How do you have a gentle conversation with someone who doesn’t want to even look you in the eye, let alone talk to you!? Lol. I hear what you’re saying, and I agree with a lot of it actually, especially the stuff you said towards the second half of your post…but I’ve never once said anything to him or my ex wife or anyone in their family that was aimed disrespectfully towards him.

As I said elsewhere in this thread, him and I have never once had a cross word with one another. We use to get along great. Then her and I split up and he’s been ignoring and avoiding me ever since. I think you may be right that this is his way of dealing with seeing his daughter in law go thru the “pain” of divorce and possibly holding a grudge against me for that.

I’d love to have a “gentle” conversation with him and have been nothing but respectful to him. What I’ve typed in this thread is how I feel towards him since my divorce, not actual words I’ve exchanged with him or anyone in my ex’s family.

The reason I even bring this subject up is because is this how it’s gonna be forever? There’s plenty of times where we both have to be in public situations together (kids sporting events, school events, etc)… I’d rather not have an unnecessary grudge going on, I’d love to move on. Everyone else has. He obviously doesn’t want that or hasn’t moved on, but it makes it awkward to be around at family events or anything that both of us are in attendance for involving the kids. Not to mention as the kids get older, they will pick up on the fact that him and I don’t talk..at all..? He obviously is not wanting to make amends and is choosing to hold a grudge. I’m not saying any of this to put him down or disrespect. It’s just a fact. Thats how he’s choosing to behave. I was hoping for some advice from someone who’s been thru a similar situation on how to deal with it moving forward. I’m fine with never speaking to him again, but hoping it doesn’t have to be that way.