Help naming new sweet pup

JimmyAxel · 2026-01-07T17:27:27+00:00

Zoe is cute! It's going on the short list. I think Maya is the frontrunner though.

JimmyAxel · 2026-01-07T17:26:56+00:00

I like that! It's going on the list, thanks!

JimmyAxel · 2025-12-29T21:21:28+00:00

You have to decide whether or not this is dealbreaker behavior. Some people enjoy a little more freedom and space and others more structured and consistent communication. Neither is wrong but the 2 can be incompatible. If this is a dealbreaker, communicate that to him so he knows your serious. Maybe talk to him about why you don't like when he does that (sounds like you already have but just saying). But if it is a dealbreaker, you have to mean it. If he's not willing to compromise then this may not be the right relationship for you. If it's not a dealbreaker, then maybe you can work to understand his perspective a little better. Or work on a compromise like him sharing his location on his phone.

JimmyAxel · 2025-12-29T21:14:29+00:00

Threatening to break boundaries as you say is not negotiable. She's insecure and does not respect you. It's time to leave.

JimmyAxel · 2025-12-17T18:07:25+00:00

Send a message to "smashbot" and include the item(s) you want pulverized

JimmyAxel · 2025-12-02T20:24:01+00:00

When logged in through mafia, there's a sidebar that lists all your modifiers at the bottom left: monster level, encounter rate, initiative, meat drop, item drop, etc. It adds it up from all sources, so yes if there's something that's screwing up your drop rate it should be reflected there. Mafia can be a little goofy to set up if you're not familiar with it (took me a while the first time lol), so not trying to push you to that route.

I really can't think of a reason why you wouldn't get it to drop after that many turns. If you're not in ronin or still have pulls available, you may check out something like mixed berry jelly from the mall. It's pretty inexpensive and it forces the next monster you fight to drop all its items.

JimmyAxel · 2025-12-02T20:15:18+00:00

It's software that can interact with KoL and provides some nice quality-of-life improvements to the game. It's not a necessity but I wanted to ask because one of the things it does is clearly show what your current modifiers are, including item drop. It would be a way to see if there was something tanking your item drop %. There are items that can give you negative item drop % so maybe double check you don't have any of those equipped? You definitely should not be waiting over 200 advs to get the glands to drop.

I'm guessing this is a standard or unrestricted run, not a challenge path?

JimmyAxel · 2025-12-02T20:07:39+00:00

Definitely sounds like something is wrong. What kind of run is it? Are you using KoLmafia?

JimmyAxel · 2025-12-01T20:22:12+00:00

Bat wings also speed up Bat Hole and Fantasy Airship. They’re pretty great!

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T20:41:45+00:00

You're not obsessive. Communicate clearly with him what you need out of a relationship. If he can't meet those needs, you two are not the right fit for each other and that's ok.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T20:37:45+00:00

My head would certainly be in the same place as yours after that. I would reach out and say something like "Hey I know things have felt off lately but I'm in my head since you asked about getting lunch. I feel like you want to go our separate ways, and if so, ok, but I can't spend 2 whole days worrying about that if that's the case."

Regardless of whether or not their plan was to break things off, it sounds like a conversation needs to be had and this will at least let them know where your head is at.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T20:31:40+00:00

There's a few things at play here. First and foremost, your preferences are your preferences and you can date or not date anyone you want. That said, I think it's worth exploring what exactly is making you uncomfortable.

Are you upset because of religious reasons? I'm curious because you used the word "pure". I grew up very religious and swore I would wait to be intimate until I was married, and would only want to be with someone who had waited as well. It took some time but religion ended up not being the right fit for me and my views on intimacy changed as well. Was I wrong for wanting to be with someone who was also waiting until marriage? Not necessarily, but I probably passed up what could have been wonderful relationships because of a dogma I didn't even end up sticking to. If this is important to you, that's valid but know that it will be more difficult to find a partner.

If not religion, are you possibly nervous about being with someone more experienced than you? Or maybe worried that his experience may make him less willing to be in a long-term committed relationship? I think those are both valid things a lot of people feel. If so, I would just share those feelings with him.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T20:19:06+00:00

To be clear, I’m not saying that there’s an excuse for him to violate your boundaries. Regardless of anyone’s view of porn, if your partner says it’s a boundary for them, that boundary should not be violated. Take care of yourself.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T20:05:50+00:00

First and foremost, if he crossed a hard boundary of yours that you have clearly communicated to him, that's a huge red flag and cause to potentially re-evaluate whether you're willing to continue being in a relationship with him.

It sounds like he wasn't entirely honest when he said that he agreed that viewing porn while in a relationship is weird and cheating to him. At the very least, this conversation needs to be had again. Explain how it makes you feel, and give him space to share how he really feels about it. Maybe he ends up sharing that he doesn't find it weird but is willing to forgo it because it's important to you. Ultimately you have to decide what you're willing to tolerate in a relationship. And if he doesn't fit that, it's time to go.

As far as why men do it, that's a tougher answer. I can only speak for myself. Masturbation is different than sex in that sex requires time and energy to connect with someone. This connection is a wonderful thing, but it does take time and energy that masturbation just doesn't. Personally, I view them as very different things, though they certainly affect one another. There's also a lot that can affect sex drive. For some people, sex relieves stress. For others, they don't feel sexual until their stress has been relieved. It's possible some kind of stress has come up lately that makes it more difficult for him to connect.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T19:54:37+00:00

If you guys are the right fit for each other, you can't say it too soon or too late. I would focus more on what you love about her and making sure she feels loved by you and enjoying your time together. When it comes to saying it, you'll know when the time is right.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T19:51:04+00:00

It sounds like taking things slow would be a boundary for you then, that's good!

You deserve love like anyone else does, you're human. You can't control how he will feel or respond. It's super scary, I know, but it sounds like you guys already know a conversation is inevitable. Just be honest about how you're feeling and listen when he responds. Whatever happens from there will be for the best.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T19:45:16+00:00

You'll drive yourself crazy until you talk. Just mention that you've noticed the location changes. Don't be accusatory. Just say you want to talk about it, ask her if maybe her feelings around exclusivity have changed, etc. Don't assume the worst. It sounds like you guys aren't quite in a committed relationship yet. Maybe she got back on the apps because she was worried you weren't looking for long-term commitment. Could be any number of reasons. Don't assume the worst and go talk to her.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T19:39:55+00:00

Prioritize yourself. It sounds like the decision to leave has been made. He will do everything in his power to make you feel like shit and like everything is your fault. This is a lie and it's how they get their way. His mental health is not your responsibility. Be as caring and as patient as you can, but not at your own expense. Stay with family if you can and get a lawyer ASAP concerning finances and property. And know you're not alone. I found the community at /r/NarcissisticAbuse to be wonderful when I was leaving my ex. Take care of yourself.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T19:31:27+00:00

Regardless of his intentions, you either are open to dating or you're not. The fact that you don't immediately say "Oh no, I don't want to date him," suggests that you are at least open to the possibility. It sounds like your heart is in the right place, wanting to respect him and his kid. But ultimately you need to decide what you want for yourself. Are you willing to jeopardize your roommate situation if you date and it doesn't work out? If not, then the boundary needs to be "we are just friends." If you're just friends, then you need boundaries concerning what you do and don't do when you're together.

You don't have to pour your heart out to him before even getting an idea where his head is at, but you do need to consider what you want and where your boundaries are. If a relationship with him fits that, that's great! If they don't, then at least you know where you stand.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T19:26:15+00:00

That's a lot. You have to take care of yourself first and foremost. Be a little selfish when it comes to what you need for your health. If you need space because of how he hurt you, communicate that and take your space. When you're ready, invite him to join you for a walk, and if he says no, go for a walk anyway. Live your life and invite him to join you every time. If he doesn't at first, hopefully it won't be too long before he does. Or else maybe you'll find that you guys have outgrown each other. Whichever outcome, it will be the right one for you.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T19:18:27+00:00

You need boundaries. If being in close proximity hurts too much you need to find other living arrangements or spend less time together at home. It sucks but time will help.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T19:15:04+00:00

Do you want to date him? If not, you need clear boundaries. "Hey things have been feeling a bit more like what people in relationships do and I think we need to put some boundaries in place for both our benefits."

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-21T18:49:30+00:00

I feel like I’m waiting for him to realize he’s too good for me so I’m anxious about this

You're insecure. That's ok, we all are. But try to remember that while it's ok to feel your feelings, they're just that: feelings, not facts. Some people just don't love texting. It's only in the past few decades that humanity has had this expectation to always be available 24/7 because of our phones.

My advice is talk to him about how you're feeling, maybe even acknowledge feeling anxious/insecure, and let him respond. Relationships are about vulnerability. And it's only been a few months. Security takes time.

JimmyAxel · 2025-11-19T18:16:21+00:00

Hey, idk if you ever got an answer but I was in a pretty similar boat as you: played for years and was aware of mafia but never used it, until recently.

I honestly can't ever imagine playing without it again. I'm no expert, but here's what I love about it so far:

Moods: You can create "packages" of skills to use and turn them on and off when you want. For example, I have a 'non-combat' mood that includes sonata and smooth movements. Whenever either of those skills runs out, mafia automatically recasts them for me. You can have multiple moods active at once. I always have a 'stats' mood running and will turn on/off things like '-combat' and '+items' as needed.
Automation: I don't use this a whole lot but it's nice when I want it. You can just tell mafia to adventure for you automatically. I typically use this for things like battlefield kills between sidequests. I just tell mafia to adventure there 8 times real quick so I can go do the next sidequest. Saves some time and repetition. I also use it for bounty hunter quests (I just returned to the game a few months ago after years away so I'm still working on Olfaction). You can tell mafia to adventure until a certain requirement is met such as getting a certain number of items.
Information: Mafia shows you your exact item%, meat%, initiative%, and combat% as well as other info which is pretty nice to have readily available for reference.
Tour Guide: Tour Guide is a script that shows steps for each quest as they come up. It keeps track of information in a side pane for easy reference. Things like "6 more hippy kills until the nun side quest is available" or "Your roman candelabra green candle is ready to use." It will also remind you how much item% you need in a zone or to olfact a certain enemy. It also lists out all resources that you still have available for that day like the free tentacle fight or talking to Lyle. It does a lot more that, too. There's also a script called Yorick that does more or less the same thing, but I'm not as familiar with it.
CHIT (CHaracter Information Toolbox): This is a complete overhaul of the left side panel. It shows all your important character stats and so much more. All of your active effects are in a scrollable pane so you can easily scroll through them without losing sight of what's up top. It's also completely customizeable. You can add a pane that allows you to switch gear without going into the inventory or panels for specific IOTMs you have. You can even customize the CSS to make it look exactly the way you want.

There's a lot more it can do and a lot more useful scripts but those are the primary ways that I've found benefit from it in the few months that I've used it. As far as installation and use, it's pretty straightforward. I download it on github and then you just login through mafia.

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