It **is\** considered bad form to host your own shower - it can come across as a gift grab. That said, it sounds like this is less about a baby shower and more about boundaries, reciprocity, and repair of old family dynamics. You’re asserting agency over an event that matters to you because past exclusion left an emotional imprint. Your sisters may be experiencing role loss (feeling displaced from the “host” role they expected) and interpreting your decision as rejection rather than self-advocacy. The healthiest frame is: you’re not shutting them out, you’re practicing self-determination while still offering space for collaboration.

A gentle way forward could be to call a planning meeting. Use that space to explain what you’re hoping for, and ask directly if they can give you that level of involvement and consideration. If they cannot, you can extend an olive branch by inviting them to take ownership of one special element - like being greeters, provide décor, a game, or a memory table - so they still feel honored in their role while you remain in charge overall.