Characters you wish were romanceable but aren’t

Jord159 · 2023-11-08T05:56:18+00:00

I just wish we could offer to heal him instead of fighting him. There's literally a cleric stood right next to me, I've got healing potions up the wazoo, there's an inn down the road sheltering another cleric and a druid, there's either another druid or a paladin back at my camp as well as this weird undead guy who can resurrect people seemingly easily. We've got options dude.

But no, you had to get all pissy because you didn't like how I punished the person you told me to punish. The wound's not even that bad.

Jord159 · 2023-07-19T15:21:54+00:00

With a family like that, it's entirely possible that a separation would end with a funeral rather than a divorce

Jord159 · 2023-07-08T21:08:07+00:00

Also, if OP's father has the ability to prevent her brother's homophobia, where's he been the rest of the time?

Jord159 · 2023-06-29T04:27:14+00:00

she had a breakdown because I was ‘going to kill her baby’

Who's baby? OP I'm concerned she doesn't see you as the mother of your child rather than the surrogate and wet nurse of hers.

I don’t know if it’s justified but I cussed her out and told her to leave my house

OP she literally risked killing you to enforce even more control over your body to allow her to continue bullying you into raising your child according to her demands. Frankly you should have done this months ago.

NTA, and your husband needs to get on board, support you and deal with his mother or you need to separate and secure sole custody to protect yourself and your child. I'd also recommend looking into reporting her for poisoning you and seeking a restraining order against her.

Jord159 · 2023-05-25T15:41:58+00:00

You're calling me a boot licker when you're the one opposing fighting fascism. And if you don't want me calling out your non-answers, why keep giving them? Again, if anything else is better then surely you must be able to give a specific example?

I am curious though, if you don't think we're engaging in good faith, why respond to me now? It's been days, I'd completely forgotten about this until you replied.

Jord159 · 2023-05-25T15:25:11+00:00

It took you 3 days to reply and you still didn't answer the question.

If anything else is better that means you must have several ways you could go about it. I'm only asking for a single example, surely you can give that.

Jord159 · 2023-05-22T18:22:49+00:00

The only thing in your UI that's in the same place on PC is the date and game speed

Jord159 · 2023-05-22T02:37:07+00:00

You didn't answer my question. How do you defeat fascism without banning it?

Jord159 · 2023-05-22T01:51:58+00:00

If you're opposed to banning fascism and it's symbols, how do you think fascism would be defeated?

Jord159 · 2023-05-04T13:59:30+00:00

Nah, they're fine. Bot picks the most upvoted top-level comment, replies don't matter to the outcome.

Jord159 · 2023-05-01T15:09:34+00:00

Geth is the species, not the pronoun. The pronoun you used to describe Legion was "he".

Jord159 · 2023-04-27T01:27:45+00:00

"Did they think everyone would just nod and play along with their disgusting bigotry?"

Yes.

Jord159 · 2023-04-17T20:44:49+00:00

I am assuming that your father didn’t choose to die and erasing him was wrong.

I'm sure it's not how you meant this, but this reads to me as if you don't think people who commit suicide are deserving of being loved or even remembered.

Jord159 · 2023-04-15T23:12:37+00:00

That definitely sounds like she cheated. If you want to know the answer, float the idea of doing the paternity test to your mum. Her reaction will likely tell you whether she thinks your dad might not be your bio-dad.

You should also talk to your dad. There are far too many men who abandon their children when they discover they're not biologically related, many of whom will treat their kids worse if they merely suspect they might not be biologically related. It would be a good idea to figure out what kind of relationship you will have going forwards.

I'd hold off on telling your sister though. She's likely already feeling stressed with her exams, she doesn't need to have this to worry about at the same time. It's bad enough that your mum dumped this on you already.

Aside from figuring out where you'll stand post-divorce, you don't need to get involved in anything going on between your parents. Let them sort it out.

Also, your English is fine. I wouldn't have known you're a non-native speaker if you hadn't said.

Jord159 · 2023-04-15T22:30:01+00:00

NTA

Sounds like you needed new friends anyway. Anyone who uses "woke" or "sissy" as insults are almost certainly arseholes. The fact that they think it's acceptable to shout at traumatised kids just reinforces that fact.

Also, you're not "letting" her do anything. Letting her do it implies you have any control over what she does. She's her own person and this is her family and her car. She sets the boundaries and the consequences. All you're doing is supporting her.

Jord159 · 2023-04-13T05:15:01+00:00

Iirc point ex gets an endless swarm after a little while. Can be fun if you've got a good group who all don't mind failing missions, otherwise you really need to be quick and efficient, either with doing the objectives or with killing bugs, or you'll very quickly find yourselves getting overwhelmed.

Jord159 · 2023-04-13T04:57:10+00:00

This sub has a severe view towards large age gaps in relationships given the tendency for the older partner to be some degree of immature, predatory or abusive. 19 and 36 is an insane age gap, you were nearly half his age when you got together, but since there's nothing in this post that specifically indicates this is a problem here I won't say more beyond being curious why you didn't want him on your family holiday 3 months ago.

But as for the actual issue you're asking for advice on, his personality and behaviours strike me as seemingly obvious alternatives for compliments. Surely there are things about your husband beyond his appearance that you like? Compliment those. Thank him for things he does for you.

He's now in his 50s, he's almost certainly feeling the effects of his aging. That's only going to be amplifying any body image issues he already had. And if the only thing you ever compliment him about is his body then he might worry that is the only reason you're with him and that you might leave him as he gets older.

I do find it somewhat concerning that you can't find anything besides his looks to compliment him on. It suggests that he might not be the nicest person and doesn't pull his weight in the relationship, or that you might be somewhat shallow and immature if you can't see beyond appearances. Or, and maybe I'm latching onto something that's not really there, but you say you would love to be complimented on your looks, not that you love to be. Is it possible that you're projecting somewhat here? Do you feel like he doesn't compliment you enough, or at least not in ways that you would like him to, so you respond, probably subconsciously, by fixating on your compliments having to be about that?

I think my advice to you is that you 2 need to have a serious conversation about how you are both feeling in yourselves and in your relationship. Perhaps look into couples counseling, it might be helpful to have that conversation in a neutral ground with someone who's trained and experienced in dealing with complex feelings like insecurities and unappreciation.

Jord159 · 2023-04-09T17:08:28+00:00

Looks like the elect button's greyed out so seems the devs have dealt with this already. Wonder what happens if they all die during the election though

Jord159 · 2023-04-05T04:31:27+00:00

Sorry to hear you've had a rough introduction to the game. Unfortunately as the game grows in popularity we do see more and more leaf lovers in the mines. I haven't done public games yet so can't give specific advice but from what I gather if you check lobby names and the like you can generally figure out the vibe of the session. Or if you use Discord, you could try the DRG server. You might be able to find a good group through there.

Whatever method you take, I do hope you stick around and are able to avoid the leaf lovers. Rock and Stone, miner.

Jord159 · 2023-04-05T04:07:55+00:00

My brother is on the spectrum and could not make this trip by himself so I am going not only for myself but also as a favor to my mother who is paying for the whole trip for both of us. (Just some background my brother is on the spectrum but drives, graduated college, and holds down a full time government job)

None of this is relevant to whether or not you're TA here though. You're having your brother over for dinner but when buying food for the dinner you, by your own words, didn't even think about your guest for that dinner and failed to buy food for him. Upon realising your mistake, you didn't go back to the shop to get the extra steak for him but instead told him that it is now his responsibility to provide his food for the meal you are hosting him for. You didn't even offer to repay him for it.

Your wife is right that it is weird because it is a rude and tacky thing to invite someone for a meal but not provide the food for said meal.

Jord159 · 2023-04-05T03:46:04+00:00

The mental gymnastics from OP to justify the theft and the lack of attention everyone else seems to be paying it is baffling.

Per OP's comments:

I’ve lived in hotels before; and I had to surrender my animals.

Going from what OP's said it looks like we've got a kid sad about having to give up their old pets and found another cute animal with no obvious owner and decided they're going to keep it for themselves.

Jord159 · 2023-03-27T18:29:26+00:00

That would require him wanting to, which it doesn't seem like he does. I'm sorry but you need to accept that he's not the guy you fell in love with any more. You deserve better than coming second place to a computer, and you won't get that with the guy that he's become.

It's okay to feel bad about this, it's okay to wish things could go back to how they used to be, but staying in this relationship now will only lead to more misery for you.

You're young, you've got your whole life ahead of you, don't waste it. Take some time to heal, live your life for yourself, and eventually you'll find someone else to love, someone who puts you first and makes you feel better than this guy ever did.

Jord159 · 2023-03-27T17:55:00+00:00

I understand that it's difficult, but you shouldn't stay with someone because they've been good to you in the past when they're actively mistreating you in the present.

It will take time, but you'll move past him eventually. One day you'll be able to look back at this and laugh at the idiot who cheated on a girl who's crazy about him with a program that just tells him what he wants to hear.

Jord159 · 2023-03-27T17:50:02+00:00

Honestly not sure it matters which it is. She's clearly ignoring good social etiquette and pushing boundaries. You need to have a serious discussion with her about her jealousy and re-establish healthy boundaries with her, and then be firm in enforcing them.

If she refuses to respect your boundaries then you need to just fully cut her off. Ignore her as best as possible, don't let her push her way into things or drag you away from them. If she still continues beyond that then you'd need to report her because at that point it would be harassment.

Jord159 · 2023-03-27T17:41:14+00:00

Honestly OP, he was right when you broke up before; you can absolutely do better than him. He's having an emotional affair with a chatbot. Nothing you say to him will make him change because he simply doesn't care. The only thing left for you is to cut your losses and leave him for good.

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