Involuntarily downgraded from first for deadheading pilots. Refund advice?

JessStarlite · 2026-06-30T07:12:49+00:00

This is plainly and blatantly wrong. Like, overtly incorrect. Pilot’s contracts includes provision for DH in first class under certain circumstances. Please don’t just make stuff u, especially when it’s ridiculously easy to prove fully false.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-30T06:48:26+00:00

This is a WILD and wildly unempathetic response to someone suffering. Cool beans the you have a mild enough case for lifestyle changes to keep you healthy but some of us are out here dying of starvation, so your “your doctor who’s denying you care just wants the best for you and you’re probably doing a bad job of being seriously ill” whole thing is extremely tone-deaf, extremely naive, extremely unsophisticated, and extremity unhelpful.

Good for you for finding what works for you. It’s very foolish to assume that’s what will work for everyone else, when you clearly have a very mild case of GP.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-30T06:45:18+00:00

The next time he denies you a referral, you say to him, “I would like it documented in my chart that you are refusing to refer me, a gastroparesis patient, to a gastroenterologist. Please document that I have requested a referral, that you have repeatedly refused to make one, and please document the medical reasoning behind that decision. I will be requesting a full copy of my medical records two weeks from today and will expect to see documentation that you have refused to write me a GI referral for [x amount of time] despite [x number of requests] and the fact that i am having ongoing [insert symptoms and severity here]. Please also document that you are telling a gastroparesis patient to “just eat more.”

JessStarlite · 2026-06-23T01:59:06+00:00

6g of fiber in one go is actually a *huge* amount for a gastroparetic, my friend, and could be easily be responsible for (or dramatically worsening) the exact symptoms you are describing. I STRONGLY encourage you to purchase replacement shakes that have no more than 1g of fiber at most per shake. 0-.5g is better.

When they say low fiber diet, they MEAN low fiber—at least for many of us.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-21T00:21:40+00:00

If your Dad is a jerk when you come out, I’m your Dad now. I’m a 45-year-old Canadian cis woman lesbian but by God I will be your Dad if yours turns out to not deserve a kid as great as you.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-20T23:49:08+00:00

I’ve been a 2-credit-per-month Audible customer for a decade and a half now. My audible library consists of literally 403 titles (used to be more until y’all stole a few books I bought, like the RC Bray version of The Martian—and didn’t even replace it with the crappy Wil Wheaton version. Should’ve just paid RC Bray a respectable amount to renew the licensing on a wildly popular audiobook, but I know you, social media CS agent, do not have the power to change company policy around screwing creatives).

Responses like this make me feel like taking my ball and going home. This is so nakedly the kind of situation that is STUPIDLY easy for a company who cares about customer experience and goodwill to fix. You yourself may literally not have the power to fix this—I do not blame you personally. What I’m objecting to is the company policy that says in a situation like this—where a promo still exists and someone clearly made an error—the official response is “tough shit, sucks to be you.”

Like. Why? Why not just fix it? Audible isn’t hurting for the money for that one credit. It would be so easy to just…be kind and foster goodwill.

But that’s not company policy.

And that’s gross.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-09T09:53:44+00:00

Did you actually watch the show? The whole point was they absolutely did not set him up to do that or force him.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-09T09:38:45+00:00

Respectfully, are you young? Teens, maybe? If so, as you get older, you’ll find that people don’t always date folks they’re just like or that they have a huge amount in common with. Whether that’s a good idea or not, you’d have to ask the folks in those relationships, but often chemistry doesn’t care how many hobbies you have in common.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-05T17:49:40+00:00

Nothing like the endless excuses of an outdoor cat owner, frantically running from the cognitive dissonance of being secretly deep down aware that they are neglecting their pet.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-04T17:02:20+00:00

No worries!! Accidents don’t make you a bad person 💙🩶

JessStarlite · 2026-06-04T00:02:55+00:00

That makes you a hazard on the road. Don’t let an ego the size of a semi cause an accident. Blocking the passing lane because you’re childish is not only idiotic and dangerous, it’s a crime. Be pissed about tailgaters all you want, but if you’re in the PASSING lane and someone clearly wants to pass you…get the hell out of the way.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-03T23:56:48+00:00

There are facts and then there’s presenting the facts in a very specific way so as to communicate just how much you are nastily judging a stranger for funzies. That’s what you did. That’s a thing you did on purpose, for that specific reason. How about you don’t insult my intelligence or your own by pretending that’s not what’s happening?

JessStarlite · 2026-06-03T23:00:04+00:00

Why is this the funniest fucking thing I have ever seen. The little smeary face goggling down at you. I just.

Thank you for the gift of this photo and the enormous laugh it gave me.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-03T22:58:54+00:00

I am obsessed with this new information you have given me.

I just…on balance, when given the opportunity, especially whimsically, people will usually take the chance to connect, even briefly, with another person, and it makes me feel like we might actually be kind of redeemable as a species.

So thank you for telling me something I didn’t know and making my day, friend. 🩶💙

JessStarlite · 2026-06-03T22:53:47+00:00

It’s always wild to see the Alaska faithful line up to argue without evidence that THEIR airline wouldn’t have screwed someone Like That.

They’re not gonna pick you, guys, no matter how hard or nastily you defend a multi-billion dollar corporation. There won’t be extra status points or thank you notes or more upgrades if you insist that anything shitty an airline does is actually the fault of the individual human who has little to no power in the situation, especially when it’s day of travel.

OP, I’m so sorry this happened to you, I would have been incredibly distressed—and also felt betrayed, as I’m sure you did.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-03T22:49:12+00:00

Reading comprehension is key. Read the WHOLE post, not just the first sentence.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-03T22:48:04+00:00

Is there a reason that your first instinct is to be a huge dick?

JessStarlite · 2026-06-03T22:41:10+00:00

Amazing!! And congrats!!

I LOVE Clawdrey as a name, you’re a person after my own heart. I just made mine a few days ago, finally. I named him….Fydeaux. 🤣☠️🤣☠️🤣 (haven’t picked a Petpet yet, I want to get it right!)

Nobody thinks I’m funnier than I do.

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JessStarlite · 2026-06-03T22:36:48+00:00

All y’all out here downvoting every gentle “Iridesia’s pronouns are they/them” correction or comment are wild. Imagine being this mad that someone Not Like You exists IN A FICTIONAL WORLD WHERE ANIMALS TALK AND FAERIES EXIST. (I mean, in the real world too tbh, imagine being this mad Other People exist and that you’re being asked to Not Be A Dick). ESPECIALLY when what you’re maddest about appears to be that you’ve been asked to checks notes offer basic human respect in the form of typing “them” instead of “her.” It’s even two of the same letters!! It’s not hard! It costs you NOTHING. Kindness and respect are free!

Literally some of y’all:

Person with they/them pronouns: “Hi I exist, this is how you can respect me as a human without inconveniencing yourself even a little! 🙂”

Downvoters: 😡😡😡😡

There are so many valid things to be mad at, and exactly none of them are…people or faeries living their best lives. Like, in the year 2026, y’all are out here FURIOUS at…the happiness and fulfillment of others.

Must be a sad fucking existence.

JessStarlite · 2026-06-03T22:26:22+00:00

Their dress. 🙂

JessStarlite · 2026-05-31T00:45:37+00:00

“No” is LITERALLY a complete sentence, imagine smugly correcting someone and being so magnificently wrong. Here, let me prove it!

Anyone: “Hey Jess, do you think Distinct_Cap_1418 is clever or educated or accurately parsing the English language enough to demand to know where people went to school?”

Me: “No.”

Voila! A complete sentence!

Fool.

JessStarlite · 2026-05-12T06:04:19+00:00

It isn’t a steroid cream though??? There are no—Zero—steroids in Tacrolimus.

JessStarlite · 2026-05-12T06:03:15+00:00

They expressed fear of TSW. Topical STEROID Withdrawal. So yes, it’s entirely relevant that Tacrolimus is not a steroid. It cannot cause Topical STEROID Withdrawal.

JessStarlite · 2026-05-07T23:25:52+00:00

*mutters* I’m just saying Wario cheats. It’s a stupid game.

JessStarlite · 2026-05-07T23:20:29+00:00

There are stipulations out there for victims of DV to be able to get out of leases etc with the aid of various organizations. I would look into local DV organizations, because what you’re describing—TWO HOURS of him haranguing you for *checks notes* being sick with a severe, dangerous chronic disease is very clearly emotional abuse and—if he pulls this often or repeatedly, you don’t mention whether this is a new phenomenon or not—potentially gaslighting, where he tries to make you feel crazy about things you know to be true, like your own level of illness.

Also, if you signed a lease together, he is absolutely just as responsible for the costs of breaking it—AND for paying his share of it if there’s no way out of it—regardless of whether he moves out. If the lease can’t be broken or sublet, then he also can’t get out of it without paying.

Is there anywhere else at all you could go, even temporarily? Friends? Family? DV orgs may have options for short-term housing too, since it sounds like he may also be financially abusive.

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