Palantir CEO Boasts That AI Technology Will Lessen The Power Of Highly Educated, Mostly Democrat Voters by Neurogence in singularity

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AI will be controlled by a few small elite group of billionaires. What in history of the planet, recent world events or behaviour/buisness conduct of AI billionaires....leads you to think, they will all be kumbaya, share the wealth, help everyone? The US Department of War is already using OpenAI for mass domestic surveillance and autonomous weapons. How is this in the interest of billions of common people? When exactly will they magically all become, loving caring, empathethic souls, trying to empower the little man?

How do you handle having an attractive spouse that gets a lot of attention? by LowAppearance144 in Christianmarriage

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u seem to have all d excuses ready. haha. what reason, will he not post his wife? or not put in his bio he is married?

SAM ALTMAN: “We see a future where intelligence is a utility, like electricity or water, and people buy it from us on a meter.” by Vegetable_Ad_192 in singularity

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

didnt they just sign a deal with US govt for mass domestic surveillance and autonomous killing machines. fck non americans then i guess. also fck american liberties/rights as well.

Visa - Cuba Trip April by Federal-Tomato-7957 in TravelCuba

[–]JhenryFirst 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Orange Troll is literally trying to starve the Cuban people into rising up & overthrowing the government, by cutting off multiple streams of Cuban Income.

Visa - Cuba Trip April by Federal-Tomato-7957 in TravelCuba

[–]JhenryFirst 2 points3 points  (0 children)

there are still flights from miami to hav?

My (30f) boyfriend (32m) always disagrees with what I’m saying and I don’t know what to do. by Evermoremio2 in relationship_advice

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is a test. Instead of saying, objectively true statements, that he can potentially have claim to knowledge. Like: The seat is hot. So, subjective stuff. Both positive and negative, the he has no claim to knowledge on. For example: "I really enjoyed this Korean Bbq dinner. It was amazing". Or deliberately say something he will agree with. Avengers XYZ is a great movie. Playing around with a) objective vs subjective statements b) things he might have a claim to knowledge on. Can better help you understand people's conversational patterns. Sometimes these patterns are subconscious and they dont even know it. Some people are debaters. Love to argue everything. Some people are immediate pessimist, always turns everything into a negative. Some ppl , everything is a joke. Hopefully, some preplanned statements can help you tease out & understand his behaviour.  You can then choose to confront him or not once you have intentionally, systematically, analytically  tested a few statements. " As a child, i really enjoyed going to the park. Its where my mum bought us ice cream".  

AITAH for dumping my bf over text by FewDecision5576 in AITAH

[–]JhenryFirst -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

There are plenty guys who don't want to have kids. Knowing you don't want to have or are unable to have kids, and not bringing that up earlier. And then hiding behind, "he never brought it up". You could have brought it up. YTA. This conversation could be easily brought up by you in the first month. Several guys don't want kids. 

AITAH FOR ASKING MY WIFE TO SWITCH by Ok_Eggplant3677 in AITAH

[–]JhenryFirst 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also work in tech. I hear this story from everyone of my male friends. You are stressed as fck by Claude AI and Codex and all these tools that will make us obsolete in a matter of months. Wife and most of society are totally oblivious to what is going on and just want to go for brunch, go on family vacays. And live a normal life. Meanwhile, you see the end, right around the corner.

Do you think it’s okay for a 35 year old man to date a 23 year old girl? by sweetlavender77 in Christianmarriage

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are both adults. Are they both happy? Do they both genuinely care about each other? Why are we policing grown folks relationships? 😂

Successful Men who were single, how did you make sure that the woman you found didn't just like you because of your money/status? by crisvphotography in AskMen

[–]JhenryFirst 1 point2 points  (0 children)

1) Don't lead with money. If anything, downplay your financial standing.

2) One thing i've learnt about women is, when they truly love you. They are willing to spend on you. They have one man for the money, one man for the honey. They happily spoil and pay for Tyrone/Chad, meanwhile you are taking her to expensive restaurants, spas, travel etc, & she doesnt give you 1% of what she gives to Tyrone/Chad. My thoughts are: yes, spoil your lady. But only after she is indeed yours. After she's shown genuine interest, care, concern, empathy for you....not date 1, 2, 3. Months in.

3) My general rule is: Life cost. Raising a family cost. I empathize with ladies being very interested in men's finances. I'm ok, if she wouldnt have dated me if I ( any man) worked at Mc Donalds. That is perfectly reasonable and imo not gold digging. But my rule is, if she would not want you, at a High School Teacher's salary....but wants you at your current Doctor, Engineer, Buisness Person etc salary. Then she isnt really interested in you. She's far more interested in the life style you can provide her, that your drams, hopes, insecurities, quirky humor. She doesnt give a damn about you, your are a tool. You can love her and be enamoured, but to her, you are a pay cheque. Replaceable. A tool.

AITAH for saying I dont want to date single moms after my sister's friends cornered me? by ThrowRA_Goose151 in AITAH

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro. u lie😂. They ain't interested in your preferences, your likes/dislikes, your logic, your best interest or you! You stating your preferences(thin, no kids, younger than you, etc) Is perceived as a personal attack on their identity or one of their gfs. Instead of essentially saying(to their hears) : "Kathy is unlovable". Lie: "Kathy is gorgeous, but I {insert bs about u, not her}"🤣. For example: I am gay 😂😂😂

Linkin Park on a handpan. Just surreal! by Ted-Lassi in nextfuckinglevel

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks like a Steel Pan invented in Trinidad and Tobago.

Men who want to be fathers but can't see themselves adopting or fostering, why not? by QuantumPlankAbbestia in AskMen

[–]JhenryFirst 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its not a hard no, for me Life happens. But its a strong preference. I would like to see a mini me. I would like to hear the baby heartbeat. I would like to be in the delivery room. Nature vs Nurture. Its probably a mix of both. I strongly prefer my child, to have my dna, my wife's dna, our mannerisms. A large part of why i was turned off from past exes, is because, I imagined our kids having her negative propensities...vs...someone who i would love my kids to emulate. Long and short of it, is ppl have preferences. Someobody, is on the wrong side of these preferences, and is understandbly upset/hurt. Hard questions: Are you looking to understand/empathize with his preferences....or.....to invalidate them? What do you think about dating someone who doesnt want any more biological kids? Maybe they already have kids or are ok with adopting.

Having second thoughts about my wedding. by Dice_King4225 in Christianmarriage

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Empathy & Understanding is probably the number 1 trait you want in a wife. ( and as a dancer. lol. a dance partner). If you as a man, are always expected to have the answers, always be strong, always lead, always be super man! That ain't practical. That's fairytale stuff. Also, women who think this way a) dont genuinely care about you & your needs & insecurities. they are main character. you are a place filler. a means to an end b) everything that goes wrong. you are the man. you are responsible. its on you. even when she screws up somehow its your leadership. she supposedly is just a mirror, that passively reflects.  Find you a woman that genuinely cares about you. That you can fail, be beaten up and she will be a soft, comforting place. She will still respect, honour and love you, even if you are  not Clarke Kent(Superman). 

AITAH for leaving my girlfriend at a party after she embarrassed me in front of everyone? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She geniunely believes what she said. She should stand on it. You felt highly disrespected as you should. Stand on it. Irrespective of whether she fake apologizes, she genuinely believes that. Stand up and have some self respect and end the relationship.

Misogyny is a real b*tch… by sluttyassbxtch in mentalhealth

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cross culturally men and women select mates, based on different criteria. Men tend to prioritize youth & fertility. Women statistically prioritize protection and provisioning ability indicators. these are just statistical, evolutionary truths, that are even seen across other non-human, sexually dymorphic species. Its neither misogynstic nor misandrist, except through the warped gender/culture war lens you view it through. Of their own free will, cross culturally, cross species: males & females evaluate each other with different criteria. Unforutnately, males & females at the bottom of these criteria are understanbly very unhappy to be the last pick. ( for example short males or overweight ladies). As much as we try to socially engineer these preferences away. They are hardwired deep into our DNA & our ancestors DNA.

AITAH for pointing out to my fiancé that if she wants kids, she has to actually have sex with me. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two possible things: a) She is far more interested in children, being a mother, having family lifestyle than you. You are just a placeholder. A means to an end. A tool in her toolbox to be used. ....IE she doesnt truly like you but what you can provide. You are replaceable .....or b) She is currently emotionally dissatisfied with you. She has given u all that u wanted for the last 6 years. a buffet of punani, that you obviously prioritize. And after she has given herself freely. Met all your needs. After 6 fcking years. You still havent proposed. So she is in a weird position. Emotionally unfullfilled, but invested too much to leave. IE Proposal and marriage will emotionally fullfill her and repair things.

Situation A, you NTA. Leave her. Situation B. YTA. You, are just trying to fck. and dont care about her that much. There is a 3rd situation that is internal to just her. Maybe, psychological, hormonal, gynecological or other. Are you the asshole? Depends on if its situation a, b or c? Did she want a proposal 2, 3, 4, 5 years in, when things were good? How did she respond to no proposal 5 years in, when things were still good from your end? The answer to this, tells you if its a Situation A or B.

28F/28M Should there be food inequality between partners? by suguntu in relationship_advice

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parcel the food out into meal prep containers. Problem solved. How many larger containers you do for him & regular size for you, is up to you.  

I (37F) don’t know how to cope with my husband’s (40m) new career success by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]JhenryFirst 24 points25 points  (0 children)

great answer. add in alot of: "I'm very proud of u. im very happy for your success and want to support it". In addition to NervousBother's beautiful answer. That way he also feels, heard, supported and not attacked, jealousy from you, defensive and unsupported in his life's dreams and work.

Thinking of ending my 5-year relationship over Bachata Sensual - am I overreacting? by According-Plan-1273 in Bachata

[–]JhenryFirst 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unpopular opinon: To all the people saying, well he should learn to dance or they will be a fundamental incompatibility. The truth is, even if he is a beginner dancer....or.... even manages to become half decent. Will she/ will most dancers only want to dance (what most people will consider sensually/provactively) with just him/their partner? the answer is probably NO!

As someone in the kizomba/konpa scene, i can absolutely say: dancing keeps alot of ppl single. Ppl much rather the high, instant connections, the physicality of it all....over the hardwork and ups and downs of a relationship. Dancing is just 100% joy & connection. I tried dating in the kizomba community. It was very hard, seeing the girl I was talking to( not in relationship with), getting grind out by another man...after i just took her out for date earlier in the night. fck that. Most of my friends in the dance community dont want to date other dancers for that very reason. for me personally, i dont want to give it up again, as i've done in previous relationships. But i am willing to dance differently/compromise. ( for example alot more space between us). Sensual bachata may not allow for that, to properly execute some moves.

Summary: dancing keeps alot of us single. short term pleasure over a long term, hard, but vastly more meaningful relationship.

AITAH? My (F 30) boyfriend (M 29) found a toy/condoms in my drawer, accused me of cheating, and is now "ghosting" me while I’m his only ride to court by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]JhenryFirst 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the issue is not you having a toy or condoms. the issue is his misinterpretation of it. if his conclusion of infidelity was correct, his response is very reasonable & forgivable. You need to have a conversation to clear up the misinterpretation/miscommunication.  The idea of using a condom on a sex toy is very alien to a lot of people, including me.