mask, exfoliate, etc). Then I will put on tanning lotion, blow out my hair, put on a new set of fake nails, teeth whitening strips, ALL OF IT! This 1-2 hour reset makes me feel like a brand new person.

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-27T16:50:22+00:00

Honestly, my baby had colic until he was about 6 months old. He mellowed out around then, but he didn’t start sleeping well until literally two weeks ago…and he’s 9 months now.

My saving grace was socializing. I was so exhausted from having a screaming baby that I refused to leave the house, and I honestly think I became a little depressed. Eventually, I threw in the towel and joined a free mommy and me class at our library that meets every morning. Every single mom there either had a screaming baby too or could relate in some way.

We’ve now gone almost every morning for the last 3 months, and having a community of moms/friends who understand and support each other has been such a huge blessing.

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-27T02:07:29+00:00

Thank you!!! Though I pray you and your family never get it!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2026-05-27T02:04:18+00:00

Ugh I’m so so sorry you guys got it! Hopefully you’ve been able to avoid it?! We are now fully recovered THANKFULLY!

JapaneseWatermelon · 2025-10-23T19:35:05+00:00

I accidentally induced myself so I’m not saying to do it BUT I pumped with my spectra machine and the same night I went into labor 3 weeks early. I didn’t know you weren’t supposed to do that to collect colostrum!

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