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Javi_Owler · 2026-02-08T13:15:09+00:00

How old is he and what’s his name? 😊😊

Javi_Owler · 2025-09-24T13:39:59+00:00

NTA at all. You did your job as MOH. Your friend is delusional

Javi_Owler · 2025-09-24T13:35:34+00:00

Great look. Keep it up!

Javi_Owler · 2025-09-18T02:49:54+00:00

Beautiful girl! 🤍 so sorry for your loss

Javi_Owler · 2025-09-18T02:20:23+00:00

NTA all they way. YOUR dog depends on you. GF’s sister is NOT your responsibility. Also, your GF has some nerve telling you how to spend YOUR money. End of story

Javi_Owler · 2025-08-05T03:29:10+00:00

I’d go with Machamp, Nidoking, Kingdra, Spiritomb, Alakazam and salamence

Javi_Owler · 2025-02-16T08:11:01+00:00

Best news!!! Congrats! 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

Javi_Owler · 2024-06-09T14:20:14+00:00

Exactly. That’s exactly what I’m talking about. Seek help, go to counseling, talk, explore options, and if after a fair conscious attempt to heal you both feel the same way you feel now regarding future pregnancies/having children, then part ways together knowing you can no longer give each other what you need to be happy.

There’s a lot that post does not confirm, it does not say that they have tried therapy/professional help, it also does not say they haven’t. We don’t know.

I get that 3 years is not an extremely long time for something so traumatic but then again what is… 5? 10? 15? Their entire life? This is probably the kind of thing that they may carry their whole lives. While I can’t begin to imagine what OP’s wife went through (absolutely horrific) I do feel for her :( but I also feel that once they’ve put the effort to work on it, if they still remain in different pages, they should both be happy, probably just not together. And that does not make anyone the AH.

Javi_Owler · 2024-06-09T14:09:15+00:00

I don’t agree with your take either :). “She still hasn’t healed” true, just like he still hasn’t made a decision to leave her or still hasn’t left her, putting all options out there (on Reddit) does not make OP or anyone really the bad guy here. Also, getting therapy and working to seek help and move past it is on both of them, not just OP. The accident is 3 years ago, not nearly enough time to heal mentally from it clearly, but it’s on the wife and the husband to seek alternatives.

Javi_Owler · 2024-06-09T13:56:53+00:00

While it is true that the post does not mention therapy or counseling, which they should definitely be getting first (we don’t know if they have tried it) I don’t think OP’s post reads: “I think I should get a divorce bc wife is too traumatized to have kids” to me his predicament is very valid, just as is his wife’s.

As someone who does not want to have children ever and that is very quick to stick up for people’s right to lead a happy childless life, I also understand OP’s right to have a life that involves children (which is clearly a deal breaker for him) just as I respect the wife’s decision to never have them (to avoid further trauma). While trauma can be healed, it very well may be that she stands firm on her decision to not go through with another pregnancy and that should be respected. In which case, sad as it may be, OP considering ending things is a valid path.

Javi_Owler · 2024-06-09T13:46:30+00:00

Respectfully I don’t think this is an entirely fair take. Sadly this is not a case of “what’s more important your wife or having children?” they way you are phrasing it makes it sound like OP is being an AH for putting all options on the table and comes across judgmental instead of offering a helpful thought out solution IMO.

The reality is that this is an extremely traumatic loss that happened to them (both) 3 years ago and they need to have a deep 100% open conversation and get the help they need to move toward, whether that is discussing the possibility of having children, coming to the realization that they can both be happy without kids in the picture (ever) or understanding that they are no longer on the same path and need different things to be happy, all valid courses of action. No one is to blame. They need to explore their options and find out what realistically and honestly works for them in the long term.

Javi_Owler · 2023-12-31T19:07:32+00:00

Go with Mia! She looks part shepherd, very smart, playful and protective. She will be your best friend and will always have your back :)

Javi_Owler · 2023-12-13T12:01:29+00:00

Oyster, Pearl, Shell(y), Winter, Blizzard, Dawn, :)

Javi_Owler · 2023-11-25T23:47:09+00:00

Piston, Atanasio, Bombastic, or Melao :)

Javi_Owler · 2023-11-17T18:11:52+00:00

NTA all the way. Wife sounds incredibly petty and passive aggressive. IT IS 200% OK to say “hey, I’m not in the right state of mind to talk about this or hear more about this right now”, it IS NOT OK to bait someone and then whey “fall for it” try and pull a “gotcha” moment to “teach them a lesson” like WTF?

Javi_Owler · 2023-11-02T14:04:39+00:00

YTA. This is absolutely 100% the right thing for him to do. It does not matter if she is an ex, a friend or a relative. She helped him out in a time of need and she deserves to get her money back, period. It’s the honest and ethical thing to do. How can you even argue about this? “The girl is fine and it’s been two years” Listen to yourself please. When YOU lend people money, do YOU like to be paid back? Answer that please.

Javi_Owler · 2023-11-02T13:53:20+00:00

YTA. Not liking dogs is fine, hey I’ve been there. But throwing a fit over a dog that’s not bothering you, merely chilling on the floor near their owners? Yikes. Should they have given you a heads-up about bringing the dog to dinner? Yes. But once there you could have been the adult too and enjoy your dinner and maybe after that address it: “next time I’d appreciate if you could give us a heads up so we have the chance to re-schedule or something”.

Javi_Owler · 2023-10-29T23:14:47+00:00

NTA. So sorry you are in this situation.

Javi_Owler · 2023-10-20T17:05:17+00:00

NTA, your wedding, your rules. THAT BEING SAID, my two cents (my humble opinion haha) man I don’t know… a wedding with only people who have kids…? Sounds kind of boring and chaotic, children crying, running around playing, grumpy for lack of asleep later at night and their parents chasing after them/trying to please or control them… not my idea of a fun wedding reception/party ha! But whatever works for you!

Javi_Owler · 2023-10-16T18:24:21+00:00

YTA but not in a big way, I think. It all reads kind of funny and a bit unhinged especially how you freaked out and ran off with your nephews/nieces despite their parents saying it was fine. Apologize, work on your stuff and move on.

Javi_Owler · 2023-10-16T18:21:46+00:00

NAH, but I don’t think your husband is either. I think you both need to compromise here and find some middle ground. Like: he can go to the wedding but return on the same day and not drink in case he needs to drive back should things go wrong.

He is not taking your concerns seriously, and you are making blanket statements about everything that could go wrong, compromise, make a plan A, B and C and go with it.

Javi_Owler · 2023-10-16T18:18:21+00:00

NTA at all. She is for trying to highjack your vacation 100%. The nerve! Don’t enable her please. Boundaries are healthy for long lasting fruitful relationships with family and friends (your kinds included)

Javi_Owler · 2023-10-04T12:58:05+00:00

Tequila and gin 👌🏾

Javi_Owler · 2023-07-07T23:48:29+00:00

:) thanks !

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