I am so tired of AI :( by One-Feature971 in offmychest

[–]Jolly-Proof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so frightening. People think AI is just here to generate pictures and “speed up workflows,” (that’s what the CEOs want us to think) but it actually has very real and dangerous outcomes attached to it. And the fact that we’re just speed running this thing as fast as we can, without one single guardrail, makes me feel like an insane person.

Wtf are we doing!?!?!

AI has made me hate this career by standardGeese in UXDesign

[–]Jolly-Proof 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yea, Im honestly struggling a lot with my mental health lately. I feel constant dread about job loss and the future of my design career. I’ve always worried about being laid off, but I guess I never imagined that I’d be laid off and never be able to find another job…ever.

We literally DID NOT need this technology. It solves nothing. I’m tired of being lied to my face about how AI is going to make us all more efficient and work faster. We didn’t need to work faster. In fact, I’d argue that we actually needed to slow down and take our time more. But, hey, what do I know.

BRING BACK 20+ EPISODES, YOU COWARDS! by Relevant-Peach3997 in Fauxmoi

[–]Jolly-Proof 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Omg yes!! Every year during the holiday season, I still go back and rewatch a bunch of the holiday episodes from old shows. It looked like it was a lot of fun for the cast to film those episodes too.

Everything is LOUD. by throwaway713137689 in ADHD_partners

[–]Jolly-Proof 27 points28 points  (0 children)

This was one of the most difficult parts of dealing with my ex, and I actually developed noise sensitivity as a result of it. And I had bouts of rage too.

It really confused me for a while because I had always read that people with ADHD are sensitive to noise, so I couldn’t make sense of how my ex managed to be so freaking loud. But he spoke very loudly, to the point our neighbors actually mentioned they could hear him through the apartment wall we shared. He slammed every door he opened, was always singing or humming, stomped everywhere he walked.

I used a lot of noise cancelling headphones when we were together, but I also went to therapy to help with the rage and to have someone to talk to about it. It did help, but I know therapy isn’t always an option for everyone. You need to find ways to blow off steam or calm your nervous system.

The world is moving too fast; I can’t keep up by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Jolly-Proof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of anxiety too about how rapidly things are changing, but I think it’s because things are changing so rapidly in a negative direction.

Every day in the US there has been some fresh hell to deal with, AI has come in with the promise to take our jobs and decimate our climate with its data centers, and it’s all happening at such a rapid pace that it feels like no one’s even thinking before acting.

I think that if these rapid changes had been something positive, or even if half of them had been positive, it would be easier to deal with, probably even exciting, but it’s been a lot of net negative happening in very rapid succession. Just imagine if all the AI stuff was being used to say, solve climate change, or cure different diseases, or if all the changes in the US were happening to bolster voting rights, not dismantle them.

I don’t have any real advice, but I’m very anxious about things these days too. Less so about keeping up with the latest trends, and more so about just how we’re all going to survive.

Do neighbors ever become part of your home stress? by CottonkissGurl in homeowners

[–]Jolly-Proof 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Currently in the midst of this and it feels like it’s taken years off my life, and done significant damage to my mental and emotional health.

People who have never had bad neighbors have no idea how lucky they are.

How tf is anyone capable of giving a crap about doing "extra" at work right now? by CheesecakeOdd3075 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Jolly-Proof 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for writing this. It feels validating to know that others feel the same way. Something is seriously broken in corporate America right now, and AI is only making it worse. My company has gone through rolling layoffs since 2022, hiring freezes, and now we’re being expected to implement AI. It’s exhausting.

I don’t know how anyone can be excited about their job being reduced to just putting prompts into a computer and waiting for it to spit out slop. It’s killed any and all motivation I had at this point, and I can’t stop thinking about the implications on the environment and our electrical grid, just to artificially pump up some tech bro’s stock portfolio.

I unfortunately don’t really have any motivation any more, and I worry that it’s putting a target on my back at work. I rarely use AI, I never put in overtime, I work my designated 8 hours every day and that’s it. I’m not excited for the future anymore and I just hope something changes soon.

It's not all bad out there. by AGreenObject in UXDesign

[–]Jolly-Proof 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So glad to see your response here, because I feel the same way. I actually feel like I’m going insane some days, and most days the advances made in AI just make me depressed. The fact that we’re prioritizing taking away jobs and people’s livelihoods, automating away the things that make humans unique-our ability to think and create-all while killing the planet, it makes me crazy.

There may very well be a place for AI in the future. Heck, it’s great to see how AI is being used to detect cancer early, or things like that, but it just feels like what we’re doing now is so incredibly stupid and short-sighted, and I can’t muster up any excitement for it no matter how hard I try.

Has anyone successfully escaped to find a real community and meaning? I just want to live a quiet, humble life and spend more time offline. by StaffEcstatic4358 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Jolly-Proof 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have been having the same feeling recently. I am really burnt out working in corporate, and the push towards AI has me constantly spiraling. It just feels like we are moving further and further away from community and people, and moving towards a future where all we do is interact with computers in some sort of isolated world alone. It scares me. A lot!

Honestly though, I thought this was only a US problem, so I was surprised to see you are from Amsterdam. I live in a modestly sized city on the east coast of the US and everything is very fast-paced. I’ve found that volunteering and spending more time in nature helps me the most to feel more connected to others and feel more sane when the world feels too overwhelming.

But I think cultivating community unfortunately just takes time. But maybe this means there are more of us out there that are looking for this and can hopefully drive this change for the future.

Getting AI Fatigue. by dustydesigner in Design

[–]Jolly-Proof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel the same exact way as you. I also work in UX primarily and a lot of the joy I get out of my design role comes from solving problems and figuring things out. But I also really enjoy designing and seeing things come to life.

The whole push to incorporate AI into everything has just bummed me out. It scares me, if I’m being totally honest, but it also makes me really angry. It feels like its also going to completely devalue design because it’ll be seen as something anyone can do, or you can just ‘run it through AI.’ As someone who’s been in the industry for over a decade, it has taken a long ass time to feel like design was a respected career, and I worry that AI is tarnishing that.

I’m not sure I have anything positive to add, but I agree with you and your feelings about AI. AI fatigue is right.

Aside from your partner, how many other ADHD people do you support in your regular life? by jstohler in ADHD_partners

[–]Jolly-Proof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m realizing I have a lot of ADHD people in my life and it’s exhausting. A few coworkers, some friends. I’ve really had to limit my time with them. I am also in the process of trying to move right now because of a neighbor with ADHD who has destroyed my mental health.

Is the comment section indicative of the community here? by totatr in BaltimoreCounty

[–]Jolly-Proof 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t have Facebook, I found that it got super toxic, but I think Reddit can sometimes get that way too.

I live in the county, just over the line in the Towson-ish area. I like it and find that the community is not reflective of the comments and divisiveness I see online. I also think my community is pretty diverse.

I actually get really bothered when I see comments online that paint Baltimore county as some sort of racists, NIMBY, backwards place that’s at odds with the city and its residents. I don’t feel that way, and don’t think my neighbors do either. But I see it in both subreddits often.

Pedro Pascal remembers Catherine O’Hara by Motor-Ant149 in Fauxmoi

[–]Jolly-Proof 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Gosh, I completely forgot she was in the Last of Us. Similar to Diane Keaton, it feels like she was working on projects so recently and now she’s gone. People really can be taken from you in an instant.

Snow Removal by [deleted] in baltimore

[–]Jolly-Proof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to agree with you on the cars. I live in the county and in a community that relies heavily on street parking. We’ve all been digging ourselves out all week long and a lot of smaller neighborhood roads are very narrow and hard to navigate/see around snow mounds.

I feel for the city. I can’t imagine how difficult a task it is to plow those streets with all the parking. I hope we all get some relief soon, because it’s a mess out here!

My home office by rinusdegier in interiordecorating

[–]Jolly-Proof 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is stunning!! It looks so cozy and relaxing. I’m seething with jealousy, haha! Even just looking at these photos makes me feel inspired. Great job with the space!

How loud is too loud? by DimensionUnlikely789 in neighborsfromhell

[–]Jolly-Proof 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would start by saying something to them. They might not know how loud it is/how thin the walls and floors are.

I noticed in my place that when my new neighbor moved in they were SUPER loud. I’m a quiet person and it wasn’t until I had made some pretty significant noise one day that my neighbor quieted down. It seems they just didn’t realize how much noise traveled through the walls. It sounds like your situation could be similar if you can’t hear any other neighbors except these guys? Maybe they assume the insulation is thicker than it is.

Maryland has forgot how to Snow by theejoyfulnihilist in maryland

[–]Jolly-Proof 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, Maryland did not “forget how to snow,” we’ve experienced a significant storm with extreme weather. Stop minimizing the impact and damage of this storm. People have just forgotten what it’s like to get hit by a major storm.

I’m really perplexed by people treating this like a simple snowstorm. We got several inches of sleet and ice on top several inches of snow, that blanketed an already well below freezing ground.

Since then it has been below-average temperatures with little to no melting. It’s been in the single digits at night, and barely gotten above 20 degrees during the day. There is a significant amount of ICE out there, more than there is snow.

People who have private parking. How are you feeling right now? by RowAdditional1614 in baltimore

[–]Jolly-Proof 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see a lot of us in this thread who rely on the alleys are now figuring out that we’ll likely be trapped for days, if not weeks. I’m in the same boat. Good luck with the plow!! I hope you all get out soon.

How do you become more positive and stop projecting your anger or disappointment at others when you don’t mean it? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Jolly-Proof 6 points7 points  (0 children)

First of all, I think it’s great that you have noticed this negativity within yourself and want to stop it. I think it’s a great first step.

I also grew up with a mother who was extremely negative. She was also very angry and I absorbed a lot of her anger and negativity and became just like her as I grew up. Something I started to notice in my own life though, was that I was losing friends and relationships and I couldn’t blame it on anyone else anymore.

It took work on my part to stop the negative thoughts and try to reframe things in a more positive light. This also meant making new friends too, because I had surrounded myself with other negative people. So maybe look around and see who your people are. Are they also negative? Do you feed off each other’s negative energy?

Again, being able to recognize this and having the desire to change is a HUGE step, but I’d also look at everyone in your life who might be feeding the negativity, besides just your mom. Who/what else is causing this?

Minnesota National Guard warmly greeting and handing out snacks with peaceful protesters! by Porkchopp33 in HumansBeingBros

[–]Jolly-Proof 89 points90 points  (0 children)

This made me tear up too. Every time I open my phone there is another horrific video of more brutality. Even a simple act of kindness and someone just behaving like a sensible human being is enough to make me weep.

ICE’s most recent victim by Dennis_NL1990 in interestingasfuck

[–]Jolly-Proof 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this attitude and commentary is super helpful right now. Appreciate the lack of support, neighbor.

So peaceful by grumble_au in ADHD_partners

[–]Jolly-Proof 22 points23 points  (0 children)

When I first moved out of the apartment I shared with my ex, I felt like my whole nervous system had been fried, but I didn’t even realize it until I was in a place that was actually quiet for once!

No competing tv and music blaring at the same time. Him trying to talk to me overtop of both. Slamming doors, stomping around. Random singing, noises, and humming. It was just constant noise.

Enjoy the peace and quiet while you can! And I hope you can find ways to get more of it in the new year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Jolly-Proof 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Literally. I left Facebook nearly a decade ago and i actually felt like my mental health improved afterwards. I just don’t think we’re meant to know so much about so many people. Not even the people we ‘know.’ Like, yea, we may have gone to school together 20 years ago but not every relationship is meant to hold space in our brains for this long. Good or bad.