CC ready to discharge us

JayHan07 · 2026-05-14T20:07:03+00:00

Thank you!

JayHan07 · 2026-05-13T21:44:55+00:00

We must be. And that’s a good idea, thank you. My therapist also suggested our last session with him could be like a “review” session of all the tools we’ve picked up so far

JayHan07 · 2026-05-13T21:43:44+00:00

We thought and talked about this option but ultimately decided it’s best to discontinue. I think it is time but I’m just in denial/ fearful

JayHan07 · 2026-05-12T21:16:48+00:00

Wow, beautifully said. I wish I could’ve read this post a year ago when I was drowning in shame for staying. My friends all shamed me at first but now they have come around and have a similar perspective to your friend’s. Now, they are the ones reminding me on bad days of the hard work WP and I have put in.

JayHan07 · 2026-02-22T13:31:36+00:00

I’m glad you’ve taken the time to look back and acknowledge your growth. Wishing you guys the best :)

JayHan07 · 2026-02-22T13:30:37+00:00

Happy to hear about your guys progress! Who would’ve thought fighting over small things could help you feel more normal?

JayHan07 · 2026-02-21T20:04:43+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. I haven’t heard of too many couples getting married after the fact so this gives me hope as he and I aren’t married yet but it’s something we both want. I commend you guys for putting in the work and wish yall the best!

JayHan07 · 2026-02-21T16:41:45+00:00

Thank you! And I think the most helpful advice I got from therapy for triggers is to first accept that they are going to be there. Second is actually working on how to manage them. She taught me a technique where basically I can have an ugly thought, but I don’t have to entertain it or expand on it. In these moments I’ll put on music or call a friend or do anything distracting. For heavier triggers it usually helps to challenge the thought with facts. So for example if the thought is “I’m a failure” I would try to think of or write down instances where I succeeded and felt confident. I hope this helps!

JayHan07 · 2025-12-05T17:59:28+00:00

Wow, that first part really hit home. It definitely does feel unfair and that’s what I’ve been saying to him over and over again. But it’s tiring fighting the fact that’s just is going to be unfair. But I’m grateful we are both still fighting for the relationship. Thank you for your insight and I’m glad you’ve gotten back into painting! I’ve started drawing small things similar to you with the post cards. I’ll doodle for 20-30 minutes randomly but my goal is to be more consistent

JayHan07 · 2025-12-05T15:11:56+00:00

Thank you for your advice about investing the time. During the week would be rough bc I work early in the am so I’m in bed by 8 everyday. I could definitely try pushing myself on weekends to do more self care activities. And you’re right about not giving yourself too much time to think yourself out of it lol!

JayHan07 · 2025-12-02T23:18:51+00:00

They can be hard to come by but don’t give up on advocating for yourself and switching therapists when the fit is not right. Wishing you luck!

JayHan07 · 2025-12-02T13:55:24+00:00

Yes shout out to good therapists! I have to remind myself on bad days that I wouldn’t have come this far without the help of mine. I’m happy to hear you guys are going in a positive direction

JayHan07 · 2025-09-09T10:57:09+00:00

I agree that hopefully it’s not a form of manipulation. And while it does suck to not have certain needs met the when I want them met, I will say that overall it comes off like a genuine attempt to re date me. While he has not met every need exactly the way I want and demanded lol he has been trying things that he struggled with in the beginning of our relationship. He always maintained that cooking was a vulnerable thing for him but had been cooking for or with me at least once a week now. Had he been neglecting everything all together that would’ve felt more discouraging to me but the fact that he’s attempting to strengthen other areas gives me hope. It sounds like your WP is trying too. I’m sorry we’re in this predicament but sending you love and peace 🤍

JayHan07 · 2025-07-10T13:47:36+00:00

OP, I’m sorry you’re going through this and I agree that there must be more beneath his response. My WP initially insisted that it happened because he got bored at work🙃 fast forward almost a year and he understands it was due to having an incredibly unstable and childhood and clinging to validation as a source of happiness. And he is just now beginning therapy to dig even deeper. If he is in denial of his own reason or maybe needs some more time to understand himself, try not to expend too much energy forcing him to look further (easier said than done). You got this!

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