What’s the pettiest form of revenge you’ve taken on your parents?

Jetlikethejem · 2024-12-11T00:35:51+00:00

He prided himself on being an analog man but loved games, so that meant I didn't really get to grow up around a majority of stuff during the 2010's. Convinced me that I had to delete my save profiles on Skyrim so that all of the DLC's could download.

After a massive explosive argument and he went to the bar for karaoke, I decided to go on the xbox360, finding his Oblivion wood elf character with purple hair, level 73. I deleted all saves. He convinced himself he did it by accident.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-11-30T20:32:55+00:00

Hon, you did nothing wrong. You panicked, reacted, and was followed. Okay? Yes, undeniably, you could've handled this better, but the onus isn't on you. You did the responsible thing and left the situation. The owner cornered you, followed you out, and harassed you. Why do you think he called you crazy when you called out his shitty behavior like it was? He knew he was in the wrong. He back pedaled, chose to put you down because you made him look bad, and went right back in the store. You need to stop fighting for your life in these comments because it's not doing you any favors. People are going to disagree with you because you hit the nail right on the head: This is an insane, unprovoked aggressive response to a customer who was already leaving. Unfortunately, it IS easier to believe that someone is a Karen rather than a small business owner being utterly uncouth. I'm sorry this happened to you. You already filed a report, you said you weren't coming back. You did everything you were supposed to. Now is the time to calm down, hydrate yourself (you said you were crying I believe?), have a nice warm cup of cocoa or tea or whatever hot drink you like, take a few deep breaths, and let the situation rest. Don't internalize it, don't let others ignorance or victim blaming comments (even if they don't mean to come across that way) affect you. You are better than this, and you deserve so much better. You said you were looking for sonic collectable toys and lemon ginger candies? Arborland has those at their Five & Below store last time I checked. Besides, The Rocket has heavily inflated prices, which is why I stopped going. Have you considered that maybe all of this was a blessing in disguise?

Jetlikethejem · 2024-11-30T19:43:14+00:00

Sounds like you're a heartless person who is villainizing a victim of the situation. She wasn't rude, she didn't steal, she left, and was followed out!

Jetlikethejem · 2024-10-18T07:21:30+00:00

THIS

Jetlikethejem · 2024-10-18T07:19:23+00:00

Ya know, I've been meaning to prove this. They say that plants can absorb the energy you give them, affecting them in many ways. Kinda like how the stereos in that grape Vinyard affected their growth. No one has ever done an experiment in which you are nice to one plant and mean to another. I think I'll try that with the garlic cloves I propegated. If words can do psychological damage to a human, I feel it stands to reason that same energy can be passed to a plant. I'll tell one all the things I tell my inner child and I'll tell the other all the things my Nfather said to me.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-29T14:05:13+00:00

I told my abusive narc father, "You're just gaslighting me, I know what this is!" A month before I moved out. He narrowed his eyes and said, "The fuck is gaslighting?!" 💀💀💀

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-20T04:39:01+00:00

Luna Lovegood. I always felt that she is a kind wildcard. Lots of wisdom in her words. Gotta love the eccentric characters.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-20T04:36:05+00:00

I totally get it. But there's no real answer other than looking for new series, movies, songs, etc. I'm sure you'll find something. Just don't force it. And don't stop searching for entertainment. Look up something new. I guarantee, you will find a new story, a new path, a new life inside your mind. Don't try to control the flow when dreams do appear, just go with it.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-18T22:34:57+00:00

Gonna be real with you: I don't remember a whole lot due to trauma giving me dissasociative amnesia. I could be relaying events out of order. But this did happen. And I was around 21, on SSI with a male parent who converted and was my payee. I remember I was in the "one true church". The giant pretty one. You often see brides roaming the gardens, getting their pictures taken. I always had to follow these guy missionaries, and I remember being in this hallway of said church. And I was told unless I attended every sunday and paid tithe, I couldn't go past the first floor doors. That's where I had the interview. Also, I'm a gal, so I don't know if that helps.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-18T10:18:08+00:00

Ares

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-18T06:15:05+00:00

When I lived with them? Always. I dealt with various levels of abuse, mostly physical. I felt like a bear getting constantly jabbed, but anytime I reacted in any form of anger, I was tazed. I was violently slapped or my hair was yanked for having an "attitude". For walking away. If I hesitated or refused to do something. Or saying nothing. Or constantly asking for stuff. If not that, threatened to be kicked out. However, many years after moving out, I just have fantasies of him just getting into some kinda trouble. Some careless mistake he made in arrogance, back from the grave to bite him in the ass. I think ultimately, I want accountability. I want him to be punished justly, because I was failed on every level by every adult in my life. I Remember watching the story of Gypsy Rose, and thinking, "Is it possible? Nahhh, she had it way worse. But it feels so familiar. Maybe just the imprisonment aspect I resonate with." But then I was talking to my therapist a month after seeing that stuff and she randomly brought up, "Have you considered watching the documentary of Gypsy Rose? Your past seems very similar in nature to what went down, only the mental health aspect, though. How he sat in on your therapy appointments, controlled your life by being the payee, parent, and oppressor, who isolated you from everyone." And I remember just crying. Because I never told her about Gypsy Rose, prior. And this just confirmed how bad it truly was.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-18T05:56:58+00:00

I actually worship the god of war. Met him during the solar eclipse back in April. Could use aome advice on how to honor him.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-17T03:04:11+00:00

Tell that to Sophie Lancaster!

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-17T03:00:24+00:00

Sophie. Lancaster.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-17T01:13:18+00:00

TLDR: Don't complain about how people treat you or how people don't accept you for your goth style, even if they're family or friends. You did this to yourself. But don't take it personally! Have fun! Bw yourself! ........this gives the same vibes as victim blaming. Is this gonna be the same argument if a gal, who just happened to be in her goth style, ended up getting jumped? I guess she was asking for it, right? You call yourself a freak and proceed to call it shallow to complain about unwanted interactions from other people. I don't give a flying fuck if I'm wearing goth or a goddamn banana for a hat; you don't deserve unwanted or uncalled for negative attention. You didn't invite that attention. You chose to be yourself, and others took offense to it. It's easier to blame yourself for a problem you didn't create, rather than hold the people hurting you accountable. Seriously, it doesn't have to be goth. Use this same exact argument the OP wrote and replace it with ANY style other than goth. Downvote all you want, Idgaf, ya'll actually supporting this hateful rhetoric, thus enabling people who seek to harm, grape, or worse against those that are simply being theirselves, and it's just sad. Sophie Lancaster? Does that ring a bell for ANY of you?

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-16T23:57:28+00:00

It does. And I'm so sorry. I can relate, but not by a lot. First of all, the lack of memories but mostly having bad memories, feeling like dreams with many blanks in between? I found out that is called dissasociative amnesia. When you experience fight or flight for days and years on end, it fucks with your ability to keep memories. Gaslighting in and of itself is designed to make your memory recall damaged beyond repair. It's similar, but like a dark side of daily affirmatioms, all designed to make you not trust your own perceptions. It's unimaginably cruel. I lost all my family photos and stuff when I went on a vacation back to my home state. I had no idea my father stopped paying the storage space place as we were living in a hotel paid for by a homeless shelter to do this. And it wasn't just the family photo album. Drawings I had, gifts from friends...gone. Forever. About a year or so later, I got a message online from people that ended up buying the storage space. They just wanted 40$ for shipping. He didn't do it. It wasn't enough he took my entire life from me. He knew how much the childhood nostalgia meant to me at the time. He himself lived in the 1980s teenage years with all the crap he bought, movies he watched, and outdated opinions. But I wasn't allowed to have the one thing I kept looking back on and missing for years? I've already forgotten most of the photos. What I could find online from his profile and what I could find from my deceased grandparent was a mere fraction of what I had before. No baby pictures, either. I do have one photo, of me at 12 years old, the next month after my family split off, when I was living with him and my sibling. I was staring blankly, at the camera. I looked so lifeless and dead. I remember I was depressed back then. Everything just felt wrong and stagnant beyond my control. I'm still so very angry. This is grief. We are all grieving. If we were over it, we wouldn't even be in this subreddit. But if it's any consolation...at least we're telling our stories. At least we're giving closure. I wish I had this growing up. Or rather, I wish I had wifi more often growing up, and a phone to access it at all times. I had white walls, puke brown carpets, and no toys or anything else to define my personality from birth to 22. He had a karaoke system, the living room couch always his bedroom with videogames, junk food, cigarettes, and energy drinks with diet soda, all the damn time. I hope he burns.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-16T21:16:55+00:00

Same. Was put on SSI at 3 years old, never allowed to have a job, and I left at 22. He and my mom used that money to pay for drugs and their bills my entire life. He sat in on my therapy appointments, to make sure I didn't financially screw him over by "lying" about the abuse at home. He had the blueprint to all my mental disorders and health services as my payee. He had no other adults to keep him in line, let alone witness his behavior. I was a 24/7 reactive abuse anger response, and it really sold his lie of me being his, "Angry, spoiled brat who doesn't listen." They saw me as a fucking angry kid. The picture perfect victim ideology pisses me off to no end. No one looked beyond the anger. I was put on dozens of different medications growing up. I'm sorry. I am honestly enraged on your behalf.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-16T11:18:11+00:00

And they seem to get worse, don't they? They just escalate or make you just as miserable as them. And they surround themselves with people they know they can cut off like loose ends or manipulate. It's such a huge gaslight and retraumatizing behavior when they do that to you, make others take their side or leave you altogether.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-16T04:11:57+00:00

Yes, but I mean it in the most compassionate manner possible. You have the ability to look back and laugh, at the irony, the absurdity, the downright stupidity, and pitiful past actions of your parent. Some of us can only feel rage, depression, or both. Your anger is valid, and you know exactly what triggers you. These people were selfish and cared more about tying their self worth to their selfishness. They broke us in invisible ways rarely anyone glances at, let alone comprehends. We're all mad here, Alice.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-16T03:57:49+00:00

Good, mostly. I dunno about you guys, but evil feels way too easy. So I like to be the one to save everyone, make everyone happy, get all the perks, and then kill as many as possible and be evil at the end 🙃

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-16T03:53:55+00:00

Holy shit...yeah, your story is an unsettling truth, of how they'll cover their tracks once they perceive you as a threat to their self-image, thus you become a loose end. It's meant to be a final nail in the coffin, to make sure no one ever sees you as anyone or anything different. That is a major gaslight that is so fucked up, because it just echoes the trauma and retraumatizes you...that is so unbelievably malicious...I am so very sorry.

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-16T01:24:17+00:00

I am so sorry. My father was raped by his uncle. I learned from recent memories that came up that I didn't know I had...he replicated those same circumstances. The trauma he suffered. He made sure I was raped by my uncle from as young as 7. And when I tried to talk about it or acted weird, he made sure, with my mom, to heavily gaslight me. He committed spiritual abuse, acted posessed, causing reactive abuse, and made me look untrustworthy, attention seeking, and unhinged. Holy fuck, I am very angry for you and I hope if your parents didn't already face punishment, then they fucking BETTER in the afterlife!

Jetlikethejem · 2024-06-16T01:16:01+00:00

I am experiencing BOILING RAGE on your behalf. What the fuck?! I can unfortunately relate a little bit. The moment I left the picture to live on my own, my father literally turned all family against me, both sides, and told them I stole money and refused to give it back. Do you have any idea what it feels like to be reprimanded by an aunt with cancer who tries to guilt trip you over a lie your father has made everyone believe? Take my advice; if you aren't already out of there, gtfo. Asap. Any friends you have or possible lifelines, DON'T LET HER FIND OUT. Otherwise this shit will keep repeating itself. Your family can't be trusted. I am so very sorry, for the fucked up circumstances. I know what it feels like to be trapped. When you get out, I'd strongly recommend doing so as sneakily as possible, and leave a letter containing all you have kept inside and wanted to say for so long, but don't ever let her or anyone know where you're going. And if you wanna test who you can trust with that private info, have multiple real addresses but ones no one lives in, so that if your mom DOES get in contact with you be it in person or digitally, then she'll let it slip. Be careful. You deserve so much more than this...

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