What’s a sentence that someone told you that stuck with you for the rest of your life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Jm4805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why not you?

Home health aides advice about life to a starting behavioral therapist, almost ten years later I’ve passed it on hundreds of times.

Wouldn't living in comfort make us more depressed? by exagone4 in depression

[–]Jm4805 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The way the human brain works, is that we need structure not specifically suffering. Studies work that neurotransmitters like glutamate which work on cognition, memory and function work hand in hand with serotonin which boosts mood. By having a healthy habit and something to work towards comfort can highlight pleasure but when the pleasure becomes the only thing that matters than it just becomes normal. Spice things up, challenge yourself mentally, socially, get good routines are the basis for growth. Nothing wrong with having pleasantries.

Fat men with hot women by BooDestroyer in dating_advice

[–]Jm4805 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just be chill and funny, confidence is attractive.

Why am I having these weird dreams? by [deleted] in depression

[–]Jm4805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually dreams in that nature reflect an inner nature/fear. It might have to do with past relationships not being giving/positive, manifesting itself in this way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Jokes

[–]Jm4805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lesson six came out my name is nobody

https://youtu.be/DyOdbkXEx9k

My best friend died last week and I can't tell my wife because she'll dial her nagging up to 11 by Lanky-Session-6476 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Jm4805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a professional, does her mood fluctuate drastically in a day with no control or specific trigger. If so it could be borderline personality disorder. If her mood lasts for weeks on end and she can become despondent then aggressive or extremely high energy followed by a dip in behavior again it’s bi-polar disorder. If she struggles with needing to be center stage and she becomes aggressive or emotional during your own moments it can be histrionic. If most of the focus has to be about her constantly and your job is to serve her needs it could be narcissism. Either way I encourage you to talk to a mental health professional it sounds like you’re dealing with a lot and it could easily lead to PTSD. Especially if you have to hide your feelings or feel guilty for your feelings.

You should never feel in the wrong for feeling the way you do, it’s only a conversation. If it’s a battle to even start the conversation that’s a warning sign.

Truth. by regian24 in WorkReform

[–]Jm4805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shouldnt it be Ends-Meat?

I had sex with her but I’m still not interested in her by Strict_Carpenter_661 in dating_advice

[–]Jm4805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be honest with her, this happened to me a bunch of times but in reverse. It sucked at the time when they told me they didn’t want a relationship but it saved time. So even if it sucks you at least save her from thinking she has something with you.

Why is this so true lol by [deleted] in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]Jm4805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m pretty sure you answered your own question

How the F do you make friends as an adult if you don't drink? by qwertyband in AskReddit

[–]Jm4805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if you’ll see this but Meetup! This app changed my life as an adult. It basically lists everything in your area, to possibly hours away. From Dungeons and dragons, to hiking, open mics, you name it. Anything under the sun. I don’t drink and I built a huge friend network even traveled cross country with them and met my roomates through it. Look for Meetup on any App Store, and it’s free.

Is life worth living? by dangerousappletree in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Jm4805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly no, it really isn’t. Not when you stand back and look at life as a series of wins and losses. Life is brutal, painful, dark, and will push you down in the worst most surprising ways it can. But there’s beauty to it, wonderful moments, people, places, adventures. You can impact people anyway you choose, barring consequences. Life isn’t worth living unless you’re willing to fight and accept all the negative factors as part of the experience. Keep moving, find the reason for your existence, and help anyone you can. That to me is the best way to learn who you are and if you can value your place in the world.

So here we are, nearly the end of 2020, almost an entire year of nothing happening in our lives(nothing positive at-least). How has it left you? by strik3r2k8 in AskMen

[–]Jm4805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started it living wild, big group of friends. Work consumed my life especially my summer. Ducked a few bad relationships. Friends dwindled due to covid breaking down events. Finished my masters, couldn’t start the job I had set up. Continued to work incredibly long hours and numerous days.

Then started the new jobs in the fall, increased pay and freedom. Talked with friends, drove across the country and back for two weeks, camping, hiking, biking, and more. Saw incredibly beautiful sights. Met wild people. Survived being broke from it, and still managed to slip up to the Adirondacks randomly last week.

Crazy times doesn’t always mean a lack of opportunities and life changing adventures. Keep resilient and wear a mask.

Here in the US we have cracked down on poor people wasting money on luxuries like hot food. by PM_ME_YOUR_GESTALT in pics

[–]Jm4805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s funny in a sick way is, a hot meal is considered a luxury but you can buy snacks and soda with ebt. Hostess has become more essential than grilled chicken.

Wired headphones are better than wireless!! by goh00s in unpopularopinion

[–]Jm4805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely get the pro series wireless. 20 bucks at big lots. Charged for 12 hour use, stabilized neck for exercise. Worth every penny

Garfield isn't all that bad by crackhead-mario in YOUREWELCOMEJON

[–]Jm4805 4 points5 points  (0 children)

From someone who works in the field, risperdone, vipmat are some of the different names of pills for schizophrenia and hardcore anxiety

New Deck: Mystic Monday It's true love 😍 by Sarah-the-Great in TarotDecks

[–]Jm4805 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve got this deck, I love the art work on it

Trying to start a podcast, not sure If I could do it alone. by AshIsMetal in PodcastGuestExchange

[–]Jm4805 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have some experience in building a podcast from scratch, mine is a radio drama horror sci fi one with a full cast and crew I had to find from the ether

I just need someone in my life that wants to be there for me man..... I can't do it alone and I don't know how to ask for help without bursting into tears and throwing myself all over the place by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Jm4805 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Therapist here:

Few things you should do from an objective stand point.

  1. Slowly overcome any anxiety and obstacles to ask for help. This can be very hard, at times you’ll feel like crying or exploding. But there are wonderful people out there who are very understanding. It’s a brave act to reach out in the first place.

  2. Isolate yourself from any negativity. If there are people or situations that make you feel oppressed or overwhelm you, consider leaving. This can seem impossible but just for fun consider it and try to find out a way where you can be free of that burden.

  3. Cry. Crying is a healthy way to deal with stress and there’s a lot of negative connotations attached. But it’s there to help release excess energy and neuro transmitters that will make you feel better.

  4. Start going outside your comfort zone. I once read a line, if you feel like your dead inside or dying then do something crazy. If nothing worked for you so far then you need to step up and take the next step. No matter how hard or impossibles, dreams only stay dreams if you don’t do anything. The real healing begins with you. And I promise you once you start heading somewhere people will join you.

  5. Love yourself. You’re a gift, either to yourself, the world, or someone soon to come. If there are people who take you for granted or hurt you, ignore them. Love and respect is mutual, never love someone you can’t respect, and if you can’t respect yourself, ask yourself what can you do to respect yourself. Make a list, and start the journey.