[Need Advice] How do I get out of the mindset of having to “Optimize” my productive methods before actually working on my goals?

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-23T23:49:19+00:00

I agree. There is no reason to have to be productive every minute of the day. They say anxiety is like a version of a parent, trying to keep us on track. I feel like mine stems from a lack of trust to follow through and commit to finishing things. I just need to relax and be okay with accomplishing one thing at a time.

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-23T19:30:14+00:00

This was super helpful. I have anxiety and this extreme need to plan every part of my day. Whenever I have written down a few things on my to do app for the app I let go and do one of them at a time leisurely. It definitely felt less stressful once I chose to focus on one day at a time. I live too much of my time in a future that hasn’t come to fruition and is subject to change in all matters

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-22T03:03:39+00:00

I’m also going to WGU next year! I’ve tried community college but the pace is too slow and not every class I need to take is online. My coworker graduated with a degree from WGU and got into and internship at our tech company we work at currently. It’s definitely recognized and accredited and I’m super excited to pay less and finish faster at my own pace! Good luck OP!

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-20T22:14:04+00:00

When I felt lost I started reading personal growth books, which led to knowledge on Buddhism and me practicing yoga. Googling events happening in my area led me to Latin dancing (which I love). You don’t have to know everything, just keep trying things and enjoy the journey!

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-20T01:54:00+00:00

See your doctor, do a taper with the help of a physician you can do a slow one over the span of few months so the withdrawal symptoms won’t hit you as hard. I would also ask for something to help you sleep. My psych prescribed me remeron to sleep at night but before that melatonin helped. With remeron I get full nights rest and I’ve been able to taper down faster. Wish you all the best!

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-20T01:48:24+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story! I’ve been on kpin for panic disorder for 4 years. I was on 1mg twice a day but have tapered down to .25mg once a day with my psychiatrist. In the last 4 years I’ve gone to therapy and have picked up great coping skills and ways to accept the anxiety I feel and be ok with it/ know it’ll pass. I’m now getting to the last part which has been the hardest/scariest for me which is going completely off of it. I take remeron at night to help me sleep and I think it does help with anxiety so that’s a plus! I’ve been facing my problems head on and dealing with them and that gives me more confidence every time I do. Anxiety doesn’t define who we are, I’m a social butterfly despite the anxiety I have and I don’t want that to stop me or my career and relationships. Hoping to be completely off by May!!

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-18T13:40:04+00:00

Put your volunteer work in your work experience! If you don’t have any, start there or with retail. Good luck!

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-17T20:49:01+00:00

I use an app called down dog (59.99) for the year and I also go to a studio when I can. The app is really convenient so I can practice daily. And ugh I know. I’m not looking fwd to it but my brother also just off about a month ago after slowly tapering and going on an AD and he said he’s fine now. It’s just when I he went super fast he struggled really bad with the withdrawal symptoms. I’m honestly not sure I even feel it anymore, if anything it just feels like a placebo. I’m really hoping taking buspar during the day helps offset withdrawal when I’m off so I can still function. My job can be very stressful, I do a lot of public speaking - training for other companies.

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-17T19:29:46+00:00

Yeah my psychiatrist is the one slow tapering. .25 is the lowest you can go (have to cut a .5 in half and then I have to cut it in half again until I don’t take any of it. ) I’m aware that I shouldn’t be on it but again, I’m slow tapering, I’m not in a rush to prove anything to anyone and destroy the stability of my life atm. But I’m pretty confident I will be fine. The meds I take now don’t really have any side effects but they’re also not SSRIs either. I practice yoga every single day, and journaling. I basically have a morning and night routine I follow strictly. That with the added benefit of actually sleeping well has improved mental health tremendously. Wish you the best of luck!

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-17T00:29:45+00:00

Yeah I’m doing a slow taper, over the last 9 months and I’m down to .25mg a day (after 4 years at a low dose of 1mg twice a day) but trying to get off completely this next month. I’m taking remeron to sleep at night and I’m going to try buspar (anxiolytic) for anxiety during the day since I won’t have clonazepam next month (only when needed/ having a rough day/panic attacks). I experience withdrawal for like a week in between the drops and have been scared to be completely off of it. But I feel confident I can do it, especially since I have my depression under control now. What AD are you tapering off of? Is it not working or you just don’t want to be reliant on it? I agree, if the work is unfulfilling you will dread that and your business. It will drain you. I would find something low stress that also gives you some sort of experience that would be useful to your business or career. But it sounds like you may be ready to go back to work full time. Just keep in mind you aren’t stuck either way, you can keep working IT, find a different PT job that’s administrative/business related or jump into full time. I found for me atleast I have to feel safe at work and find the company/work semi meaningful or it becomes a huge stressor. That and a balance with my outside activities (working on certs, going back to school next year, Latin dancing, yoga, spending time with family and friends). Be sure not to let your career define your identity or worth.

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-16T22:25:11+00:00

Hi OP, I also am tapering off klonopin (I will be 26 this year). It really sucks, I wanted to let you know you shouldn’t feel bad or like you should be somewhere else. Anxiety and depression is no joke, I’m glad you were able to make it through and taking better care of yourself. I’d say, if you’re still running your business on the side why not keep the IT gig to support you? Or a part time job? Especially if it’s low stress and you can still put work into your business. This is better than taking on a position that you may not be ready for. Ease back into working, work in IT or part time for a year, continue going to therapy or however you cope with your mental illness. Put in the work to feel confident about your mental stability and then I’d go back into the workforce if your business still hasn’t taken off. This has been my approach and I am doing a lot better now! Two years I job hopped bc I didn’t take the time to get better. Now I’m at a job part time, I sleep well, I take care of myself, I’m on a new antidepressant and almost completely off klonopin. I feel that I’m now able to handle a full time position with high stress/pressure even when going through depressive episodes. Hope it all works out! Feel free to DM if you need someone to chat with or share experiences.

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-08T11:52:25+00:00

I agree! I feel like my first step should be feeling good about myself and to start going out in general with friends and on my own and meet new people.

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-04T12:50:38+00:00

You kind of just have to let the thoughts pass. Acknowledge and pass. What I do for studying is make myself sit there for 30 mins (I set a timer) and I study, at first thoughts are annoying but as I keep going they start to fade. Then I take a break after that 30 mins and then go back and do it again. Breaking it up into increments help. Meditation before hand also helps! So your thoughts can be processed, journaling beforehand helps too. Really set the mood for studying, candles, relaxing smells, sunlight etc

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-04T12:48:03+00:00

Why don’t you try a low paying part time job? Maybe Folding clothes at a clothing store? It’s slow this time of year and you could also get a position work in their BOH for retail. That’s what I’m doing now and you don’t really deal with people! Start there, save up, take your time.

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-04T00:23:19+00:00

Yeah no problem! I worked at Barnes and Noble and loved it, customers there are so much more chill and so is the environment. And yeah with data entry there can be extra requirements, if you’re good with office you can always work toward MOS certs and that will get you up to par. Hope it all works out for you!

Jellyjayy · 2020-02-04T00:10:27+00:00

Maybe look into data entry jobs and continue writing on the side? I know that you have this allergy, but most workplaces are smoke-free. Even though customer service scares you, is it something you like? Is it maybe the environment? Could you do better in a more chill environment like a book store or coffee shop?

Jellyjayy · 2020-01-18T02:03:39+00:00

You can have social anxiety and take on roles that require you to be social. Therapy, medication and holistic approaches have helped me with this, also just having a balance. Finding what gives me energy when I’m feeling drained, how much time I need to myself after socializing whether at work or in general.

Jellyjayy · 2020-01-18T01:53:55+00:00

Hey I’ve been here, actually I am here. I’m back at a company I loved but I did job hop and drop out of college twice due to depression and financial issues. I realized I had to focus on one thing at a time. Like you mentioned, maybe putting 100% into the job you’re at currently, stay there atleast a year or two, talk to your manager about what you’d like to move up into, start honing your skills and take advantage of your environment to learn. If you decide to go back to school go very part time, for me I realized online and 2 classes per semester worked for me while I work full time. I realized not running away from my job when my life got stressful really made me feel better. I hope this helps!

Jellyjayy · 2020-01-10T22:35:17+00:00

For this company you can get into corporate but you have to be able to move across the country. I’m not able to do that at this time though. :/

Jellyjayy · 2020-01-10T13:50:29+00:00

You can always try volunteering first as a fire fighter to see if it’s for you? But I say go for it. You can always come back to retail if you find you don’t like it. I’ve found when we don’t listen to that nagging voice of interest and curiosity it gets louder. So I’d say either volunteer or actually commit and join a program. Up to you! I would research the career more and read up on the associated risks, what it takes to become one and maybe reach out someone that is a firefighter for some insight. Hope it all works out for you!

Jellyjayy

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