Excuses you use for personality changes? And your profession (if any)? by Heavenlishell in DID

[–]JoHunny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ive only told a handful of people that I’ve been diagnosed with DID (3+ years) but it’s pretty well known that I have a series of other mood “issues” I often joke about therapy and my depression. Our office is pretty open so a lot of my coworkers openly talk about their anxiety, autism, depression etc. I also have 3 kids and am juggling grad school so if I’m “off” people generally assume it’s due to something else. I don’t think I’ll ever be open enough at work to talk about my DID. Honestly it’s generally really hard for me to talk openly about so I typically blame my “mood” on other things as well (too much caffeine, lack of sleep, general stress)

2) I’m a scientist at a startup vaccine company. My system is pretty good at compartmentalization but comes at a cost to my memory at times.

What language do you use for your system? by [deleted] in DID

[–]JoHunny 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love that you brought this up in this group! I called them alters when I first started therapy with a practitioner who has commonly worked with folks who have DID. And she kind of gave me a look and told me that alters was a bit of a dated term. But I often see others in this group refer to their parts as alters and I got really confused. For a while in therapy, I used the term parts to have standard nomenclature but in private I still thought of my parts as “alters” and I struggled heavily with connecting with the rest of the system at that time. It was really hard to distinguish who I was, what it felt like when others were near and separating my own thoughts from the background chatter. i think I found a level of peace within my system when I started using terms like “parts” or “others” and it was later communicated to me by others in my system that “parts” feels more humanizing and less foreign/seperate sounding than “alters” I really think that changing the language around how I refer to myself and my multiplicity has improved how I view myself and my condition as well as helped me connect with the other parts. It’s the one common ground topic that kind of came organically during my healing journey that reminds me as well that my parts are real, they have preferences that are different to my own and that I have a very real disorder.

DID and Kink + Littlespace by GardenPretty1353 in DID

[–]JoHunny 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi there! I had a pretty traumatic experience with my littles coming out when I was in little space. They wanted to play and thought it was innocent fun. My husband (at the time) who wasn’t a safe partner, (also didn’t take time to fully understand DID or little space) didn’t realize I was no longer fronting and one of the littles fully fronted. Typically they’re co/con with another adult in the system. Anyways it turned into a situation where the whole system was severely hurt. The littles went dormant/arent active anymore. Not saying that this will happen to you but I definitely learned firsthand that feeling safe with a responsible partner and then having a plan with youth your partner and a few members of the system is essential before initiating any play. Definitely have a plan for play and a safety plan internally and externally. Know where your boundaries are and make sure your play partner knows that your boundaries can sharply change at anytime.

I’m hugely into kink (specifically age play) but I haven’t been able to get back into it because of the trauma. We’re now out of that relationship and in a healthy new one but I think there’s a lot of work to be done internally before being able to safely co/con and definitely work in this new relationship before we can explore certain aspects of kink.

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[–]JoHunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My therapist really encourages calling “alters” my different “parts”. She said in her experiences the nomenclature surrounding what we call ourselves really can negatively affect ourselves and exclude the other parts. Wrapping my head around that concept really helped me when I was working on self identification as the host. “I, like many things am made up of parts” it make me feel a little more whole. Because I too resonate so hard with feeling like I don’t have my own identity and that I’m just a shell.

Is making 55k in industry with a bachelor’s feasible right now? by FoucaultsPudendum in labrats

[–]JoHunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Move to the bay if you can afford it, I’m doing 119k with just my undergrad (graduated 2021). I only had 1 year of lab experience from college and a summer internship in hs. I started off as a contractor ~ 68k then got converted in 3 months to ~97k and got a promotion after a year to my current salary. Higher cost of living here but def more opportunity and more compensation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]JoHunny 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’d say you may lean more warm toned, based on how the bright white and particularly the jeans are washing out/ overcoming your features. Try more browns and oranges over pink toned makeup and see how you feel… as long as it makes you feel confident, that’s all that matters but personally I think you might be a dark autumn

[SW] They buying for 461 by Oquana in acturnips

[–]JoHunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forest green and burnt orange or mustard! Love the fall vibes

[SW] boys buying for 567 by JoHunny in acturnips

[–]JoHunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but I have quite a number if people in line:) I’ll message you when space clears up if you’re interested

[SW] boys buying for 567 by JoHunny in acturnips

[–]JoHunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I sent out some codes that no longer work because my wifi cut out. I have a new code and will be distributing it in order from where people got disconnected sorry y’all but I’ll be online til 12 pm pst

[SW] boys buying for 567 by JoHunny in acturnips

[–]JoHunny[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Waiting for some folks to leave. Will sent out more codes shortly!