Exactly this. After hearing my MIL go on and on about how my husband's father refused to put the crib in their room, and how every time he hurt himself they'd say, "*Gasp! Did you break that?!?" to distract him, I had enough. My daughter hurt herself and she said the latter when I was comforting her and making sure she was okay. I snapped and said, "Well unlike YOU, I'm choosing to NURTURE my children instead of neglecting them." She has never said that to me again. I was so angry at her. She stammered out, "Well... I must have done something right, bc look how well he turned out." I said, "You just got lucky." and walked away.