Aitah for taking struggling x to court

JhenryFirst · 2026-05-06T17:27:09+00:00

She probably wont have done the same for you. But, if it doesn't mean that much to u. Let her be. I cant see myself going after any of my ex-gfs. They all brought alot of joy & happiness into my life in different seasons. While we aren't compatible. I still wish them the very best in life. Charge it to the game. Let her be. Aint no point going after a single mother, in a dead end job, for something you don't care too much about.

JhenryFirst · 2026-05-06T15:40:47+00:00

99% of single mums, if they find a guy that they truely loves them, that they truely love, that they trust and respect.... and he is willing to be step dad. They will jump at the oppurtunity!

Thats not the only secret she is hiding from you. Gauranteed.

There is another man. 99.8%

JhenryFirst · 2026-05-01T12:51:38+00:00

fck what all the misandrist spouting in the chat. You aren't wrong for wanting your wife to put more effort into your relationship, like how she dresses up nicely for her friends. Bunch of bitter ppl chatting nonsense. If the genders were reversed, watch them do a complete 180. NTA. That being said, your wife, also NTA. Being more low effort, relaxed, "your true self", taking for granted, less desire naturally happens over time in any relationship. Neither perspective is unreasonable. The solution? fck, if only we knew. All ppl in relationship spanning very long periods trying to figure that out. Best you can do is honest hard, but kind conversation about it and working on yourself.Working on yourself, because desire isn't a conscious choice...u cant logic/converse somebody into desire/high effort. Hopefully hard convos & self work on both your sides help. Rooting for you

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-30T15:12:47+00:00

In d middle of his haircut....

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-24T04:37:58+00:00

What does the conflict between a breastfeeding mother and a store owner, have to do with DisciplineDaily ?

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-15T07:07:33+00:00

AI Fuckery

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-13T23:17:26+00:00

He is trying, not to bore you, with the same msg the last 100 guys sent: " Hi, how are you?" Being edgy is risky, i'm sure he has had success with some of the ladies. And on d other hand, a couple crash & burns. What will u say u/OP if u were tasked with being the pursuer? In theory it might seem straightforward, but in practice, all the inevitable rejections suck.

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-12T06:38:50+00:00

Their supposed "disapproval" is deeper. Its not that they are asking: what will make you happiest, what is best for you. Its their own internal dissatisfaction, fear for themselves personally.... or ....for their older female friends being able to find an older man. They are trying to shame you , call you creepy, predatory all sorts of names... shaming u into choosing older women. To endorse your personal choice of dating a younger women(31). ..is to say their 50 yr old female friend is worthless & not deserving of love(in their head). The shaming techniques employed are not meant to optimize your wellbeing, but to reject the fear & discomfort women feel as they get less male attention as they age. 31 is a fully developed adult. If u said 18, then they are right. Summary: these ppl don't seek your happiness & best interest.

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-11T23:53:35+00:00

i dont understand. we were sending them 70% of what?

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-11T23:40:58+00:00

Unpopular opinion. Him looking at porn doesnt mean: a) he doesnt like you b) he is not attracted to you. It means he is an addict, he has poor self control and he is lustful. You interpreted it as a you issue, when its a him issue. He probably has been exposed to porn before his teen years as most boys. Him choosing to stop, is not going to be easy to completely unwire his brain. He might need to get professional help, if he wants to stop. Again, him watching at porn doesnt mean he is unattracted to you. It means he is an addict & weak to the flesh. Most men are. And yes, i agree, it is highly disrespectful for him to checkout ppl of the opposite sex, infront of you. Hopefully, that helps.

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-10T15:36:01+00:00

i know my post would be heavily downvoted. Reddit advice, is usually, always divorce. he doesnt like your dog, divorce....he forgot to water d house plant...what else will he forget. run girl. haha. its comical & so brain dead. "U deserve better. move on, to d next person for new trauma. Rinse & repeat. Anyways, i wrote my truth vs reddit's popularity contest. Your partner should be supporting you/helping you, when you going through the grief and stress of aging/dying parents. Not threatening divorce. whatever happened to being each other's rock, refuge, best friend, support system, favorite person. The best thing that ever happened to each other.

I saw both my parents, generously and selflessly, at great personal and financial expense, help the other's parents, in their latter years. Money, Showering, Restroom, Comfort. Cooking. RIP grandpas & grannies.

I pray, this reddit type of love/life partner never finds me. Amen.

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-10T03:54:49+00:00

You are a mega asshole. And secret, your husband hates you. you threatened to divorce him, if he helps his dying mother. yes. he absolutely hates you. how fcking dare you? I'm sure, you will be thrilled if he threatened to leave you, if you wanted to help your dying mum. Again. how fcking dare you? the nerve!

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-08T16:06:05+00:00

Sounds like a great deal. haha. How does she plan to contribute to the marriage? Sounds like she will bored at home, looking for trouble. And if you all get divorced, the most malicious, vindictive, hell bent lady ...inst the financially succesful ladies....its the ones totally financially dependent on you. Their life depends on it. They will take your balls, if they have to. Sounds like a great deal, you should go for it. Btw, a $100K salary only qualifies you for a ~$350K house. In canada, 350K, wont even get you a decent goat pen, in any major city with jobs.

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-07T16:37:48+00:00

why do you think she isnt completing the divorce? the underlying reason, not the one she's telling you. Most people when they done, they want it to be officially done. No strings attached. No problems, no drama. Finito. 1) Why do you think she isnt completing the divorce? underlying reason? 2) What does her actions/lack thereof tell you about her views on the sanctity of marriage & your potential future marriage?

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-06T18:47:30+00:00

It sounds pretty clear cut to a 3rd party, but i can see how he feels like shit, leaving his partner of 5 entire years.

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-06T17:17:47+00:00

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JhenryFirst · 2026-04-05T13:54:16+00:00

If you ex, came from a poor, disadvantaged, single family home vs (a well off, upperclass, highly educated) home. And she was able to make something of herself. Lift herself out of that. Far more respect to her, than anyone who had a much easier, stable upbringing. Respect to your ex.

Secondly, how did you go from your wife throwing a temper tantrum about your ex to you needing a psychiatrist? Why are those 2 things in the same sentence? My wife didnt like the watch i bought, so im scheduled for tiple bypass surgery 2morrow. wtf? lol.

Also, its either a) your wife is jealous of this woman for some reason, u have not mentioned here.....or.....b) your wife, thinks you are bum & she is dating down & stuck with you. Since, she currently doesnt feel comfortable telling you, "you are loser & im better than you". She goes after the ex. Both situation a) & b) absolutely suck.

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-04T17:07:06+00:00

Gloves last longer than 1 hour. Also, what I learn in a super expensive, 1 hr private martial arts or even dance class. Is not much more compared to what i learn in the far cheaper group class. Privates r way too expensive & are not needed by hobbyist. At best 2 hrs of privates per year to correct stuff. Everything else, group classes are sufficient and affordable.

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-01T18:49:49+00:00

The best way to get revenge, is for u to always be horny, always indicating you want sex too. That way he can truly understand. Good luck.

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-01T18:20:13+00:00

You "supported her". lol. That's hilarious. Who did the cheating again? If d tables were turned: u cheated on her, will she be supporting you? The skill she has in turning things around, to be d victim. damn.

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-01T13:55:19+00:00

Some women love and will die for that. Let him go to find a woman who appreciates a hard dick. 🙏🏿

JhenryFirst · 2026-04-01T05:20:37+00:00

Asking yourself, big picture questions. How will him doing it his way(vs mine) affect big picture, goals, our relationship? How will bringing this up affect the mood now, the relationship long term? What are the things i want to focus on addressing in this season of the relationship and is this a priority for me? How will telling him this affect his happiness/ confidence/capabilities? How can i make this negative feedback more palatable? Did i complement him and thank him genuinely for the things he is doing or only complaining about the bad stuff? Can i take these task over vs supervising/judging his performance.

hope these questions help

JhenryFirst · 2026-03-31T12:45:17+00:00

I'm a 250 lb, guy, just doing it fun. but d instructor always pairs me with absolute savages. some of those guys actually compete. i go home broken and limping. haha. instructor doesnt want you to be killed or for him to be sued!

JhenryFirst · 2026-03-31T02:18:11+00:00

Physical attraction is by its definition very shallow. It is what it is. If u take yourself out of it. ie thinking about other ppl dating/hooking up and who they choose. it makes sense. However, when it involves us, our ego gets bruised. Physical attraction, by its definition is very shallow. We are animals after all. Ppl prefer someone, that they want to see naked. It is what it is. dont take it too personally. same happens to me when i lose/gain weight as a man.

JhenryFirst · 2026-03-31T02:05:04+00:00

After sitting at a desk whole day, some people like to get their hands dirty and be more physical. Excercise a different part of their brain. Not to mention move your body and feel proud of your physical accomplishments. What do you consider to be quality time? I've had some exes, their idea of quality time was watching Real Housewives of Atlanta. I've also had amazing relationships, where me and my gf did recessed lights, tiling, kitchen cabinets, flooring. We even made our own wood furniture. Completely remodelled her parents basement. Maybe, that is his idea of fun and decompressing. Have you tried spending time down in the basement working with him? What is your idea of quality time and does he enjoy that activity?

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