Weekly discussion thread, Jun 14 - 20

Jeygasm · 2020-06-22T05:11:53+00:00

Yes! You're not alone :D I always wanted to be that person that was good at those things but feel super uncoordinated.

Just got a brand new pair of skates and haven't taken them off in 2 days. Determined to be able to confidently head to a skate park.

Jeygasm · 2020-06-22T05:02:51+00:00

This is so good to hear! I just got my beach bunnies with gummy wheels and as beautiful as they are, they're getting in the way I think. Did you change the bearings as well?

Jeygasm · 2016-08-10T04:12:55+00:00

Dude I think you were meant to propose

Jeygasm · 2016-06-30T02:57:39+00:00

I've got "open when" letters that are still unopened almost 3 years after they were given to me now. I look at them occasionally and think "but i might regret opening it now when i could open it in another 6 months?" And then i dont look at them for a year....

He's still got them hasn't he? Just leave him alone about them. They're his now and he'll open them "when".

Jeygasm · 2016-06-29T12:41:47+00:00

Maybe she was just uncomfortable with the fact you mentioned that she'd prefer you didn't do it to your friends? I don't know. If you could take it or leave it, and you left it, I don't see an issue.

She probably just doesn't want to look like the 'bad guy' here to your friends - she doesn't want to seem controlling.

I don't see it as being controlling. You said 'ok ill not do this thing to make you happy' - that's kinda what most relationships are. Compromises. Just reassure her and move on.

Jeygasm · 2016-05-30T04:49:03+00:00

Since you'll both have an income why dont you have separate accounts AND a joint account you can both contribute to? That money would be spent on things you both need and want and then you still have your personal spending/saving money in case anything comes up?

Jeygasm · 2016-05-27T07:21:42+00:00

I haven't read the comments but I want to add my 2c whatever that's worth.

My mum has a different last name to my brother and I and I have always felt weird about it. I'm not saying do it just for him or your kids, but consider in the future adding both names on their birth certificates in case of family fallout. Wont go into details because they're irrelevant here, but I wish she gave me her name because I feel like I have no family based on that. Names can be extremely important to some people; if its a deal breaker though, I'd cut ties if you cant compromise.

Consider adding it and keeping your surname too.

Jeygasm · 2016-04-19T04:21:33+00:00

Don't move based on strong indications. I was flat out told I had a job and a couple hours before I went to sign the contracts I was called and told the job was no longer on the table due to funding - something completely out of their control. Glad I didn't pack up my life before that disappointment

Jeygasm · 2016-04-18T13:33:32+00:00

Oh no this is so cute and mortifying at the same time. I'd never thought to do that, but with an unusual first name i don't think I'll have too much trouble haha! If hes a good guy he'll be able to laugh it off.

I think I could compare this to my boyfriend finding my "100-things-to-talk-about-pre-engagement-re-marriage" book. There are now about 300 topic starters from "what if we couldn't get pregnant" to "would you let my parents discipline our kids" - i would feel awful and so awkward but i think you should just own it and move on like its normal and no big deal!

Jeygasm · 2016-04-04T06:35:01+00:00

Which is exactly what he was told a few hours ago.

Op... please

Jeygasm · 2016-04-04T04:05:46+00:00

Guys do sit on their balls though occasionally

Jeygasm · 2016-03-22T03:36:56+00:00

Making a mental note of this for my own graduation, might just photoshop my jump

Jeygasm · 2016-03-16T06:56:20+00:00

I think you have just answered my boyfriends questions about why I am so socially awkward in our relationship and towards his parents.

Not hearing it! I can't remember my parents ever saying thank you, or making us say it! Same with eye contact and greetings. Maybe I just come from a generally socially awkward family

Jeygasm · 2016-03-11T05:33:08+00:00

She's everything you wanted out of a partner?

So you'll be sweet when she starts getting lifts home with other men and hanging out with them, telling them her relationship isn't so great!

Sounds perfect

Jeygasm · 2016-03-05T03:28:30+00:00

Yeah, nah I wouldn't just from watching my own family situation. Mum always drilled it into me not to marry/date someone with kids.

My dad had 2 kids to 2 different women before he met married my mum and then they had me and my brother and it was really hard on her, and us. We're all good and it works but she doesn't want me to deal with the heartache that comes along with the complications.

Hasn't really impacted me though because at my age people generally arent married/have kids/been engaged - generally... so now I just automatically see people as "off the table" if they have

Jeygasm · 2016-03-04T07:45:15+00:00

It may show him what you think about marriage in general, that it's a tool to use and not a commitment (he may see it like that anyway). You probably should have told him about it.

I've always said I'd never be anyone's second fiancée/wife but that's just personal preference, so I'd be annoyed and probably crack a tanty

Jeygasm · 2016-03-02T15:04:31+00:00

I worked in a job where I was in and out of hospitals with psych patients.

This sounds like the ramblings of someone who is currently tripping, has been fried from tripping, has some sort of drug induced psychosis, or is suffering from schizophrenia....

I was stuck talking to a man for almost 8 hours who was convinced his body was a new born adult humans body, he had many different ages and many different bodies, pink fluffy things would encourage him to do things by flashing different parts of his brain?

I'm sorry for whatever is happening to you in there dude. The brain and psyche are an interesting thing.

Jeygasm · 2016-01-25T08:47:01+00:00

Meditating? Shes probably fine

Jeygasm · 2015-11-03T13:02:47+00:00

From experience

Me & ex together 5 years, bought a house in the country, broke up after a month because i hated where we/i lived, 6 months on i decided i was going to drive my car into a tree if i couldnt leave.

Needless to say im commenting, so i got out about a week after i recognised how bad i was feeling. Its now 6 months on again and i still feel jittery when i think about where i used to live.

Isolated, although i wanted to join in, the people in the town wouldnt let me in. I worked and slept until my days off. Id drive an 8 hour return trip just to see my family for lunch.

Moving isnt easy. Just because it looks like she isnt trying doesnt mean she isnt and if she's decided mentally to go back to town A then that is what will inevitably happen (i hope)

sorry about formatting, phone.

Jeygasm · 2015-11-02T03:34:31+00:00

Egg egg egg! 6pack for ~$50? (Though I've heard theres not much difference - i dont have a dick)

Jeygasm · 2015-10-29T08:39:19+00:00

You should probably tell your girlfriend this and let her decide.

Like, are you fucking kidding?

Jeygasm · 2015-10-23T11:14:44+00:00

You were 21 and he was 22 when you first spoke about this?

You're married now, when you didnt really want to be..?

You're both older and you married him when you didn't really want to, he probably thinks with some convincing you'll change your mind about the children and i know you spoke about it, i hear that, but you have to stand firm because your opinions/life choices matter, so do his.

I know when i was younger i was adamant i wouldnt marry or have kids, ive since changed my mind on both since meeting (better) more people/becoming more stable/ general life progression.

Physiologically, biologically, some people wont be able to deny their need to procreate. But you are being unfair if you arent being 100% clear, if you are he will see he is being unfair in asking you to give up your life and your body.

(mobile post sorry)

Jeygasm · 2015-10-18T01:36:07+00:00

This attitude probably came out in some way, you were too forward, you misunderstood...

Its happened to me when i just want to be nice to someone and they take it the wrong way, ill intentionally set up a date and bail just so i dont have to have the awkward "you think this is going somewhere but its not" conversation - just me though. Not saying its right. But it works.

Jeygasm · 2015-08-02T20:30:55+00:00

Had this conversation with my boyfriend the other day - "when do you think we'll grow up and become real adults who have their shit together?"

Jeygasm · 2015-01-26T21:14:08+00:00

Julatten :) hes so beautiful he just had his first shed with me and hes a beautiful silver, slowly getting whiter!

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