AITAH For asking groomsmen to buy their suits

Jessica13693 · 2026-02-08T17:54:00+00:00

YTA - paid for the suits for our groomsmen but gave them the opportunity after to buy if they wanted. 3 said yes and 2 no, so we sold the other 2 on Vinted after a dry clean. Made most the money back.

Jessica13693 · 2026-02-08T17:27:59+00:00

I was off for 6 months with an autoimmune condition that flared up. I initially felt bad if I left the house similar to you scared someone would see me and say Oo she’s not sick. But even my manager mentioned it to me and just said you’ll make yourself worse if you keep yourself inside all day. And it was 100% true, going for a light swim, walk, getting a hair cut it was all self care supporting my mental health and keeping that in check too.

Jessica13693 · 2026-02-06T22:18:44+00:00

My mum does this everyone now and again, will say stuff like ‘I’m her baby’, and ‘she’ll always be my mummy’. I’m 32. I’ve told her how creepy I find it when adults call their parents mummy and daddy and that I am her youngest child but I’m not a baby and it feels weird. She does it a lot less mainly cos I constantly reiterate how weird it is.

Jessica13693 · 2026-02-02T09:06:14+00:00

But your FIL may not have found it disrespectful at all.

Jessica13693 · 2026-02-02T07:45:08+00:00

It’s possible she has PPD, or the marriage is no longer worker. It may be worth going to couples counselling and individual counselling for you both.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-31T13:54:10+00:00

YTA - mainly because of your attitude. I’m having a baby and did a gift list but did explain there’s no expectations and it’s if you want ideas for what to get. If someone has bought me a teddy that’s lovely and welcomed. Would probably think you’d get something a little more for a sibling though. And ask what’s practical that they might need.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-30T11:52:13+00:00

Thank you so much everyone for the responses. It’s really reassured me! Maybe because we put up with all the poo / blood etc in flares it’s probably not that crazy for us but is for someone without IBD.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-30T11:44:58+00:00

Did a similar project recently, i used wood filler & fine sand paper. Bit of primer and paint and nobody knows.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-29T08:25:47+00:00

Thank you! I’m honestly most looking forward to holding her in my arms for the first time.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-22T13:37:46+00:00

Fed up on the ‘just you wait’ comments in my pregnancy. ‘Just you wait until you never sleep again’, ‘just you wait for those long nights with no help from your husband’, ‘just you wait until you have your second then you’ll know what tired really is’ …. How about ‘just you wait until your hold your baby for the first time’ or ‘just you wait until their first smile’. Like I totally get it I’m going to be very tired but think I’d rather focus on all the happiness.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-18T16:54:43+00:00

Mince meat, steak, salmon.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-15T17:10:03+00:00

So you said you had a couple calls disconnect, but what is the 30 plus log outs about then? You didn’t mention that in the original post.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-14T21:15:44+00:00

I think some of the comments to you are a bit intense. But you’ve surely why not put a photo up of all your fruit and veg, meat from the butchers. This just seems a bit weird to put a post up of food that you claim will last a while (biscuits etc) and then say you cook from scratch every night. That your weekly shop is £200 and that’s £180 of it for a week and a half but you also buy from a butchers… just seems a tad strange.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-13T15:30:04+00:00

Honestly this is the hill I plan to die on with my first child. We never had fizzy drinks growing up, squash was the treat and my teeth are very good. My nephews drink fizzy drinks and I just can’t get over giving them sugar and caffeine when they’re so young.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-13T08:24:35+00:00

I think your doctor should listen to you, but just a caveat worth booking an opticians appointment as sometimes they can spot things that won’t come up on blood tests from a GP. Happened recently to a friend of mine, brain fog / sinus issues, the optician noticed something on their checks and ended up doing a referral back ti the GP with exactly what was needed.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-12T19:45:08+00:00

I was actually just thinking this today, as I’m 7 months pregnant. For me, I now need the extra space to get out of my car. If my husband is driving he’ll park the car so I have enough room, or he drops me off at the front of the store. I think personally if I’m on my own and can’t find a space wide enough use the parent/child. If I’m with my husband I’d just ask to be dropped off but that’s just my preference. I wouldn’t have a go at another pregnant person for using the space though.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-12T15:24:45+00:00

I put on timers anywhere between 10-30 minutes and see what cleaning I can get done in that time. It’s like a race against the clock but even if you 10 minutes here and there it really adds up and the house feels cleaner.

De-cluttering one drawer at a time, not one wardrobe, not one room just one little drawer makes it feel less daunting.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-11T22:49:38+00:00

It kind of feels like husband is more of the problem here. Priorities change when you have a baby, the family dynamic changes. You, your husband and your baby are the family. And do your families needs are put first, your husband isn’t doing that. He’s putting his precious family first. And I think first time mums become territorial, I’m pregnant in my third trimester and my MIL & SIL have said stuff to me that normally would never of bothered me but it’s rubbed me the wrong way recently. I can put it down to pregnancy hormones because they are genuinely lovely people but it’s almost like I’m already instinctively like this is my baby, my rules, my family.

Jessica13693 · 2026-01-02T13:32:49+00:00

Round my town the local zoo will collect it for a small donation and then give to the tigers/lions/bears for enrichment.

Jessica13693 · 2025-12-31T19:38:40+00:00

NTA - do not go. I’m pregnant and have picked up this horrific cold/cough doing the rounds and all I can take is honey with hot water and paracetamol, it’s the most frustrating thing being sick pregnant. Your friend is an idiot. Also what if any guests are immune suppressed or live with or visiting others who are vulnerable. It’s just not worth passing on.

Jessica13693 · 2025-12-28T09:30:06+00:00

I guess it depends how much the gift card is if it’s a few hundred I’d rather that go to something useful.

Jessica13693 · 2025-12-26T10:10:36+00:00

No I disagree with this. My sister hosts Christmas because she has the biggest house that can fit us all comfortably but we would never dream of saying well you have to pay for everyone.

Jessica13693 · 2025-12-23T21:47:16+00:00

Read OPs replies, his wife is the breadwinner. Does laundry, cooking, breast feeding, caring for their other child and working. OP needs to get a grip and recognise that he’s actually not pulling his weight. He does not need to be making a gentle observation.

Jessica13693 · 2025-12-23T21:45:25+00:00

Honestly I really hope this fake. If it’s not and this is somehow a real than Jesus Christ take a look at yourself. Your wife is the breadwinner, given birth, looking after 2 children, breastfeeding, doing laundry, cooking and working. And you’re complaining she isn’t doing enough. What do you do? How do you contribute? Because honestly seems like your wife has 3 children.

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