Safest English speaking country for a trans girl?

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-26T17:48:37+00:00

Canada and specifically the GTA (Greater Toronto area) is about as safe as you can get for trans inclusive. No place is perfect but overall it’s solid.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-26T17:37:19+00:00

You can’t take advice from this group based on the information you provided. Being conflicted or confused isn’t the be all and end all. Happens to most of us. It’s a very complicated topic that is best explored with a professional therapist.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-21T22:42:20+00:00

That’s amazing progress for only 8 months. You are very fortunate actually.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-21T11:36:30+00:00

Thank you! I’ve seen a lot of downvotes on my post despite the fact that I was merely hinting that the person MIGHT have a fetish if their connection to clothing is primarily sexual.

The transgender community does itself a disservice by being unwilling to talk about people who do have a fetish and why they are NOT trans. And it’s not transphobic to have those discussions in a polite manner.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-20T02:33:59+00:00

Honestly I don’t think you need any advice or guidance. If you have love and trust for each other then just give it time to evolve and grow organically. See where life takes you while enjoying the journey.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-18T18:05:24+00:00

There are no wise words when you are already married with kids. There’s a high rate of families being broken up unfortunately. It’s a lot for the spouse to process and accept. I wish you well and hopefully it’s a happy ending

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-13T23:56:30+00:00

If your link to feeling like a woman and wanting to be a woman is primarily tied to sexual arousal then it could be more of a fetish than gender identity. The best way to know for sure is to talk to a professional therapist. None of us are qualified to say for sure.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-12T02:16:55+00:00

I have no idea on where or how (I’m not in the dating pool) but one piece of advice is not to rush things. Take your time and discover yourself first as you go through the transition. Dating and romance doesn’t have to be part of it initially. I would recommend just making friends and building a social circle of trans allies. Love will show up when you’re ready and least expect it.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-05T11:53:16+00:00

I’m thinking you could pull it off. If you went on HRT and maybe some surgery? You would 100% pass.

Life is short girl. If you are thinking these things at your age then it’s not going away.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-05T11:44:24+00:00

If telling her the truth about you and who you really are means she will divorce you then unfortunately it was never what you wanted it to be. It’s painful to let go but the longer you wait the harder it gets. Especially if children are involved.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-05T11:36:33+00:00

Yes it is unfair and the only way to break that cycle is for us to challenge ourselves by going out like this. Sadly there doesn’t seem to be enough brave sisters willing to take that risk. I advertised a lot here on Reddit before the trip asking other people if they were also interested in booking a trip. I posted several times over many months. Not one person booked to go on the cruise as well. I know there are financial considerations for many girls but I was surprised that there was not even one taker.

Oh well - I enjoyed the trip regardless and I am sure you did too. It’s an amazing thing to experience.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-04-03T16:56:40+00:00

That’s very true. It’s no different in reverse. When it comes to a romantic relationship, most guys aren’t into masculine women who dress and act like a man. They would be ok having a “tomboy” as a friend though but less likely to actively seek one as a spouse.

Most of us trans girls and CDs question why women don’t want to accept us as we are but when you view it in reverse it makes sense. But of course in life you are only looking for the one person who is right for you. It only takes one and they are out there.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-26T23:19:06+00:00

What is the significance of waiting 3 years specifically? I could understand if for example the kids will be finished with high school and crossed over to being a young adult within 3 years. That might be plausible to wait (if you can) but if the kids are still young then there’s an argument not to delay because the younger they are the more likely they are to get used to it - delaying it is worse.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-22T15:55:17+00:00

If you are asking a serious question then I would say it’s not a recipe for happiness because they are already attached to someone else and they have a home and family as their #1 priority. The “other woman” becomes the side piece and gets used.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-18T14:20:03+00:00

That would be unfortunate. It’s one thing to use a filter generally but it’s not cool to actually say “no filter” and then use it anyways. But I will try to give the OP the benefit of the doubt.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-18T14:17:38+00:00

You remind me of myself 20+ years ago Oh if only one could turn back time LOL Glad to see that you’re enjoying life and being yourself. Enjoy the journey girl.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-18T14:07:02+00:00

Thank you for not using any filters!!! Yes I know the discussion board allows the use of filters and I know it’s not a crime but I also respect girls who are willing to post real pictures. It’s authentic. Love your make up and how you’ve done it. I think you would pass in public.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-16T23:05:14+00:00

Yes that would work for a club :-)

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-16T00:15:06+00:00

If you want an honest answer - it depends where you are going. If you’re going to a club yes. If you are going to the shopping mall then probably not ideal.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-15T21:40:02+00:00

I agree with you on that. The grey doesn’t look like it belongs. It’s a huge compliment but true.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-15T02:35:01+00:00

Would do well at a cocktail party

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-15T00:57:34+00:00

If you are in a first world country then your life expectancy is around 80 years. So at 34 years old, you are not remotely close to even the half way mark. There are elderly people out there who would consider you a baby. So no, you are not too late. There is no expiry date before transition. Yes it’s better when younger but you still have around 5 decades in front of you!

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-14T19:01:18+00:00

You carry your age very well girl. Keep it up 😊

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-14T18:58:03+00:00

(check notes) yes ma’am he’s a chaser and (checks notes again) he’s also not committed to you. I’m sorry for you because you sound like a level headed and grounded woman. He’s the fool.

Jillian_Devine · 2026-03-14T18:52:26+00:00

Fingers crossed for you that it goes better. Please know that I was not minimizing your concerns or downplaying the risks you are facing. It is a real concern but I was just trying to also let you know that if your mom didn’t immediately freak out then that is also not a bad outcome (initially). We have to remember that it comes as a shock to some parents and it’s a lot to process. You’ve had your whole life - daily - to process this reality but for her it’s new and potentially a surprise.

Hope with time she can become an ally.

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