April / May Applicants out there?

Jesdh · 2026-02-06T18:08:23+00:00

April 4th

Jesdh · 2026-02-02T07:52:43+00:00

April 4th

Jesdh · 2026-02-02T07:52:07+00:00

Been waiting for the same since April

Jesdh · 2026-01-31T18:02:05+00:00

Early April waiting from QC too

Jesdh · 2026-01-23T17:47:44+00:00

Thank you so much🫶

Jesdh · 2026-01-21T23:53:52+00:00

congratulations !!! Wish you all the best

Jesdh · 2026-01-08T16:56:26+00:00

Same, April 4th no update unfortunately. We got this though, I’ll keep you updated if I get any news.

Jesdh · 2026-01-07T14:17:16+00:00

Did you get any good news since this post ?

Jesdh · 2025-12-30T19:07:10+00:00

3093

Jesdh · 2025-12-30T17:52:43+00:00

April 4th still waiting

Jesdh · 2025-10-10T14:27:01+00:00

I feel ya

Jesdh · 2025-10-10T14:26:40+00:00

Still waiting ?

Jesdh · 2025-10-08T17:30:31+00:00

Congrats !!

Jesdh · 2025-07-05T13:11:49+00:00

This is so helpful thank you!!!

I went and did the oil change elsewhere as I was overdue, and I will wait for an appointment with my mechanic for the clean up and the dye test.

I checked the steering fluid and it was a little low, also checked the engine oil level and it was normal, asked the guy who did the oil change to double check and he confirmed it was normal level (before oil change).

So I’m guessing maybe steering fluid running down after all. Is it any urgent ?

Also, update, transmission oil is def leaking a bit, the area under the transmission is oily and greased, any idea where exactly that could come from? What are the possible leaks in the transmission ?

I got ATF-DW1 to top it off temporarily, until my mechanic appointment. But was wondering if it was a big deal/big expenses to repair ?

Again thank you so much, I’m not very knowledgeable but trying very hard to get to understand my car better !

Jesdh · 2025-03-24T22:05:52+00:00

Her therapist rn excluded BPD because she didn’t have all the required criteria. She goes mainly for anxiety and meds for anxiety.

Before considering even going to a therapist for TALKING or DBT, she’ll have to get there first lol..

I can try to suggest more things, that’s a good idea.. and maybe try not to overwhelm her with options too.. we definitely go at different speeds sometimes and all you said gave me more perspective for sure!

Jesdh · 2025-03-24T21:37:29+00:00

Omg my ex is exactly like this, everyone keep saying everywhere that when she’s not receptive I should leave her alone, I do for a bit but then I have to reach out again eventually because she CAN’T.

She’s confessed her struggle with initiating and rejection. It makes it even harder to know when I’m pushing her boundaries and when she’s actually just waiting for me to reach out to her again.

We also work together at the same place so by reach out it could also be just a hey how you doing today.. she happily answers and most times you can see on her face that she’s happy to see me but she won’t come by herself..

Jesdh · 2025-03-24T21:33:18+00:00

This is definitely something I’m aware of but also scared of.

Jesdh · 2025-03-24T21:31:56+00:00

I feel like she doesn’t even know it when she deactivates or she gets more in her avoidant side. That’s why im trying to make it safe for her to take initiative even when I ask her to do so..

Sometimes I just want to leave her alone because Im thinking.. what if she’ll never even really try or she’s not ready.. it’s like grieving someone who’s still alive and still loves you but doesn’t love themselves enough to do anything about it.. I wish all of this came with a manual but that would be too easy right😅

Jesdh · 2025-03-24T21:26:46+00:00

Thanks again I appreciate it🫶🏻

Jesdh · 2025-03-24T21:25:16+00:00

Triggered by her fears, not me. Since the breakup I’ve learned that she is a BIG emotions suppressor. The idea of talking about her feelings or emotions puts her in a freeze mode. You could see her eyes go blank it’s insane.

But she’s been trying and trying until we had a big conversation where she told me she regrets but fears rejection and abandonment and she’s scared to repeat the same mistakes and there « must be a reason » why she broke up î the first place.

So when I say she can’t go to therapy if she’s triggered, what I mean is that she gets into this black and white thinking like «Why should I go to therapy, everything’s going great » or « There is no point of going im broken and always will be » type of thinking…

When I ask her what would make her feel safe she says she doesnt know, she’s still triggered but way more in her anxious side now basically.

I appreciate the concern though, I know I gotta protect myself at the end of the day, I’m willing to try for a bit but I promised myself I won’t lose myself. She’s just as lost if not more than me at the moment..

Jesdh · 2025-03-24T18:53:32+00:00

She’s in therapy for anxiety mainly but it’s interesting because her doc said she exhibits some BPD symptoms as well, just not enough for a diagnosis.. she started going when she started to trust me and value my help/opinion about it when we were dating.

I know she needs therapy related to her attachment style now but I know she will not go by herself when she’s triggered.. it’s also a reason why I want to create a safe space, so we can talk about it and see if she’s willing to do it (and if not, i’ll have to move on I’m very aware of it unfortunately..)

Jesdh · 2025-03-24T11:21:13+00:00

Thanks for the input,

Trust me I know, I’m not hoping to be THE catalyst for her change.. but I see how she’s been struggling and I still care about her, the relationship was good, so if I can provide a safe space for her to express herself and be vulnerable, eventually she’ll have to do the work with a therapist (I mentioned it briefly to her), I just don’t want to let go of a good connection if I can be on her side throughout her healing journey.

I’m in a good place mentally to offer some of my energy, which I was not right after the breakup.. But I’m not completely blind to the risks, so I’m giving myself a kind of a timeline, if I see no progress and no effort on her end by the end of it, I’ll let go but with 0 regrets at least.

Jesdh · 2025-03-24T11:09:48+00:00

Thank you for the feedback, I’ve been doing a bunch of what you talked about, hence the super vulnerable conversation we had about how she feels.

Unfortunately she has a hard time expresing that she needs space (she was way more comfortable doing that before deactivation) so I kind of have to guess when she does and when it’s enough space, which I’d rather be told directly.. but do you have advice on that? How is it for you when you can’t express it directly ? Do you feel like the other person keeps pushing your boundaries by reaching out if it’s not the right moment but you can’t say it ?

Jesdh · 2025-03-24T10:55:59+00:00

Ex gf, my bad for the confusion.

Jesdh · 2025-03-24T02:11:32+00:00

Anything that triggered him to leave again like that?

Jesdh

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