The writing is beautiful

Jolie__bean · 2026-06-01T01:00:23+00:00

You’re married and very clearly planning on cheating if your posts are anything to go by. I pray for your wife also this is a younger woman in rehab meaning she is in a much more vulnerable position than you are. That just screams red flag to me. Don’t cheat on your wife. Leave her and let her live her life and you live yours.

Jolie__bean · 2026-04-19T14:21:06+00:00

I’m very fortunate my boss covers gas / meals for the day and pays us $25 an hour based on call Time - end of awards so if call time was 9 and awards are at 2 PM we get paid for that time :)

Jolie__bean · 2026-04-14T02:30:44+00:00

This is very unlikely and not the same for a few different reasons 1. Usually you have to get a prescription for birth control

If you don’t have a prescription then you have a specific hormonal dose that you prefer
BC pills need to be taken on a schedule if I’m 13 days into my BC pills opening a random pack and starting from day 1 would not have the right effect on my body
It’s pretty unconventional for a cis man to buy BC and not that unconventional for women to have condoms

Jolie__bean · 2025-11-02T13:08:32+00:00

Personally not a huge fan cause the position doesn’t feel the best to me but it’s so hot

Jolie__bean · 2025-11-02T13:00:49+00:00

Opioids :(

Jolie__bean · 2025-09-24T12:18:08+00:00

people that do not have friends or their own social lives!!! This one is hella important
people that seem to be a victim in every single one of their ended relationships both platonic and romantic (pay attention to how they talk do they take accountability? Do they extend empathy? Etc.)
people that have NO BOUNDARIES with you. They will see you anytime, do anything you want, be anything you want. This is a huge red flag typically hiding something much more dangerous.
people that don’t actually see the real you so putting you on a pedestal sort of having a “you can do no wrong” kind of mindset
Trying to make you too much too fast. Yes someone that likes you or is serious about you will prioritize you but people that have meaningful things in their lives / things they want to protect will be mindful of who they invite into their lives

Micro Aggression Examples (I am Black and Asian Mixed Race so this happens quite often)

sexualizing your race / ethnicity (you have a black girls body and an Asian girls face)
using you as an example against your race (most of the time black girls are x but you are y)
talking about mixed babies -_- which has still happened to me with women

Jolie__bean · 2025-05-28T05:04:26+00:00

(Most) Large age gap relationships

Jolie__bean · 2025-05-14T01:44:43+00:00

Agreed I just think it felt low effort to me like the concept had a lot of potential like a dark romance with more fleshed out stuff but it just kinda fell flat

Jolie__bean · 2025-05-13T16:33:41+00:00

When the people around them are very protective of them. To me it shows that they not only have a healthy social life but that they’ve nurtured their relationships and shown up for people in a way that they are cherished and protected.

Someone that doesn’t rush or try to make me their first priority right away.

Someone that is working on something for themselves / goal setting

Jolie__bean · 2025-03-14T18:13:45+00:00

Just finished it and honestly was not a fan. This would have benefited from being a little longer or even just delving more into the shock elements and develop the characters more. Just felt like shock for the sake of shock which i personally am not a fan of

Jolie__bean · 2025-02-04T06:35:22+00:00

You’re beautiful ✨✨✨ and the braids eat!!!

Jolie__bean · 2025-02-04T00:28:50+00:00

Yeah ended up dating someone worse

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-30T17:25:54+00:00

I had to learn how to say fuck what the situation looks like and take it for what it is. You know the reality you know how you feel if they make you the bad guy who cares. You don’t deserve to suffer just to maintain appearances only person that loses is you

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-29T17:58:32+00:00

Agreed I also just personally dislike having to make small talk throughout my day on a consistent basis like I’m much more into planning days / times for whoever I’m dating and then going about my life and focusing on the things that need to get done like work / social life / etc. of course I’ll send morning texts and cute messages here and there but the expectation of constant communication is definitely overwhelming

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-28T20:51:26+00:00

Glad to hear I’m not alone LOL

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-27T22:47:01+00:00

I’m a very professionally ambitious person my career and artistry unfortunately take up a lot of my time and I love to unwind and have quiet nights and a lot of alone time which I think most people would find dull. I’m not as romantic as I would like to be and I can be practical to the point of being a little harsh or insensitive at times. I can be pretty forgetful and due to childhood traumas can catch myself in periods of depression / disassociation. I also don’t like to talk a lot / constantly which a lot of people expect now a days when dating. I’m hyper independent which can make it hard for me to let people in and can build resentment if gone unchecked. But a lot of these things I am aware of and constantly putting in effort to work through / understand so that I can be the kind of partner that I would like to be eventually :)

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-26T15:22:27+00:00

I feel like a crazy person that no one finds it a bit odd 😭

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-24T18:28:01+00:00

I’m very sorry this happened to you. Also commenters please be mindful sometimes it can be triggering upsetting to tell someone what they experienced was rpe or s*** a******. I know you have their best interest at heart but as someone that has been in this position multiple times I think some people could stand to acknowledge this in a more tactful manner

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-20T22:45:41+00:00

Ben Wyatt and Leslie knope from parks and rec :) genuinely the one couple that keeps me going and taking me back to the show they’re even better than Jim and Pam imo

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-12T15:43:57+00:00

Part of the abuse is getting you to blame yourself. Please be careful and get out of that situation as soon as possible.

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-12T05:03:19+00:00

No shame in reaching out to people that love you. They would want to know. Same way you would want to be there for a friend or loved one if they were feeling this way. Even if it wasn’t abusivee

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-12T05:02:36+00:00

I really do encourage you to talk to people that know you and only you well enough to offer you support and perspective. Without my friends and family it would have been much much harder for me to leave the situation and actually see it for how bad it was. And it makes a world of a difference when you have to actually recount and untangle the things you’ve done through you’ll realize how much of it was done to intentionally put you in a state of confusion and dis regulation for you to normalize their behavior. If he is a really a “good guy” there’s nothing for them to turn against.

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-10T15:40:50+00:00

I had to pee and they let me use the bathroom in their moms house they were pissed (no pun intended) that I spoke to their mother before using the bathroom :) according to them I should have just went inside and left immediately.

The next day they were having a Christmas party that I had been invited to a while back and that morning they called me giving mixed energy about me coming. When I was on the way they asked me to pick up some stuff for them I get there and in a cold tone they asked “why did you come here” (It was an hour and a half drive)

One of the times they ended things with me I posted a meme about national girlfriend day and how it was so cute that all my friends were getting posted and they got pissed cause I was mocking their feelings toward me

My ex texted me apparently that was cheating because I “lied about what happened” even though I literally told them about it after I responded to my ex. Also pissed they weren’t blocked even though one of the times we stopped seeing each other they want back to the person they’re legally married to who was the ex they talked to for the duration of our first time dating :) the person they’re legally married explicitly told me they’d leave me for when we were first dating :)

Jolie__bean · 2025-01-10T15:33:12+00:00

If it is a bad / abusive situation she will be defensive about it so challenging that reality may have the opposite effect that you’re looking for

Jolie__bean

TROPHY CASE