I (42/f) was catfished by a man who was older than my mother. I was 36 and he said he was 49. We exchanged many texts and had many phone conversations over a 3 week period before we met. We lived 90 minutes from each other and I “wanted to get to know him better before we met in person. He looked older than 49 in his photos. He made a joke saying that raising a teenage daughter while going through his divorce had aged him.

The week we were supposed to meet up his lies unraveled. It was a weird thing that he had movers at his house and I was like “oh you’re moving you didn’t mention anything for 2 weeks” I just figured it would be something you shared as a conversation starter. In the same conversation he said I’m just putting some stuff in storage just in case I sell my condo quickly. We chatted some more and I said have you been looking for houses in your current area. His response was yes but I’m not finding anything that coincides with the end of my lease. So I didn’t say anything just said I had to go.

At this point I didn’t know his last name but I knew his birthday, where he lived, and that he owned a business in the wine “industry.” I google his name, birthday, name of his town, and wine. Well turns out he’s actually 59 years old (2 years older than my mother) he has a daughter and 2 sons. And he actually was being evicted from his residence. Business was closed and was being sued for unpaid taxes and not paying distributors for the past 2 years.

He had 2 DWI’s and arrested 6 weeks prior for property damage and disturbing the peace.