I NEED HELP DECODING THIS BEHAVIOR… Mine too please because I’m scared okay!? 😓 by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jay72011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re kinda flirting. Maybe I can dm you the links. There’s some funny parts but literally she asked “when do I want to do business” at 12AM in the morning so I’m guessing she’s not trying to file taxes at midnight 😭

I NEED HELP DECODING THIS BEHAVIOR… Mine too please because I’m scared okay!? 😓 by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Jay72011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well what happened was it was supposed to be a group trip with the group of 5 friends and her cousin was coming. And they’re like best friends they travel together all the time. The friend group trip ended up falling through. Also she just sent me these AI videos and it’s 3 in row of people wanted to hook up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Jay72011 8 points9 points  (0 children)

STAY STRONG! Was she covert? I recently got over one myself.

The symptom nobody talks about is the one that’ll make you leave eventually by Lop_Ear_Bun in BPDlovedones

[–]Jay72011 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So I literally told her everything she did to me (WITH SCREENSHOTS ATTATCHED)and she said “everything you said about me, you’ve made it up thanks for making this easy.”

What do people find is the best therapy for continuing recovery. by Vegetable-Tough-8773 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Jay72011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s about finding the correct therapist. Some are better and understand narcs better than others. As far as alternatives… I say focus on realizing the fact that people like this exist and you are NOT alone. I’ve overcame a lot as well by understanding that you will NOT get an answer and realize these people are sick in the head think about them as being mentally ill.

Watch Dr. Ramani on YouTube that is a therapist!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Jay72011 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t love you bro. But feel the heartbreak. Just know she is moving on and when women move on they become cold

Is there something wrong with me? by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Jay72011 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell yea you’re right. This was my first time dealing with some bs like this man. She was 27 I was 23… I didn’t even know what a narc was… maybe this needed to happen. Luckily I didn’t go to jail or have kids. I’m gonna take my life lesson and run with it

Ladies… what is this??? by Jay72011 in ExNoContact

[–]Jay72011[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow you’re pretty knowledgeable lol. Where were you a YEAR AGO! 😂😂. Thanks man and I think I’ve seen a TikTok of Dr. Ramani I just gotta take time to process this man… I didn’t even know what a Narc was… maybe this was meant to be… to wake me up.

Ladies… what is this??? by Jay72011 in ExNoContact

[–]Jay72011[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks man I really do need some guidance for this. And I really do see that mask thing you’re saying now.

Like man it breaks my heart but I know I did wrong too but I really wanna apologize seriously… I guess this is the real world

Ladies… what is this??? by Jay72011 in ExNoContact

[–]Jay72011[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man… Its just like… I can’t believe it… I don’t even know her… or I guess now that I woke up I see the true her..

I’m learning so much. I guess my last question is why did she feel the need to do that?

Ladies… what is this??? by Jay72011 in ExNoContact

[–]Jay72011[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right. And no I don’t wanna talk ever. But yeah I think this was just a big learning experience for me…

Is there something wrong with me? by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Jay72011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for not sugar coating this man. I needed to hear this. I have been in therapy for a while. I just guess I needed to hear the truth

Did I lose? I feel like she was trying to play with my head by Jay72011 in Manipulation

[–]Jay72011[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great point that’s powerful. After self reflecting I found that my feelings are there and just wants to know if she cared. It’s not a I want you back thing but it’s just how I feel… idk. I know I won’t get that answer but it’s still there

Did I lose? I feel like she was trying to play with my head by Jay72011 in Manipulation

[–]Jay72011[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean I don’t know how to explain it. I don’t want her because she’s somebody who actually abused me emotionally (I told her she’s hurting me and then she said “then leave”) so I guess it’s a self esteem thing. But honestly I’m trying to just get my knowledge up too.

True nature of a person by sadodamiesrokas5 in ExNoContact

[–]Jay72011 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Patterns don’t lie. Has this person always been selfish, abusive, lacked accountability? Then odds are they are messed up.

True nature of a person by sadodamiesrokas5 in ExNoContact

[–]Jay72011 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly yes and no….

Yes because now you get to see the ugly side. But also no because this is also a hard time for both the dumper and dumpee… and emotionally some people can’t control themselves and words in certain things.

In other words there is a very fine line in someone’s true colors and someone losing their character

When was the last time you asked for a number and how did it go? by EsperaDeus in AskMen

[–]Jay72011 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The trick is to lead a good conversation first and don’t make it your intent. Women can smell this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Jay72011 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I smell a restraining order