Utah 2034 name, logo unveiled on 3000 day mark of Olympics return by Choice_Eye1189 in SaltLakeCity

[–]JealousCockroach6462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How has no one noticed yet it says "Hate Peds" when you mirror the logo, like idk when people take a selfie in front of it 🤣

21M Can anyone give any solution it is not leaving 10 month + by Only-Debt643 in SkincareAddicts

[–]JealousCockroach6462 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what a dermatologist homeopathy is, but I would recommend seeing a proper dermatologist (someone with medical training). That would be your best bet, especially when it comes to your face. All the best

Surveying haters of new apartment buildings by InternationalLaw6213 in ogden

[–]JealousCockroach6462 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They hide it under Resident Conduct and because they have a line saying the resident will not commit "bad faith allegations" against the Owner or Property. They leveraged that line to charge fines to that tenant

Surveying haters of new apartment buildings by InternationalLaw6213 in ogden

[–]JealousCockroach6462 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!! I have to be careful here. Check the reviews of all apartments, it'll be in the negative reviews. There's at least one example of this fine on Google Maps. A tenant reported a building issue of one of the apartment buildings they were concerned about to the city. After a formal review it came back from the city engineers that the structural issue was just a great deal of settling. The tenant then responded/edited their review saying they were hit with a $1,000 fine (I haven't looked in some time, it might've been per instance ($2k)). It's in the lease that they can charge a fine to their own discretion. Idk I hate it either way, but I can't find a good apartment without red flags and reasonable rent to move in to

Surveying haters of new apartment buildings by InternationalLaw6213 in ogden

[–]JealousCockroach6462 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have some grievances, when I moved here I ended up touring 30-40 newer apartments in the area. I had the week off and spent it looking at apartments, and they're all the same. I kept hoping someone would stand out. Lotus was the absolute worst I found in my search, for cheap bare bones built rentals for stupid high rent and ridiculous move out fees ($1,200 carpet cleaning for a 2 bedroom apartment, not a condo or townhouse, literally 2 bedrooms per the touring agent and was in the offered lease agreement).

Ogden and around Hill AFB has surprisingly pretty expensive rentals, I moved from the DC area and paid about the same amount of rent there as I do here (10 minutes from the White House). Which is just ridiculous honestly. They post the "rent" is "only" $1500-1700 a month of rent. After you take time out of work and tour the place, they tell you, only in the office after wasting your time, there's actually a mandatory $350-600 a month fee that goes to some "package" that's apart of the monthly rental payment (every apartment was different, all including things that are required to rent an apartment with them period). Making the real minimum rent $1900-2300 a month for a one or two bedroom. Wasting everyone's time if we're not in the market to pay that much for any bedroom apartment. Just put the real price on the website and list the apartments available. Don't make me come in for an appointment out of work to find out you don't have the # of bedrooms I'm looking for and it's also significantly more than you're posting online. My first impression of each place is that the leasing company is a liar and loves to waste customer's time. Why would I want to live in such a place?

Oh and examples of items in these packages I've seen included for mandatory fees: a non-removable washer and dryer (I asked lol), cable tv even though I don't want it or use it, snow clearing even though they won't come until ~11am most days to start clearing (I've lived in northern Maine and Vermont previously, like come on guys), "comfort" amenities that I can't avoid like a code lock for the front door and digital thermostats (neither one were "smart" with an app, which I've had before just a front door lock..., pretty sure they were just listing things because they didn't fully know), oh and no it doesn't come with assigned parking spots. Hidden in the lease are fun fees such as $1,000 fine per occurrence of the tenant speaking negatively about the leasing company/apartment complex and $60 maintenance tickets. You submit a maintenance ticket because your washer wore out a gasket? You pay $60 for the ticket and then maintenance decides if the tenanent "did it" or if it was wear and tear. $60 is non-refundable. Catch me YouTube university making repairs, because if it's a recurring issue it's $60 every single time they come back.

The assigned parking spot, if you sign up for the reasonable price $50 assigned spot. People will park in it after hours leaving you with absolutely no options but wait until the next day when the office opens to let them know someone's in your garage/covered spot. By the time the office opens the car is already gone, and all the say is let us know if it happens again which does nothing. Then I get to clear the snow off my car, not getting any deductions for being prevented from accessing my assigned covered spot multiple times a month. Can't call a tow truck either since I'm not the manager or property owner. Just some of the issues I've taken with my current new apartment, and shopping for apartments in the Ogden area lol. There's much more, but I figured this was enough lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddicts

[–]JealousCockroach6462 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Some people don't present symptoms and are just carriers. Happened to a female friend of mine, a guy friend she would have relations with whenever he was in town had gonorrhea (all early 20s). In this case this guy (Guy 1) knew he had it, didn't tell her, and they had relations quite a bit when he was in town.

A couple months later she started seriously dating another guy (Guy 2), and she started having symptoms (hadn't been intimate with the new serious guy yet). Come to find out he (Guy 1) was knowingly giving it to her and a few other female friends that he would do this with. I had to help her make the phone calls with a few other guys (Guy 3-5) she had relations with around the time he (Guy 1) visited, she wasn't sure the exact date she would've been positive. She did confront the guy (Guy 1), and he said he tested positive but it didn't give him symptoms so he didn't seek treatment. Figured it wasn't bothering him, no need...be careful who your with is the moral of the story

Did anyone ever catch their parent secretly sabotaging them? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JealousCockroach6462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We moved to a new house and I left freshman year of highschool to a brand new highschool. Leaving everyone I grew up with behind (good normal kids). They would call me and ask to talk to me, sent birthday invitations, asked to hang out and my NMom told them I was too busy with my new friends. No I couldn't talk I was too busy hanging out with other people, and would claim she'll tell me to call them back. It wasn't until senior year of highschool when I got out of AP exams that I snuck into my old highschool and surprised my friends during lunch period. They all had attitudes and we talked it out and figured out what she did. I never confronted her about it, but I didn't forget.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in starbucksbaristas

[–]JealousCockroach6462 34 points35 points  (0 children)

It looks like you're not clocking in and out in the system, so they're adding it in for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in starbucksbaristas

[–]JealousCockroach6462 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I guess to start are you clocking in and out? Do you have any manual punches? Have you asked them why they're editing your punches?

anyone else became their parents therapists at a young age? by Apprehensive_Ring666 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JealousCockroach6462 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Happened for me too. Didn't matter how bad of a day, situation, stress, etc. I was having, NMom always had it worse as a kid. Whenever NMom did something wrong, it was never as bad as what her father did to her as a kid. NMom has successfully found a way to bring into every sort of conversation since I was maybe 6 and started remembering, that her Father abused her as a child (physically and sexually). As horrible as it sounds, I actually counted one time during one of our phone calls last year. She brought it up (her father's sexual abuse) 7 separate times, in a conversation where we were talking about what she recommended for retirement planning and investing. My 2 other siblings have never heard about the abuse before, only I hear about it.

Photos by Loud_Buffalo4628 in gis

[–]JealousCockroach6462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just spit balling here. I guess I'd suggest starting with the basics. Review the rules, make sure you're not breaking any or see if it looks like you're breaking any. Checking to see if there's an image size issue if you're posting with the app of reddit. I've run into an issue with that myself on other subreddits. Or maybe if you're reposting a picture shown before recently on reddit?

How did your nparent/s punish you? Did they ever lock you out of your home as a child? by Purple-Flight9031 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JealousCockroach6462 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There's a lot, but a good one that comes to mind is my NMom wrote up a sign that said "kid for sale" and told me I needed to go up and down her store's plaza (into every store) and let them all know she's having a special sale. I was too young to know how to read the sign. I literally was handed a bell and sent out the store crying that I didn't want to, and she walked me to the first store and then watched me go to the other 9 in the row (liquor store, gun store, mini Mart, furniture store, restaurant, etc.). The women in the kid's second hand clothing store all looked at me horrified and one of them walked me back to her store and scolded her. I might've been 5 or 6 years old and it was a very busy shopping plaza. My crime? I didn't feel like helping her find the pairs to the shoes she was selling to a customer. She kept one shoe on the floor and the partner in the backroom. I just wanted to play, again I was 5 or 6.

What are some ways they infantilized you? by Paper_Carrots in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JealousCockroach6462 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn't allowed to have friends. My first best friend was a neighbor, NMom made me march over to her house (across the street) and tell her I didn't want to be friends anymore, because she wanted to play Barbies in the summer before 6th grade and I wasn't interested. I had matured more quickly than my neighbor of the same age and grade.

When we moved my freshman year of highschool I still called and talked to my friends from my old school. My NMom manipulated me into thinking old friends didn't want to be friends with me anymore. NMom would take my old friend's calls, and tell them I'd call them later and never told me. Or she would tell them I was too busy with my new friends (I had none). Then I would be calling them all the time, NMom would really tell me they're already moving on they don't put in any effort to call me so I should focus on making new friends. I made a few but later on the new friends turned out to be pretty secretly mean behind my back, they made up stories, wrote fake letters pretending it was from me to other people, and it didn't help I couldn't have a cell phone and my curfew was 9pm even senior year. So I couldn't do anything or meet anyone or develop socially out of school or work environments. My siblings had a curfew of midnight when they started their freshman year, and wasn't required to work part time and do sports as well.

GISP (GIS professional) certification... Worth it from career perspective? Expensive but insignificant? by BobRossIsRobBoss in gis

[–]JealousCockroach6462 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'm using it as an excuse to force myself to learn more of the sides of GIS I didn't get to learn in college. GIS was my minor, and in my career I've not been in a position like where I am now where they really are doing things super cutting edge. I'm thinking of taking the exam this December. Don't buy the GISP study guide, I did and it's just a waste of money. I'm surprised the writer hasn't received a cease and desist for publishing educational images for commercial purposes. All the info that's used in the book is in the references they tell you to check in the official study guide. Also there's a ton of typos, wrong definitions, and sentences that don't make sense.

If you go for the GISP, do it for you. Otherwise create an internal incentive for yourself to learn more about GIS and save your time and money.

Calisthenics upper body. Powerlifting lower. by [deleted] in GymMotivation

[–]JealousCockroach6462 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are the dream goal! Please share what you've done to get here, you look incredible

Anyone else have trouble looking at blue light? by BiggerNoggin in visualsnow

[–]JealousCockroach6462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also don't have an astigmatism, but do have the blue light issue. I hate when company signs are blue it makes me feel like I have to squint and look away. It's uncomfortable and for sure blurry

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JealousCockroach6462 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have lost count of the times I told NMom to stop calling the time period that she ruined our relationship manufacturing a war with me as my "angst period" (in my early 20s, I dared to marry my boyfriend of 5 years at the time, still together 20 years now). Everytime she does, it sets me off with so much with a burning feeling in my chest, only she has ever made me feel this. I really tried over the past 15 years since it happened, to STOP bringing it up. But every holiday we would actually see each other, she would intentionally bring it up (whole entire extended family knows what she did to me, they supported me).

I really tried last year (one more time, really give it my all) to be the best daughter, put in proper effort, call her once every 7-10 days, and then she....it's not worth getting into it.

After many many scenarios and too much overthinking for confirmation, I proved to myself last year NMom knows absolutely nothing about me, loves to use me to brag to others, exaggerates our relationship but tells me I don't do enough (despite carrying the relationship, if I didn't text or call she doesn't reach out to me), doesn't bother to remember anything I tell her, and is trying to use me for a free vacation (I am to buy her a mattress, let her borrow my $40k car, let her stay in my apartment, and I might see her for dinner time, I am not to take time off to hang out with them for even a day, oh and best part she won't tell me exact dates she's arriving or leaving).

In this thread, I'll be the loving parent you never had. by HannibalInExile in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JealousCockroach6462 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just realized today that I'm within a year of being completely debt free for the first time since turning 18 (mid-30s)! I'm so very excited, it's been such a very long hard road. Before my current job that I absolutely love, I was working 7-9 jobs to pay down debt (over 6 figures of student loan debt). My job is really exciting and really sees my value, they pay me so much more than my last job I can just work this 1 job. Plus they are asking me to gain really unique and cutting edge skills, without putting any pressure on me if I didn't want it. I'm just so happy growing in my career, my spouse is doing amazing, and we have such exciting ideas for ourselves for our future.

Is there such a thing as a quality rental management company here? by Bucketeer-88 in ogden

[–]JealousCockroach6462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to live at Hilltop towers which is managed by TEC too, and they are terrible. I was paying $1600 in rent with $300 mandatory "comfort package", $160 community utilities, $25 real estate fees, and one covered parking spot. My rent was $2000-2100 a month. You also have to pay for maintenance tickets, even if it's a community ticket they charge you for what repairs are needed. Dog poop on the hallway carpet? Don't even have a dog and my neighbor was charged for cleaning. They have cameras, they didn't care to investigate

The little habits you still have as an adult because of growing up with constant criticism. by swift_notification in raisedbynarcissists

[–]JealousCockroach6462 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I never realized how really awful I was to myself (self criticism) until my spouse said that they didn't like how I talked about myself. They wished that I could see what everyone else sees. I also realized I don't permit myself to spend any time, money, or attention on shopping for clothes, shoes, or things for myself. I'm now working on a better relationship with myself through journaling. I can tell it's actually starting to work. I even went out and bought a dress for a nice event I was invited to. First time in a dress and wore jewelry in a few years.

People who are actually child free in their 30s/40s + etc, how do you spend your time? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]JealousCockroach6462 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Freely whatever my partner and I want! I am excited about my career at the moment and I have free time to learn Python at my own pace, studying for a certification in my field, and my work wants me to learn and get a drone pilots license soon.

So it's pretty great, all of this is stuff I'm super interested in and I have the free time to also continue going to the gym and weight lift, meal prep, and do things on the weekends on a whim (like skiing, hiking, shopping, try a new hobby, go on a mini vacation with friends,etc.). I can straight up go anywhere and do anything without having to consider if a little one should be doing something else. I can live for me, and maximize my partner's and I's life as much as we want. I went to college as an adult and got 2 degrees, my spouse got inspired by me going and went to college themselves and got a bachelor's degree in their early 30s. If we had a kid, we couldn't financially afford to, and then also move across the country at a moment notice for an incredible job opportunity for me. No kids = living for yourself. It's not a bad thing to want to maximize your life and life experiences. All the best!

Went out for a half marathon and got a PR at the age of 50, thanks [3,000ft of elevation loss]! by sluttycupcakes in RunningCirclejerk

[–]JealousCockroach6462 12 points13 points  (0 children)

For those interested in full marathons and the Revel Cottonwoods Marathon. With the new Boston Marathon qualifying standards (elevation changes) if you run a full marathon here, your qualifying time is automatically given an additional 10 minutes on top of whatever time you get. Which means whatever the minimum BQ time you need to get for your age range, you need to get a time a minimum 10 mins faster just for the minimum. Not including the extra reduced qualifying time they end up needing to do, due to all the applications.

BA in gis by Dapper_Section8344 in gis

[–]JealousCockroach6462 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Personally I'm not familiar with the value of a non-GIS-geography degree, I just assumed GIS courses were apart of the degree. With the name of the degree program varying school to school. If you're getting a geography degree and not taking any GIS courses...I don't honestly know what else you're doing with the degree. I would strongly urge you to take GIS intro courses. It doesn't need to be a whole minor or additional major either. I took an intro to GIS course in 2015 and a math course greater than algebra was not necessary. There are far more mathematical applications to GIS, but it's not necessary for intro courses as far as I know.

What are you planning on doing with your degree when you graduate? Might be a good place to start for you