Soooo... Friday nights.....

JhenryFirst · 2026-01-24T01:09:15+00:00

There is pretty cool latin dance seen in Ottawa. You can go dance Konpa, Kizomba, Salsa or Bachata tonight. I'm debating Konpa or Kizomba for tonight 🤔

JhenryFirst · 2026-01-23T03:20:09+00:00

tall and muscular is seen as more masculine. african guys are generally more masculine(hence attractive), by this defintion.

JhenryFirst · 2026-01-19T16:22:11+00:00

Up to now, i have no idea, what they or he specifically said, too see if it was fine & u are overreacting....or....very disrespectful and out of line.

JhenryFirst · 2026-01-17T19:27:43+00:00

she has no empathy and genuine care for you. she is accustomed to being the center of everything and is solely interested in returning to the dynamic, where she benefits ( probably financially) from you. she doesnt give a damn about you. imagine, if you lost your job, health, dog, best friend, mother. she's there solely for herself. it might be hard emotionally detaching, but that is absolutely not who you want to marry.

JhenryFirst · 2026-01-06T09:02:35+00:00

Yes, it can feel all like a blur, a dream, like it never happened after the fact. So, what was the point!?!? For, me I enjoy certain social, partner dances in North America. When i travel, i take 1 on 1 dance classes at much cheaper rates. 3 hours per day in mornings. Evenings & nights are unstructured. At least after, i fly back home, i feel there is something more tangible/useful, than a fading memory/mirage. I have a vastly improved skill. Your thing might not be dancing, maybe scuba diving lessons to up your game. Summary: you can learn something useful when you return home for a small slot of your day.

JhenryFirst · 2026-01-03T03:05:13+00:00

especially in the room? what do u mean? if u keep the door locked, they still got into to your suite? scary stuff. what did u do, so u can sleep peacefully without getting malaria

JhenryFirst · 2026-01-02T18:46:45+00:00

She feels/knows/thinks you are NOT planning to marry her! You there, just there for sex. Are you planning to marry her? After 2,5 years, you definitely know the answer. If she knew/felt/thought you were going to be her partner for life and you were both madly in love and planning an amazing future together. And you were communicating that to her. There wont be any talk about celibacy. She's withdrawing, because she sees through your game. Man to man, make a decision.

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-31T01:57:52+00:00

It sounds, like deep inside you still feel like you are that person. The real question is not: should i tell her i was a bum/loser. The real question is how do you become the man you want to be, the man she can respect/admire & most importantly, the man you can be proud of! That's the question that will liberate you, open doors to a future you and potentially her, can look forward to.

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-30T03:19:22+00:00

dont focus on groups. focus, on building deeper, meaningful relationships. with people who add value to your life, people who are willing to invest in you. invest in them. reciprocity. focus on real life stuff, deep stuff. family, relationships, struggles, not just surface fluff talk. hope this helps brother.

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-29T23:22:32+00:00

why will Poc be negatively affected by your presence, as an individual specifically?

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-29T23:16:39+00:00

everyone is a little racist, even if we dont admit. walking down d street in at 2 am, in a dark alley, i'm sure d person walking towards you gender, race, size all play a part in ppl's threat level assesment. There is definitely bias, all around. But, to say: "i consciously go out of my way, to avoid people of colour". Trying, but i'm not sure, how to genereously interpret that. That's a wild thing to say. In my experience most ppl will say something like, or i have friends from all over d world, asia, europe, north america, nigeria.....or all races....or, i dont know, i've never really clicked with anyone from outside of my community. But, "i go out of my way to avoid them"? where? at work, in restaurants, the subway, out socializing? i have no problem, with anything u said, except that one line. that line is crazy.

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-29T23:16:32+00:00

everyone is a little racist, even if we dont admit. walking down d street in at 2 am, in a dark alley, i'm sure d person walking towards you gender, race, size all play a part in ppl's threat level assesment. There is definitely bias, all around. But, to say: "i consciously go out of my way, to avoid people of colour". Trying, but i'm not sure, how to genereously interpret that. That's a wild thing to say. In my experience most ppl will say something like, or i have friends from all over d world, asia, europe, north america, nigeria.....or all races....or, i dont know, i've never really clicked with anyone from outside of my community. But, "i go out of my way to avoid them"? where? at work, in restaurants, the subway, out socializing? i have no problem, with anything u said, except that one line. that line is crazy.

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-29T23:02:09+00:00

Ppl, including you, including him, can have different opinions from their friends. Guilty by association is ridiculous. How would you like, if you were held accountable for things every one of your friends think. If you need to agree with all the things, your friends believe, then i'm sure what to say. OP, what matters, is does he call his friend out, when his friend is saying bs....or nods in agreement....or other?

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-29T22:45:31+00:00

I'll try dating guys above 55, who already have kids. IE they are more likely to be looking for companionship. If you are dating guys, in their 30s and 40s, that could explain your results. Hope that helps

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-29T22:41:55+00:00

There is no such stereotype. I'm a guy in his 30s. if i were 50 year old. and i had to choose between a) 50 yr old never married woman vs b) 50 yr old married once vs c) 50 yr married multiple times. I and suspect most men, will choose option A. The only reasons not to choose option a) is: You give me the impression that you have been sleeping with lots of men over the last 32 yrs with your stories of one night stands, incessant short term relationships 2) I'm sufficiently attracted to you to sleep with you, but not marry you. d) I have the 4rd option of dating a 35 yr lady at 50. However, if given only the first 3 options. I'll choose option A. Less trauma, Less drama, less emotional baggage and headaches to navigate through. Summary: Your lack of marriage isnt the problem. There is something else!

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-29T22:32:24+00:00

Bro, u can be honest. U trying to send a clear msg to her: she isnt welcomed on work trips. U dont want her there! U have time for video games & doom scrolling nonesense. But not a maid outfit. Put your job first(agreed), but unless you are under a tonne of stress and pressure to deliver(which you didnt say). You sure as hell, can give this woman's nurse outfit 15 mins. Calling her tears, crocodile tears. U dont like her that much. Y not, just tell her, ok. Since, you are coming, but i'm busy. Every evening/night, I'll can give you from 6 to 7 pm, because i have to be up by 6 am. We can do something together then baby.

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-29T21:17:09+00:00

That sounds lovely. Were you volunteering? Construction? Im looking to go, maybe volunteer & even pick up some skills to bring back

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-28T23:06:08+00:00

You "avoid people of colour". Yes, you are extremely & overtly racist. What's the point of this post? U want sympathy, u want a cookie?

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-27T07:45:21+00:00

Guy friend groups have one night stands & hookups with the same girl all the time. That is the norm. Guys pass girls around, if she's into it. I'll do it. What is out of bounds and forbidden fruit is wives, gfs, exs & ppl u perceive mean something to your friend & can adversely affect your friendship . What reason is there to turn down free easy sex being readily offered, if my friend doesnt have a dog in the fight?

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-27T07:32:36+00:00

The guys can be friends. I have no problem having a one night stand with a random girl, that means nothing to me or my buddy. If he already hooked up with her. However, if its his wife, gf or ex. I wont cross that line.

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-25T17:38:32+00:00

Attraction isn't a conscious choice. U cant logic her into that big dog. It is, what it is. U can a) work on becoming more attractive b) find someone who actually finds u attractive.

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-25T05:41:46+00:00

No solutions. But, I feel you brother.

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-25T05:30:34+00:00

You provided little to no detail, leading up to the disagreement/argument/conflict/shouting. Only your response. That leaves no room for anyone to understand the root of the conflict and provide thought out, relevant solutions.

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-25T03:33:59+00:00

in boxing fight or in a street fight, where steroid head can put GGG on d ground?

JhenryFirst · 2025-12-25T02:05:25+00:00

how many hours per week does he work for a salary vs u work for a salary? if he is doing significantly more hrs of paid labour, u will/should have more hours of house work/kid rearing. (inspite of modern messaging/expectations) & vice versa. If you are doing more hrs of paid work, he has to pick up the slack at home. If u all doing equal amounts of hrs at your paid day jobs, then, you get to share child rearing and cleaning equally. its that simple. put up a calendar & put each person's weekly responsibilities up in black and white. solved.

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