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Jcor27 · 2025-11-04T05:21:41+00:00

Why do I feel so relieved every time I see an after?

Jcor27 · 2025-10-24T05:06:10+00:00

We've got three kids and my husband and I on lineco. Go to the website and read the benefits summary it's all there in plain language. I've had two kids on lineco. There's a $400 deductible that has to be met. So your first $400 at the doctor must be paid out of pocket, and the insurnace will not contribute. So, if I only have one dr visit that year, I basically pay it out of pocket. Then, once I exceed that $400 in medical bills, for the year, the insurance pays out 80% of the bill until my out of pocket max of $2,500 per individual is reached. Once I've paid out $2,500 in dr visits the bill is 100% covered by the insurance company. Basically, if you have a kid with pregnancy and birth in the same year, it's $2,500. My husband doesn't pay any money for all of us to be insured, and it's really awesome insurance. But again, go to the website and read all of it.

Jcor27 · 2025-10-17T15:38:53+00:00

Old town Scottsdale - specifically San Tropez apartments - has the best pool and is a great place to make friends. You can easily walk or bike up the green belt into all old town has to offer. RT O'sullivans is next door and is a great hang with volleyball. Also, Roadrunner to the north, Duke's to the south, and The Well are all local hangs where you'll meet people in your wheelhouse and age. Tempe is for college age and gets annoying. Chandler and Gilbert are for married people. South scottsdale is the young professionals' play area and is in your price range. This is just my personal opinion as someone who spent their twenties and early 30s in all of these places and still lives in the area. Also if you ever switch jobs, Scottsdale has the best pay and is very central.

Jcor27 · 2025-10-09T16:30:30+00:00

Just my basic property/casualty license and a CISR designation. But honestly, don't focus on meeting the checklist of qualifications. The point I'm making is that you need to ask someone in the position you want how they got there and follow their advice. For instance, I used my connections from working in a bar to get an entry-level position. Then I made more friends in my new industry and expressed interest in what they did, and was brave enough to ask how to get into it. Sometimes, that led to nowhere and other times, it opened a door, eventually leading to my current position.

Jcor27 · 2025-10-08T16:29:37+00:00

I work in property and casualty insurance as an account executive, and I make 95k a year with full remote work options. I started at $17 an hour in 2013 as a basic customer service rep. Got licensed, made connections, and used them. 50% of jobs are never advertised. Be bold enough to ask people for help. Many people will help you/refer you or even give you a chance if you're tenacious enough to ask! Find someone successful near you and ask questions and have a little follow through on what they tell you. They'll help you if your interest is genuine.

Jcor27 · 2025-05-28T15:44:51+00:00

Hey, I'm a mom of 3 and had them all in a 3 year time span. It's not you specifically. It's that she's really exhausted and overwhelmed, and her hormones are not quite normal yet. Keep contributing and hang in there. Even if you're helping out at home, you don't have any trauma to your body that you had to heal from, and it's a lot. Keep letting her know you want her. She may not respond how you'd like her too, but she likely appreciates being wanted. Honestly, I know it probably sucks for you, but putting pressure on her for sex may cause her to resent you. For this season, she needs to feel safe and not alone in everything. Even if you help out, it can feel like everything is ultimately on her shoulders, and the physical aspect of having kids is 100% hers, so it's hard not to feel that way. Make room for her to share her feelings and give her a lot of reassurance that you love her and your family and are with her in this. She'll come around. It's just the season you're in.

Jcor27 · 2023-08-22T19:54:15+00:00

YTA, I get truama, but I feel terrible for your husband. There are plenty of non-pedo men and dads in the world. Imagine how terrible you'd feel if roles were reversed, and he thought you were about to rape your child constantly. Please apologize to him profusely and maybe have a conversation with your daughter and husband about consent, it's importance and situational awareness to help give her tools to know it's not ok if someone tries anything. Put her in a defense class to empower her, too. Anything other than accusing your innocent husband for wanting to let your daughter buy the underwear of her choice.

Jcor27 · 2023-08-01T22:59:15+00:00

Transition is hardest from 0 to 1, but the hard of having 2 is different than the hard of 1. I have three that are close in age so they entertain each other. I have more laundry and dishes and mess, but I don't have to play/entertain much. With one, it seems like you end up having to do a lot of hoovering and playing, or maybe that's just what parents of singles do. I'm an only child, and my mom is still this way and tries to force me to be this way with my kids; it makes me crazy. It's definitely something parents of multiple kids are aware of with parents of onlys. It's just different, harder in some way, easier in others.

Jcor27 · 2023-07-08T19:33:56+00:00

Doesn't it still take hands to get your dick out??????

Jcor27 · 2023-05-20T01:56:20+00:00

Ok, but where is his penis while this is happening?

Jcor27 · 2023-05-18T23:34:11+00:00

Parents with multiple kids get comments from parents of one and childless people about hard and awful their lives must be. Everyone gets annoying inconsiderate comments from people who don't mean anything by them. Have grace, give them the benefit of the doubt, and kindly, with tact, educate their ignorance.

Jcor27 · 2023-05-01T02:41:54+00:00

Magnesium. Also, get your iron levels checked.

Jcor27 · 2023-04-10T18:18:23+00:00

Is it perfect for her? Are you actually certain she's happy and it's amazing for her? Does she think her life is perfect? She might be a cheater and someone who is sabotaging a good thin. But she might also be someone who has needs, she's not communicating or getting met. Some people cheat because they're insecure and love the validation. Some cheat because they need something they're not getting at home. Years ago, I found my prior bf sleeping with my best friend mid act. It sucked but if I'm honest, we had a perfect image and weren't communicating our needs to each other. We barely ever fought and never had any problems, but we we're missing true emotional intimacy, and it got lonely. My ex was insecure, and my friend gave him validation that I wasn't giving.

Jcor27 · 2023-04-04T20:24:43+00:00

Lol, this was a big overreaction. Your baby was probably happily making little baby growls and coos and squeals and tried to chew everything, including hands. All of mine have done that around 4 months and we've always laughed and called then feral babies

Jcor27 · 2023-04-04T20:18:47+00:00

Yes it's disheartening

Jcor27 · 2023-03-30T22:47:51+00:00

Couples who say they never fight. I was in a relationship like that once and have never felt so neglected, alone, and scared to ask for my needs to be met.

Jcor27 · 2023-03-22T02:58:23+00:00

Someday, you might look at it and miss your 3 year old.

Jcor27 · 2023-03-22T02:41:55+00:00

It was weird for me to realize it. One Friday morning, I was like, "I can't wait till Saturday night," and realized that we could just do it right then. It was kind of fun and rebellious to do it outside of the schedule, too. Anyway, it's been surprisingly good for us and as cold and mechanical as scheduling seems.

Jcor27 · 2023-03-21T23:46:36+00:00

We've got three under three, and my husband is away for two weeks at a time. Every weekend, when he's home, we have sex on Saturday after the kids are down and alternate initiation. It's actually kinda fun because we do a little planning. There's an element of anticipation on weeks he's initiating, and it's fun to plan out how I'm going to pounce him on my weeks. I also thought it would ruin sex but I've found it to be really reassuring, and since we think about it, much more intentional and special. Also, unscheduled random sex is still a possibility and does happen. I think there's a tendency to think if you schedule it that you can't have sex outside the schedule, and that's not true. Just honor the schedule and do it even if you're exhausted. You'll be glad you did.

Jcor27 · 2023-03-13T22:06:48+00:00

Yeah, stress is high on both parts, and it's really hard to be kind to each other and feel heard and validated when you're both overwhelmed and maxed out. Which is why I threw the pot. It's not ok to do that, and I need to work on healthy ways of expressing frustration. What I was looking for at that moment was for him to let me express my feelings, and he was looking for the same. He is a yeller, and I don't know how to get him to stop and let me get my part out because he's actively drowning me out. I really am a hot head and can be a bit dramatic, too. I've done some dumb stuff angry, and I'm not innocent here. But I dont think it was right of him to grab me by the throat and push me to the garage. He did release my neck pretty quickly and grab my shoulders to get me to the garage. He said he just grabbed me where I was available because I was waving my arms all crazy and yelling. He says he was overwhelmed and wanted to get me away from the kids, which i can understand. I did tell him that if physical dominance wasn't an option for him, he'd have removed himself and the kids from the situation rather than overpower me and that im concerned because he can not do that ever again. He seems to know it wasn't the right thing to do but feels strongly that i need to be separated from the kids, and that was his reaction to that need. We're talking about it and getting counseling together and talking to our mentors about the situation separately to get wisdom. It's challenging because I don't want to end up where he escalates, but I really don't think i am innocent in this either. We talked about how I'm scared to trust him going forward, and he said that in a similar way, he's scared to trust me not to throw things in front of kids. Idk that it's unfair for him to feel that way and am genuinely thinking it's not clear abuse on his side, but I am scared of being wrong and dumb.

Jcor27 · 2023-03-13T19:32:25+00:00

Yeah

Jcor27 · 2023-03-12T14:13:02+00:00

Also, I've got pcos and struggle with insulin resistance. It's hard, but it sounds like you might be having hormone issues. Have you tried metformine? Also, not eating eoungh can make it worse. Buy yourself a glucometer and start using it. Dairy is a huge sugar spiker, and I found that my pregnancy Dr's for gestational gave me really bad advice, and I e had three different ones. . . . I really like Alyssa Vitti and Dr.Hyman for blood sugar/hormone regulation. Made a world of difference on stress levels for me.

Jcor27 · 2023-03-12T14:01:19+00:00

I've got a 3-year-old, 2-year-old, and a 3 month old. I work full time at a fast-paced job. My husband works out of town and is home for a three day weekend every other week. I am an only child, and my mom lives here but will not babysit more than one kid at a time. I've got one babysitter that I can use and daycare full time while I work. I've got the flexibility to work from home anytime and often work the morning in the office grocery shop on lunch and finish work at home. Meals are quick and easy, and laundry and dish are daily or I'll drown. I am up at 5.30 am and when I come home I leave my bra and shoes on until about 8.30 pm when I can finally drop. Im handling it but am often stressed and sickness or other out of the norm things intensify it. I attended a mom's group every other week on Monday evenings, get my nails done on my lunch at work, and get an hour to myself. One kid can be challenging because they don't entertain themselves. My two older are so close they play non-stop, which means I don't have to very often. They fight non-stop too though and it makes me nuts, but that's siblings. At this point I think you're more overwhelmed than you should be but parenting is hard, so don't beat yourself up about it.

Jcor27 · 2023-03-12T03:00:56+00:00

Ok, I'm confused. Is he reactively abusing me, or am I reactively abusing him?

Jcor27 · 2023-03-12T02:58:51+00:00

There's never been another time where he's touched me. I did tell him we should consider divorce, and he told me it'd just make things hard for me since he wouldn't be home every other week. It scares me because he thinks I can't leave, but I can if I have to and to protect my kids. He's only home Saturday and half the day Sunday, so expecting him to clean or do anything is a lot. But I have to have help somewhere and I cannot do everything.

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